What To Do With A Cheating Boyfriend?

@ Anothaviv

four good years is definitely not a joke?? but what is four years compared to a life/marriage full of misery. Dearie you have to make hay while the sun shines

like i've always believed, no human being is above mistakes (those mistakes includes infidelity), so why not? everybody deserves a second chance sometimes even third afterall they say every good thing is three but your guy has even gotten to the fifth chance and from your story he'll be needing a lot of chances which might lead to your breaking down

now tell me sweetheart, is any guy on earth worth that?? comm'on girl you deserve more than that, don't you think??

Someone mentioned forgiveness, and of course its a good thing to forgive, no doubt about that but for how long do you continue forgiving the same person of the same mistake?? is it really called for when you can forgive him, leave him and embrace hapiness with someone that equally cares for your hapiness.

Can't you see this one obviously doesn't and if he does, not as much as is required.

someone said something about him having the right to keep his friends, oh yes, nobody is disputing that but when he prioritates the other girl's fellings above someone that should be his "one and only" then something is definitely not right

esp. when its his ex. and knowing girls too well i'm sure the girl wants more than "the-so-called-frienship" she's getting so why can't he try and keep the girl at arm's length, does he have to take her home everyday from work

Geez, he should at least give the girlfriend some respect. Its ok to have friends, but not to the depriment of your spouse

this somehing i think we all should learn, knowing when to stop, to avoid crossing the line. when you're with the opposite intimacy feelings can arouse, so why not prevent yourself from it??

lol cute_ass

The girl isnt even an ex, just one of the girls he cheated on her with. hahha

a penny at hand is better than the one at distance, 4yrs! how stong it is means alot, did he love you maaters alot, how sure are you if he wanted to marry you very important. i think this friend of yours is a little bite like me, how we you expect me to stick to only you when we are not yet marry, you are a woman you can even done the worst if i decided not to do it at all, if you think he can joke with you just take your time to learn how to adapt this till you are married if not yor leaving him is a chance for another cheater. because man are unpreditable.  but if you are fortunate to get a wuss man he will always do your wish before marriage.

quote:
a french woman, when double crossed will kill her rival,
an italian woman will kill her deceitful lover,
an englishwoman will simply sver relations,
BUT  THEY WILL ALL CONSOLE THEMSELVES WITH ANOTHER MAN.

thats what you need to do.CUT YOUR LOSSES.

we have all made bad choices at one time or another and suffered the consequences.
he was a bad choice, its time to move on before he gives you more than just heartache.he could give you AIDS.

good luck.it will be very very hard.

To everyone,

i appreciate you all being honest. ure all right  ^{in your own ways}. the truth is, ive known what to do all along, i just needed someone to help me out. a cheating man is HEADACHE!

theres no excuse for cheating on someone you love, if you truly love that person. Mistakes may happen, but a TRULY repentant soul wouldnt go into the same fire three times, and still leave himself exposed for a fourth burning. if i should really consider the time we've spent together, i wonder why that hasnt crossed his mind all thru the 3 times.

i believe everyone would stand before God ALONE. so i truly do not have to carry any man's baggage with my own. i'm only sorry because his mom has asked me to stay, and give her time to talk to him, but she really doesnt know the whole story.

Thank you girls, Ayeisha and cute-backside especially, u sho know how to drive it deep, but hey, the truth is bitter but it shall always remain the truth.

God bless you all.

Congrats you have woken from your slumber.

Lol.

Well all's been said and I'm glad you've arrived at a firm decision. All the best girl!

you people really make me laugh - oh well, I will be on the look out for another topic
that may read something like this:

"I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years. Now he wants me back, what shall I do?"

My Suggestion- DUMP HIM!.

3 times forgiven means he sees your strength & ability to forgive as a weakness and he's manipulating the situation. After his indiscretions, he should be doing anything and everything possible to make you comfortable and regain your trust.

It seems however, that he REALIZES that any relationship (friendship or otherwise) with this other woman is disrespectful to you, so he lied about it! Meaning he'll lie about anything else that may or may not happen with her.  That's why its so sad, he obviously knows its wrong but continues to do it!


It will be difficult after 4 years but think- how many of those years were you truly happy and  satisfied and secure in feeling like the only woman in the world for him?

You can't change him, but you can change you- So either deal with it or walk away.

I vote that you walk- you deserve more than this- every woman does

an average guy wuld make his woman go tru all that anyway------------though might not b to hurt intentionally.

@razor
d best thing u can do to your friend is to try n kip some distance 4rm d guy involved.
though he's bn your friend b4 they started dating,u sincerely dont need anybody to tell u d difference between a single guy n anoda in love, d time frame is different so u need to give room 4 their affair to b successful.

my point,
@topic
please dont dump your guy.always giv him a blind trust n another chance.

@razor
allow your friend to enjoy her relationship plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

MARRY HIM!! 

Please ignore the retarded guys screaming that you should "forgive him"

Like they would forgive a girl who would cheat on them once not to talk of three times. Hypocrites.

exactly thiefofhearts. all screaming forgive, forgive seem to be missing something.
i do believe in second chances depending on the situation. but when a man or woman squanders a second chance which they have been given to redeem themselves them im sorry, its a deal breaker!  

she said he cheated. she didnt say he was acting suspicious. she didnt stutter on that one. she also caught him in another lie when he said the girl had travelled out of the country meanwhile she was still in the same office with him. isnt it obvious that he cant be straight? trying to have a sit-down heart to heart talk with liars is difficult!  

Someone's been smoking the crackpipe way too long apparently.

Btw it's girls with LOW self esteem that stay with guys that treat them like crap in "fear of losing them". If you dont think you are worthy of anything good of course you will stay with trash.

OP, you can add mubowa to the list of people you should also ignore.

I can only hope so cos knowing that a girl would actually write that crap makes me wanna get a intimacy change so as not to be associated with such.