Is It Necessary To Spank Children?

i watched Super Nanny once and damn! i was so furious because these kids were so insolent and destructive.the nanny lady put them through various punishments and assignments but trust me, there's a spirit in children that only spankin can drive out. i will glady deploy it when necessary  

spanking isnt mos def d way to discipline a child, its just that in this our part of the world, kids over here are more hardened dan kids there, are u telling me that u will seize d child's garri, because if that is d only thing he has priviledges to, will make him sober,

i don't like been beaten or spanked because i hate d color i turn when this happen, and most times when am reprimanded, i feel so angry, especially when its nt neccesary

conclusion,  a little bit of evrythg will do, talk, scolding, spanking, and if its deserved, beating, if all fails only

i was almost never spanked by either of my parents. The only time i got spanked which was once in my life, i did worse than what i was spanked for. other times when i did wrong, my mum would talk to me just like she couldn't beat me. she always kept putting her trus in me and that made me me. she always said gentle words like be a "good boy" "don't be naughty" "i trust you wouldn't do such again" and several others of them. Because of this and seeing the way i turned out i don't think spanking is the best. i think dialogue is best

Supposing it is true that beating a child every day with koboko has a weak correlation with violence, does that mean that it is right? Having said that, please show me the scientific study that supports your position.

Beating a child undoubtedly makes the child think that beating is ok. When the child grows up, she will also want to beat her own children.  When her husband beats her, she may think it's ok.  A few people might react in a different way - by vowing never to beat their children.  However, that usually fails because they are not aware of other methods of disciplining their children.  Their spouses will compensate by beating the children more!

However, in todays Nigeria, not beating your child is not enough to prevent her from thinking that beating is ok.  Her schoolteachers will beat her for you!  I was beaten a lot at International Secondary School Ifako: at least 3 times a week for latecoming and 1-2 times a week when the entire class was punished for noisemaking.

Now I believe that if a parent ever feels the need to beat a child because of his or her actions, then this parent should reallly look within his or herself and figure out if the childs actions were not learned through them the parents. Because, I was born and raised here in America where I have seen some outrageous performances in public between mother and child. I've seen a mother drape up her child by his collar and scream in his face, " I'm gon' f*ck you up when we get home!" I was like WHAT? Who does she expect him to ne when he grows up?  If you come to this country and just observe these so called parents, some of them will explain to you why there are so many wayward black teens who grow up to be wayward adults who just repeat the cycle of horrible child rearing and train young black men for the prison system here in the US.

My parents may have beat me at home when I did something wrong after they told me over and over again not too. If I talked back, I got whacked. But my parents at least tried to set some kind of positive example and has instilled alot of very good values in me. In the islands it is common place to spank the children when they don't listen and that's just what I got. But my parents never belittled me to the point where I would feel inadequate as an adult.

I don't have any children yet so I guess it's easy to say I will not resort to corporal punishment but sometimes, children can do a good job at testing your patience. I've babysat before so I know. But I do believe that you should not have to scream or yell at a child for them to do what you say. Because when you start yelling at them, they don't respond when you talk to them, and when you start beating them, they don't respond to talks or punishment. Lets not train our children to be circus animals that only respond to the whip!

Like others have said in previous comments, explain things to them as though they are adults since we are in fact preparing them to be succesful and mature adults who will one day be parents as well.

y nt??

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Funny

You can only try that in Nigeria though. . .
Try it up here. . . You stand the chance of going to Jail.

Spanking is necessary at times, but I can't bring myself to spank my child, maybe the daddy would do that.

Lol , I don't think my mother would let you beat her to that

That is why most 40% of the children are spoilt. Imagine a child telling the father " DON'T BE STUPID DAD "
This the more reason why i encourage my child to grow to a reasonable age  here in Nigeria to learn the culture of respect before she travels there.All correct sir !

That's true!!!!!

You are right but i aint raising my kids in Nigeria.
Not all kids raised in the west are spoilt . . .don't get it twisted.

I love Nigerians when it comes to sweet words!! sweet sweet sweet!!!

If u really want to spank 'em. . . .Then u gotta do it like my poppas friend. . .
Take 'em to Nigeria for holidays and spank the hell out of em. . . .with that you have no problem.

But in the westwhat i am tryin to say is that The law doesn't give a 10 about who the parents are. . .
I have heard of many Nigerians being sentenced to Jail up here because of this. . . .sum got 45yrs and so on. . .
Some even went to the extent of using pepper to punish their kids. . . .at the end . .he got about 6yrs. . . .
They don't care in the west! You just have to be careful about it. . . i believe there are still many ways to punish your kids without spanking them.

because i want them to have the best of education.
You can't compare the educational system in Nigeria to the west. . . .The difference is astronomical.

same way America goes to Mexico

It's because you losers will work for cheap