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shaddy (f)
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we knew each other before i left naija and we still continue our relationship.its really hard but we call each other everyday, chat and txt.
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Z4M4eva (f)
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That's nice  |
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casper (m)
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shaddy notin dey happen we dey the same program and i wish us the best ...............ONE LOVE
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ocho (f)
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@shaddy, all the best girl. nothing dey happen  |
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Greatpeter (m)
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It might work and might not work.
It's fifty - fifty.
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shaddy (f)
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Thanks a lot 2 everybody that wish me well.To greatpeter, i knw my relationship will surely work and u will surely knw if a relationship will work or not which depends on the type of gurl or guy u dey go out with. if u trust the person and both of u r honest with each other.
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babycute (f)
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it works if u really want it too....but it involves alot of trust.commitment and communication.i was into one and it was good.it works sha
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nicetohave (m)
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it works until it breaks down...keep your eyes open.
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christyne (f)
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Let me just say it works for people who really wants it to work.
The probability that it will work n it will not work is the same,so i'm in - between.
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dollygurl (f)
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what do u all think...i mean both girl and boy living at far ends (lets say theyve seen each other before and for some reasons felt smthing for each other after one of them travelled)
1) do u think its a good thing
2) if it is would it last
3)what if they loved each other so much....do u think its real
4) is there any chance of trust
5) do u think mailing and calling is enough
just want to know...please answer each ques....thnks
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dollygurl (f)
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it works for those who wants it to...I'm in a long this relationship..loves who I'm with...but the thing is..wow...we are like so busy with school stuff and all,we do chat a lot when we are free though but everyday i wish i was so back in ngja and hope nothing would get wrong or change things....but now I'm glad i av peeps in my shoes who i can talk with...tc
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Remedy (m)
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I have a similar experience. This girl we are like 4 states apart. We seem to be getting on along even though we have never seen physically. We call ourselves on the phone and she proves to be a really nice person.
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onyxhawk (m)
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IAH it didn't work oo. PM me for story. hot-angel: how long did it last? And did you try? Just curious. |
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hot-angel (f)
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Yes i tried it. It was stupid. Infact really stupid. It lasted... not more than 1 month. Infact.. it was stupid. I've said it before and i'll say it again. LDR is B.S
And please don't give me the "because it didn't work for you don't mean it's B.S crap".
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onyxhawk (m)
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Yes i tried it. It was stupid. Infact really stupid. It lasted... not more than 1 month. Infact.. it was stupid. I've said it before and i'll say it again. LDR is B.S
And please don't give me the "because it didn't work for you don't mean it's B.S crap".
I think that if it didn't work for you.. it didn't work for you. Like everything else in life.. people are different.. that is what makes the world go round. 'Because it didn't work for you doesn't mean it won't work next time.. or that there isn't a chance it will work for someone else.' It has worked before for others.. so it isn't impossible. Just has to be the right set of people, in the right situatiion. It isn't for everyone. |
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mide2 (f)
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Short distance r/ship sef, u haven't finished settling, not to talk of long dist one. It doesn't work most of the time jare.......i wish we could ask all that claimed to be in a LDR on this post to keep in touch till about 10yrs ..then we'll see 1/10 of them would be telling another story even by a yr time.
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onyxhawk (m)
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Short distance r/ship sef, u haven't finished settling, not to talk of long dist one. It doesn't work most of the time jare.i wish we could ask all that claimed to be in a LDR on this post to keep in touch till about 10yrs ..then we'll see 1/10 of them would be telling another story even by a yr time. Do SDR have a guarantee attached? If so I missed it.. If you have something going.. and aren't interested.. then don't have a LDR. If you like the person.. or better like them a lot.. then why not try.. Don't knock it till you try it. I don't think anyone going into a LDR is thinking.. 'Hmm.. I hope this doesn't work out.' Anyway, can't blame anyone for giving their opinions.. SDR are easier.. but conditions aren't always ideal.. and diamonds are made in the rough.. not in the vast, open beautiful fields.. and they wouldn't be precious if they were formed easily or common. So I think they LDRs that make it are special.. but they are not easy by any stretch of the imagination. Got to respect 5 years of not seeing each other.. 1 month and I am already getting antsy. |
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hot-angel (f)
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Ohh you are in one? I wish you luck hun. I really do. |
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IAH (f)
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IAH it didn't work oo. PM me for story.
Yee! I've missed! Where was I when you posted this? I didn't see it! Ok, I'm off to PM you for story NOW! |
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shaddy (f)
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i agree with dollygurl, it surely work for anybody that want it to work.its works for me and i love my guy and we communicate everynow and then..
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nicetohave (m)
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The rule of the game is there is no rule.....you get out of it what you put into it.
