Dating/marrying A Hiv Person

Would any of you date or marry a person you knew was HIV positive.

You could if you take precautionary measures.

i think u can marry/date someone with it, if de both of u are of de same statue. u dnt go ending your life because of love, what if a miracle happens and de only is ok what would be of u.

again what if u dnt know because manyof us have it but we dnt know what happen if a baby comeand u need 2 married de people with checkin it out,

so u c u can marry 1 with it.

It is possible to date a person living with HIV and AIDS without getting infected. There are a lot of precautionary measures you can take if you are married to or dating an infected person.
That is why it is important to go for voluntary councelling and testing so that you can have information on Pregnancy and prevention of mother to child tranmission.
If a couple are married and one is positive while the other is not, they could have protected sexual intercourse and if they plan to have a baby, they could consult their Doctor who would test the put the partner on some drugs that will lower the load of the virus and at that point they be able to make a baby without the other partner getting infected and the baby will be prevented from getting infected. We call it prevention of Parent to Child infection, I guess we have to work harder in informing and enlighteening people on issues of HIV and AIDS and sexuality. 
Seriously i will talk to my Bosses so we could start an online helpline for questions like this.

There is no such thing as lowering viral load to enable the healthy partner have unprotected sex without catching the virus. once a person has HIV it is risky to have unprotected sex witjh him or her wether viral load is high or low the only difference is that with high viral load in the system its much easier to catch it but with low viral load its a bit lower chances of a healthy person catching it the viral level does not stop one from catching HIV from an infected sexual partner so I don't buy Aisha's theory  at all the only right thing she said is the prevention of transfer of the HIV virus from mother to child and even that is not 100% effective as the baby might contact HIV during child birth and the mother should also avoid breast feeding as the virus can also be transfered through  breast milk.
Also, Its a different thing to be married before finding out one's partner is infected in which case the healthy patner may still want to remain in the marriage but why risk ones life if one finds out before marriage that the intended partner is HIV positive.
I know verry well that practicising safe sex reduces HIV infection thats why they encourage people who are sexsually active to use the condom but what joy is there when a husband has to make love with his wife always with a condom on and also considering the fact that condom is not 100% safe? Come on lets face the fact it is totally foolish for a healthy person who enjoys living to marry a person who is HIV positive.
Those wanting to marry HIV positive persons are
1) HIV positive themselves
2) Are tired of life
3) Are love blind( They may wake up to reality when they catch it from the infected partner and start wondering if the sacrifice was worth it in the first place)
4)Marry out of pity for the infected partner
5) Are ignorant about HIV and AIDS.
I am not saying that HIV+ people should not marry I am just considering the facts from the angle of a HIV- person marrying an HIV+ person as long as the healthy person knows the risks involved I don't see anything wrong in it but I don't buy the Idea of some ignorant people saying there is no risk involved and so its okay and safe for a healthy person  to marry and relate sexually with  an infected partner.No mater how sophisticated the treatment is there are stil risks involved.Poison is poison and there is no use telling one that poison does not kill and its ok to eat it. Better for anyone handling it to know the dangers involved so they can take precautioneven if they decide to go ahead with handling it.

@Aisha ART(Anti Retroviral Theraphy) only lowers the viral load, it never gets to a point where the virus is not present in the blood, as far as I know very sensitive methods like PCR(polymerase chain reaction) can always pick it up; meaning it's present and can always potentially infect.
personally i would not marry/date an HIV + person because true true prevention is beta dan cure.
truth hurts

@karl ken
You are definitely going to the wrong church preaching to people about not marrying an HIV person. God's real preacher will teach you to open your arms to your fellow men/women no matter what the situation is. Yes you can live and love an HIV person even though you're negative. If you are well educated about it you'll know the do's and don't about handling yourself. There are so many successful stories about an HIV positive and negative couple making a go of their relationship. There are lot of people out there who are HIV positive, you won't know unless they tell you. But who is willing to say they are HIV positive, a lot of people are too scared to find out if they are a carrier or not.

casual dating , yes, marry? thats complicated

@N-joy.If your actually HIV -ve and u want marry a +ve person,goodluck to u.Remember we are encouraged not to mary out of sentiments.Its often better to show empathy not sympathy.It is not good to discriminate against PLWHA but thats in terms of Jobs,social activities,sports etc .That doesn,t mean u should accept blood when needed from an +ve person for instance talkless marrying one.Supporting them in other ways is better!Remember u have to be alive to even render that support.Think again,this time keep emotions apart.

@Karl ken
You sound like an educated fool, haven't you heard with the treatment they receive now, an HIV  person can live as long as you. Pleez go do your HIV research on the net, when you do come back and say something worth saying on the thread, we'll probably stop yawning at your ignorance.

@ karl ken
Now you're talking, yeah baby keep it coming that's the kind of attitude i was expecting from an educated fool. Now you've gone as far as telling me am HIV+. You couldn't have known that unless you passed it on to me (oops our little secret is out on nairaland). If its advice you're trying to give keep it wrapped round your privates.

@ Hannydarl
Abeg make you no come start fire for here o, have you read my posts at no point did I say my boyfriend is HIV+ and is receiving treatment. I said there are treatment available to prolong their lives. Am on this thread defending HIV+ people. They don't speak for themselves because of the way people react to them.

Thanks hannydarl.Imagine this daft(N-joy) calling her father an educated fool simply 'because I opined that it is wrong to encourage an HIV-ve person to marry a +ve.N-joy,thank your stars 4 internet.If u were near me ,u would have been in the cheapest morgue! .Dudes,lets always watch our language.Use of foul language on another simply 'because he doesn,t share same opinion with u is poor

@karl ken
Glad to see you are bringing yourself down to the gutter where you belong. Am not goin to bring myself down to your level by involving your father. Its between you and I OK. you gave me the HIV+ NOW YOU ARE IN DENIAL. YOU ARE SO ASHAMED FOR ME TO LET EVERYONE ELSE HERE KNOW ABOUT IT. Take heart all will be well,look on the bright side your family still loves you. Oooooh running to hannydarl for support. Does she knows you are a carrier? Thank God for nairaland now everyone knows about you and i. Keep talking  dirrrrty Baby , you know that turns me on. Take my advice and leave this thread with dignity. I know I am. So pleez get a life else where or better still go play with yourself to stop you spreading it all over the place.

@karl ken,
Am going with N-joy on this, please make una leave this thread with dignity. Two of  you should be makin love not war on nairaland. If you are HIV am glad you are well informed. just keep smilin, Jesus loves you.

na wa o.