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Ashbaby (f)
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Hey, Ashbaby: want to be my lady no5?  Heck no!  I'm someone's lady no.1!  That would be degrading to myself to be a number five!!!  Just showing some possible pitfalls of a long distance relationship/relationships that's all!  I think more of saying what some people in long distance relationships do. You're more of trying to say that they are impossible, which I don't think is true. The broth coagulates because of people like you.  |
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AguNwoke (m)
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I think more of saying what some people in long distance relationships do. You're more of trying to say that they are impossible, which I don't think is true. The broth coagulates because of people like you. It's not my fault, true, long distance relationship is very hard work! ah beg - na condition mek crayfish back bend o! |
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Ashbaby (f)
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It's not my fault, true, long distance relationship is very hard work!
Well, that's true, then why get involved if you know yourself and that you can't possibly and obviously make a long distance relationship work? unless you don't know yourself....  |
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AguNwoke (m)
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Well, that's true, then why get involved if you know yourself and that you can't possibly and obviously make a long distance relationship work? - unless you don't know yourself.... ?
It never started out that way. Thought I could make it work, tried my hardest. Also, I don't like seeing my ladies sad, I find it hard to break up with them.  No bulls%$t - I'm being honest here. |
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Ashbaby (f)
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It never started out that way. Thought I could make it work, tried my hardest. Also, I don't like seeing my ladies sad, I find it hard to break up with them. No bulls%$t - I'm being honest here. When you realize that you can't do it, the least painful time to let go is at that point of realization, otherwise, it'll become harder, and maybe almost impossible, and eventually, you'll also get very hurt, ur reputation will get ruined, among other more dynamic problems. And if anything, they'll even be more hurt if they find out that you've been playing them all along, yet you are genuine (I want to imagine) in your consultations with them. And then again, it's draining you financially. That's the last thing that you want. I think you deserve to live comfortably, and if bills, bills, bills are making you so worn out (as you have put across) it's probably not worth it. |
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mide2 (f)
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Really, i've always tot LDR doesn't stand a chance but that went out the window when i found the love of my heart.
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kallylove (m)
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I was once in deep lovre with a girl but the distant between us keep the love apart.
It's a sad storey and one of these day i will publish it.
What title shall i give it
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Z4M4eva (f)
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What title shall i give it
The story of your sad relationship  |
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Ashbaby (f)
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What title shall i give it
The Love Rift. |
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AguNwoke (m)
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And then again, it's draining you financially. That's the last thing that you want. I think you deserve to live comfortably, and if bills, bills, bills are making you so worn out (as you have put across) it's probably not worth it.
Cheiiii, Na true u talk o! Ok - by next year I go try change  |
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Ashbaby (f)
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All the best, aight!
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AguNwoke (m)
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Thanx |
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sweetpea (f)
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It always difficult to have someone far away from u.it takes devine intervention for things to be the same way they were when u were together.
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kallylove (m)
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Well.
I think I will go for "@ashbaby title"
Z4AM you sound so mean
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Z4M4eva (f)
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Well.
I think I will go for "@ashbaby title"
Z4AM you sound so mean
Hey man! How do I sound mean? |
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kallylove (m)
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I thought you will at least give me a nice "TITLE" 
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kallylove (m)
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I think a long distance has only one cure to make it stable.
And that is: "Communication"
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Z4M4eva (f)
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I think a long distance has only one cure to make it stable.
And that is: "Communication"
True that!...but hey have you recieved ma apology kisses?   |
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kallylove (m)
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"It's nothing Ok?"
Me I'll a girl in mah househood to make mah chicks
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Z4M4eva (f)
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"It's nothing Ok?" Ok  Aiite...glad to hear that!thnx |
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Z4M4eva (f)
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Yeah so Long Distance Relationship can work if there is lots of communication!
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kallylove (m)
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Yes thats what I said.
It makes them closer even if they are not seeing each other.
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Ashbaby (f)
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Yeah, that's true. Communication and honesty. I can communicate and not be saying what's actually happening, but what I think one needs to hear. That's kind of scary.
