My Husband Is So Attached To His Mother

Yes i work but my hubby would not take money from me, men's ego, u know.

It's not like he doesn't ve money to rent an apartment, just thinks it's a waste of money instead he would invest the money he would use as rent in shares, that is exactly the problem.

What he doesn't realize is that the share certificates at home cannot make me happy and if things continue the way they are now, i might not be there with him when he is enjoying the dividends so he shld invest in our happiness now and when we have happily settled in our own home, we can still buy more shares or what do u guys think?

ok woman. its time to put your feminine wiles (which God gave us for a reason) to good use.
you've tried all else and failed.
i know that the best time to get to a man is when you are both naked in bed (and of course his mama and other interlopers are not there)
 need i elaborate?
i don't mean for you to use it in a bad way but men are strange. they seem to listen better and make good promises when in the bedroom not in the living room.
its really strange but its true.
ive gone through all the posts and nothing seems to be working. try talking in the bedroom.

lol,I said it in a colorful way
spoilt,broke it down in a practical way.
spoilt,I salute.

St Domain,I'm only saying it because you too are married,I don't advocate premarital sex .
Listen to spoilt,she made a point there.
Turn on your womanotrics and he'll be helping you pack in no time,it works.

People can easily deceive you one way or the other.  Some mother-in-laws are so good to stay with and nobody can easily suggest that here.  Wether you are residing with her or not bad ones are bound also.  The thing is that you are unfortunate to have lived with a bad type, if at all she is bad.  Also, your husband should be man enough to put you in a safe condition irrespective that mother is not two.  Take heart.

i just want you to realize that your mother in law isnt really bad. right now its a matter of territorial displays. she wants to show you that she knows her son better than you. (after all you are just some random woman that came from nowhere!  ) most mother in laws feel a little jealous of the new young fresh wife who has "taken" her son from her.
anyway while you still live with her be on your best behaviour. even if you are right and shes wrong don't talk back at her. bite your tongue, clench your teeth (clench your butt cheeks if need be) and say nothing. its the hardest thing on earth but my dear at least peace will reign supreme! 
when she sees you arent confrontational she'll probably be less agressive.
and you have to take on extra house work.yes oh. you have to proove your usefulness. if it means sweeping the whole compound everyday , doing the dishes after the entire family house has eaten and cooking all the time.we are talking humility here.it will be hard but right now its almost a matter of life and death.you should be ready to do anything.
all this while you should still be working on your husband to try and move you guys out as soon as possible.
by the time you and your husband are leaving she'll know she lost something and she'll miss you. 

a lady was telling us sometime ago of her experience. her mother inlaw has 2 children oversea. it's only the one in the US that the mother inlaw is always bugging to come take her abroad. she was always listening to her on the phone bugging to be taken abroad. so she now tells her husband, who was trying to say i want to bring her. she said she told him, fine. but it is a must you buy 2 tickets. one for her own mother and one for his mother, she said she told her husband the marriage is about herself and him not only him alone. she asked what is she coming to do? she said the mama say she is coming to rest ha!.  the other one oversea has kids that might even keep her occupied but she want to go to her son's place (they don't have kids yet), she said she want to come rest, we all laughed.

i don't know but i think mother inlaw like pestering their sons marital life than their daughter. me thinks maybe mother inlaw feels sons have more power in marriage than daughter,

Poster, I hope your husband is the type that listens to their ladies. I wish you well in the life and marriage that is yours. remeber, it's about you and him, nothing else

The thing is you may have to go over and beyond what you would "normally" do to please your mother in law sometimes. They'll be moving out soon (hopefully oh, hopefully) so the intention is not for her to be doing that for long. 

if They decide to stay there 2 more years she's on her own oh! she'll be dead by then!
what kind of man will torture a new wife like that? 

living with my own folks as an adult is something i can't even fathom. my mom will almost smother you with affection and tips. aaaaargh!!!!
how some guys think its ok to not only live with mama and papa in old age but to bring in a spouse beats me hollow!

arikky are you really in dubai?
I hear the place is beautiful,is it safe?
by safe,I'm asking if they have lunatics blowing themselves and others up?
do they allow women to drive?
do they insist that women wear cover ups?

off topic y'all forgive me but am planning a vacation

prayers prayers prayers!

Nigerians will never learn. Lazy people. Always waiting for God to come and solve your problems as if he was a fool. Una nor get head?

How I wish they would understand this for good!

@poster
what a mess, nothing worse than this situation, i feel you. All these damn babyboys

hmm, i feel you my sister. it is not easy. but i would say be patient. Patience is the key word here. don't get yourself worked up over this issue. like someone said in the thread, don't haggle words with your mother in law. you will never stay in your in laws house forever, very soon it will al be over.
people saying you shouldnt have agreed to stay with your in laws should not reason that way. there are some situations beyond ones control.
i pray God gives you the strength and grace to cope with the situation at hand and your own place as well

   i feel your pain but u ought to have to have talk about getting your own place  before marrage
abi is that not how it is done?