Why Do Women Equates Sex With Commitment

Why is it that women in general automatically assumes that having sex with someone means commitment.
Just curious, they often say they understand and are mature enough to have sex as consenting adult,
yet once it happens all shit break loose

Because some guys are devious. Instead of telling a woman that he wants her strictlyfor sex he makes her believe its going to last forever and the whole white picket fence. (thats the only way they can probably get some)
when she wants the commitment you promised why should that puzzle you? 

i totally agree with spoilt

We are not saying its wrong to have sex without commitment, hell no (afterall there are some girls too that are after the sex/sex pleasure alone, and are not willing to get attached either) BUT there's nothing right about not specifically telling a girl you're just after the sex. Try that and let's see how many girls you'll be having in your bed

For most girls, sex is an important step, so of course when you come and pretend to like the girl to lure her in your bed, she assumes you do care.

BTW this generalization of boys or girls when a central matter is being discussed is getting very old because guys are guity of the act too.
I've seen some guys have sex with girls and authomatically think a relationship has been born while the girl is the one specifically saying she's not interested in a relationship and that she was just aftee the sex,nothing more. And at the end of the day when the girl wants to call it a day, the guy starts behaving all heartbroken and hurt, as if the girl is wicked and selfish. So it goes both ways dearie

I know i have heard guys say "after having what i feel was the best sex of my life, i cn't get this girl out of my head, she's all i think of"
When you lead the girl on and on and on, what do you expect?

Another thing that causes such cases is the feelings, sometimes you gain feelings you didn't bargain for initially

Sex can actually lead to unwanted feelings, but where it gets awkward is when its just one of the partners that gets the feeling, then its sad . Sometimes you share a passion with someone during sex that afterwards it feels you can't get the person out of your mind or that the person left with a part of you

yes, casual sex can lead to deeper feelings. If both witness the feeling, then a relationship can be expected, but if only one party falls inlove then thats when the story has an unhappy ending

so its not everytime the rejected party wishes it to happen, it just comes from the statement that we do not control our feelings

@ Razorr dear

what you said might be right to a point, we all love differently

that a guy can't wait that long doesn't necessarily have to mean that he doesn't love you and that a guy waits for 5yrs doesn't have to mean he does

you see, some guys are dubious in character, to get in between a lady's legs, some of them will do anything

A guy denied access to "you know what" might swear to hang on for as long as it lasts and after he's gotten what he was after, he damns the time wasted and leaves

some stupid foolish ones even say to themselves or friends "nna mehn, she wasn't even worth the wait, upon all her guy/shakara sef and sighs"

love is a thing of luck, pray and hope you'll be lucky enough to fall in the hands of the right one thats the only time you can be sure as hell you're not being played

dont think i agree with you razorr.
 men are funny creatures. he may agree not to sleep with you as long as he's getting it elsewhere.
its been known to happen that a guy is engaged to a girl who refuses him sex but he's happily getting it from someone else. which is why he doesnt bother you for it any more. . lots of virgins have been played this way.all said and done, the best time to sleep with a guy is when he puts a ring on the finger. Gets me mad when guys want to bang and they dont want to marry. im already getting irritated. 
im tired of this discussion.im out.

Naivety in its purest form.A guy,not me(  ),waited from October 2003 till Dec 2005.The girl was convinced,problem is,this guy banging other chicks like there is no tomorrow claiming he is  making her pay for depriving him of sex.

The patience is no guarantee of love but could simply be that the man is getting his sex from somewherelse

I can't believe some girls are so gullible

 

Lol is that why we have that dude with his "What use is my girlfriend without sex"

Do you blame girls really? esp Nigerian ones

You have numerous threads of people going on about how a girl who has done this or that is not worth marrying and commiting to and all that nonsense and you know how important the "commited" status is to these people.

@debosky
when a woman doesnt want to have sex with a guy she's not manipulating. just so you know!
it may be against her convictions or religious beliefs. i dont think a woman should have to sleep with a guy just because he grovels and whines and begs her all day long.with all the 'if you loved me you would" discussions.  what happens when he leaves her ? he leaves one more bitter woman who feels used behind?

@ 4 play
and just so you guys know, we have guys who are faithful to their women. hate when people think men cant excercise self control.  My very good male friend was a virgin until he married. he dated his wife for more than 2 years and they didnt have sex! so quit thinking it is an impossibility.ok? there may not be many who ascribe to this school of thought but it is possible.

@Thief

I don't say give it up as soon as he asks but don't imagine for a minute,that the  longevity of your witholding of sex will determine his commitment.In most cases,the girls are only withholding sex for themselves,the man is getting laid somewherelse so  you denying him sex is more a case of masochism.


If your man is with you for a year and has not had sex,ask him what is wrong

  

@ spoilt, I see your point, but there are misled ones like razorr around who believe not sleeping with a guy will ensure he marries you.
guys can be faithful, those are the ones deserving of the 'no sex till marriage thing', but if you do that with someone getting it on the side, that is just your loss, not his.

intact?? this virginity thing (PS I believe in it, as  a Christian) is waaay overrated. the guy sleeps around and they feel because they are 'intact' something magical will occur. warped thinking at its best. I dont mean to be raw, but pun pun is pun pun, whether 'intact' or otherwise.

it amuses me atimes but i think we have more male virgins than are willing to admit and a lot of guys who believe in waiting till marriage to have sex. but because they will be laughed at and mocked they prefer not to say anything or even pretend to agree. they even fabricate stories of sexcapedes that didnt happen.   just to feel among.

This is a triumph of hope over experience.There are more male virgins no doubt but I think you will find that they are relatively few.Most men exagerate their sexual experience,we simply multiply by three

The underlying thing is,how can you tell a male virgin from the other and in any case what good will that do you.Once he has his first sexual experience(goodbye handcream and welcome condoms  )he is eager to duplicate this pleasurable experience and will not look back.

lol

dearie be specific. share your view

tell them oh 4play 

by the way you missed one thing out,

We don't really care about sex, all we want is communication, talking and sharing our feelings.

We will buy you a Bora as the price/cost of you remaining a virgin and never want to have sex with another woman again! 

LOL yeah sure 4lay. ok i am happy.