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Ladylike (f)
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Hello from a black girl in the US. They call me "Lady". I have enjoyed reading the Nairaland messages, so I became a member. I'm not sure if long distance relationships work, but I hope they do. I hear both sides of the issue, but I am especially curious for personal reasons.
I have met a man on the internet. He is a Nigerian man. He seems like the man God may have for me, but I still wonder if it will work for many reasons:
1) there are many warnings not to trust a Nigerian man, simply because he is Nigerian (which seems weird to me, b/c I know that anyone can be dishonest)...still i wonder if this should be a thing to watch for
2) because we are from different cultures and I have heard black women are not respected by the African man and his family after the relationship starts
3) Nigeria is a looooonnnngggg way from me, and I wonder what effect his cultural ideas of polygamy and female roles has on him
The main reasons I am even contemplating the relationship is because
1) he says he is a Christian and he acts God fearing (so far)
2) we seem to have many things in common from our conversation, we are even both twins (he has begun to call me and we e-mail and chat often)
3) he is direct, even about things that he could hide (like his feelings on marriage, family, money, etc.) and I think he appreciates my directness also.
4) he says he is educated and employed, so I feel he will not be intimidated by my education and we will be able to communicate on many levels, despite cultural differences.
This will be the first time that I have dated someone I met on the internet. This will also be the first time that I have dated anyone that is not a black American. However I have lived in other countries and with different cultures, so I'd like to think the cultural differences won't be too glaring or unacceptable.
Although no one can tell me my future, does anyone have any suggestions on how I might be able to tell if he is being truthful about his status of work, etc. in Nigeria? Anyway, if Nigerian men do lie, how can I tell the difference than from when any other man lies? I am a trusting person, and I always ask for honesty from the beginning. I always give the warning (as I have to him) that if he makes me question his integrity I have no problem ending the relationship.
Can anyone relate to my situation and give me any positive advice about this? GreatPeter, and all the regulars of course I would appreciate your comments.
Thanks in advance.
, Lady
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shaddy (f)
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Hi Ladylike,
just read what u posted.Not all Nigerian guys are not honest.Some african american people 2 are not honest as well.The only advise i can give you is to follow your heart some people met their guys/girls through d internet and it works out for them while some people don't like internet dating.you are the only person that will surely knw if the guy is honest , open minded and his trustworthy.Your relationship may work out very well and it may not.
To tell if he is truthful about his work and so on, i can't give an answer for that .its you that must try and find that out through differnt ways to make sure he is honest with UDon't just belief what he says .Try and Confirm it as well.
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kallylove (m)
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@shaddy You did great. A good advice. |
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Ladylike (f)
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Hi Ladylike,
just read what u posted.Not all Nigerian guys are not honest.Some african american people 2 are not honest as well.The only advise i can give you is to follow your heart some people met their guys/girls through d internet and it works out for them while some people don't like internet dating.you are the only person that will surely knw if the guy is honest , open minded and his trustworthy.Your relationship may work out very well and it may not.
To tell if he is truthful about his work and so on, i can't give an answer for that .its you that must try and find that out through differnt ways to make sure he is honest with UDon't just belief what he says .Try and Confirm it as well.
@Shaddy
thank you. he seems like a nice guy so i will give him a chance. perhaps i am hesistant becuase i ALREADY feel something for him and it seems a bit strange to me. i just wish it was easier to find out quickly what was real and what was not about him. if he was American i could find out very quickly through my resources, etc. Alas, he's from a whole different part of the world...so my patience must be my virtue. this can be good. well, look forward to my new place on NL, so cheers. |
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Ashbaby (f)
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@Lady,
All the best! Time will tell. I hope your eyes will stay open to note any inconsistencies, even the slightest of them. If not, he might be....as you say, the man God intended for you. And if it is, then that's the best thing that could ever happen to you!
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madam (f)
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Well I guess it would work fine 4 some people... But i rather have my guy at arms reach.... I no like to waker too far 4 love
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Ashbaby (f)
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Well, yeah. That's true...dependant on preference.
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