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onyxhawk (m)
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The rule of the game is there is no rule.you get out of it what you put into it.
i agree with dollygurl, it surely work for anybody that want it to work.its works for me and i love my guy and we communicate everynow and then..
Would have to agree with both of you. There are 'some' times when things don't work out even after you try, but I think for the most part.. it works out as long as you want it to. |
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nikkylolly (f)
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No it doesn't. because there would be lots of temptation; at work, College etc.But if they live around each other, even if they see each other only once a week, it's okay to resist temptations but long distance, they might not cope. Whenever there is temptation, they'll both be thinking "let me go for it, I'm not even sure of what he/she is doing".
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Z4M4eva (f)
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Not always the case...
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icingbaby (f)
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it work for some people.
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Rolly
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well, i must say, it would work for some people, but i didn't work for me. no it didn't  we met through our mothers he dididn'took for me so he didnt appreciate what he had because he didnt have to win me over in 2004 dec. i was planning to come to the US in april 2005 and i told him and he was like " oh, no problem we'll make it work" and i was like "how?" and he said "we'll call each other everyday and talk" and i said "why don't we use emails" and he said " i don't have time for that" and i said " even if it is just to say hi, how r u doing?" he said, " i wont have time " and i was like " ok, so u'll call and i'll send emails when i get there" and he shshruggedis shoulders. so when i got here in april 2005, i waited in vain for him to call so i decided to call him and he said " oh, i'm sorry ididnt call" and i said "ok,no problem, have u opened an email box?" he said, " no, i told u i don't have time!" and i said " ok, i wont call until u sendme an email (he had my email addy) and he didnt reply. this was july. and so in august, he called and said " i have done that email issue that u told me to and i've sent u an email" till today, i havent seen that email. and so i called him at the end of septemSeptemberold him the whole thing wasnt going to work and he just said "ok" And so u see, long didtancedistancenship will not work for me (it was way stupid of me to think it would) but anyways |
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shaddy (f)
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Hello rolly,
i have read ur comments and it really shows that the guy doesn't like the idea of long distance relationship but u will surely find someone better that will love u so much.Just forget about him.
Mine own case is different.I and my guy are moving on very well.We even celebrated our 4 years relationship on Xmas day.And i call him everyday, he 2 always call me but not everyday[u knw its not easy 2 b calling from naija everyday but he calls me very well] and we chat everynow and then.
To nikkylolly
And talking about temptation, although temptation will come but if u love ur guy and u belief that u trust him and he also trust u, y falling into temptation.there are lots of things 2 b worrying about, studies, work and so on .i trust my guy and i don't worry or bother myself of what he is doing in naija..Without trust, nothing can work.i belief it has already work out 4 us.
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Rolly
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Awwwww! that was sooo nice! thanks a lot i'm sooooo happy for u guys and i wish u the very best!!!!  |
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pie1ect (m)
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On the issue of long-distance relationships, I think this is a good case study. Not saying all LDRs end that way, but to be fore-warned is to be fore-armed. If your power no reach am, no decieve yourself. If you decide to do it, because "if others can do it, I can do it as well", God help you. |
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Hotstepper (f)
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i like ur respond @shaddy. TRUST is da ultimate key in every relationship whether da guy/gurl in question is ur next door neighbour at home..u can't be with him/her 24/7...if she/he make up his/her mind that she/he is gonan have an affair, nuthing stops that. am also in a long distance relationship with ma guy in 9eria..we chat everyday and talk on da phone atleast 4 times a week..he calls and I call....so itz TRUST all da way and lvove has no boundariessssssss..datz how i see mineeee and as 4 temptation, as shaddy also said, u have much 2 worry about like school and in ma case whereby we ftalk and chat everyday, watz dere 2 worry about..by da way, i just finished chatting with him and waiting 2 call once i gat ma school things ready happy new year people..fellow ur heart diz year |
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Oyinhoney (m)
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readin all of this comments have really made me think bout my relationship with my guy.see the problem is we live like an hour n half away 4 from each otha it may not seem like a big deal but the train ticket is expensive.we hardly talk online n e more,even when we talk on d phone i know fo sho d convo can only last upto 1-3mins maximum.n besides that i think his got otha things on his mind.so am kind of scared things wont work out.his already complain bout money n we can only c each otha on weekends now adays unless n e quick holidays pop up....basically what am trying to say is we have only been datin 4 a couple of weeks but i can't handle it n emore its craziie  .i don't c d reason y u sud have a relationship with someone u wont b able 2 c weneva u where eva u want...besides sometimes when ur apart like that u find it hard to love d person i jus hope that God will help me out on this one... |
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