Which Way Nlng?

Still on marriage,

I've always wondered why it seems there a so many single (but willing to get married) girls

out there and there are also many guys left in the lurch.

you hear of ladies bemaoning the paucity of eligible bachelors and at the same time men

complaining of not finding the right woman to hook up with.


I have a guy in my office who's almost in his forties and not yet married

and he keeps saying the probs is that he has not found the right lady

while I know a lot of ladies who keep saying they'v not found the right man.

All too funny.

mayb the problem is related to what Alfaprime said about the relative lack of proper

enlightenment when it comes to relationship issues?

who knows?

Right here!

I'm sorry if it seems i've taken to the back seat. I am not one of the REGULAR posters. . . i just chip in little bits once in a while. So how's work et al? Fine, i guess.

About the marriage part. . . well. . . i think it depends on what you want in a lady. Well, from my viewpoint, there are far MORE good females than good guys. I meet them all the time. i have some females at my office that are quite old oh, but unmarried, (no RIGHT? man. . .) Well, i don't know how true this is, but i heard that when a woman is single, rich and in her mid-30s, it becomes more difficult to hook up  i guess it's all about "knowing your time and season and not letting them pass you by".

Just 2 questions to everyone, _{most especially the silent ones}, can we please know who the "married ones amongst us are?" and "what piece of advice do you have for the hopefuls . . ."  ?

I told u guys d guys is ganno come back,  he just needs his usual attention,  iight and we all fell 4 it,  anyway his a genius.

@Kuwena,
i hope ur resignation post is not one of ur paranoia schemes,  to travel all d way to America (maybe thinkin we ganna crash ur plane,  ) Good for you, am happy for you man,  i hope ur destiny will b fulfilled,  i hope ur new books titled "THE world of enemies" is not referring to ma country sha,  because i go vex for you oooo   4 sure i'm ganna buy and read ur books,  hav a nice day,  i would hav said "Welcome back" but i wouldn't caus i knew u never left in d 1st place,

@Aniffy,  hmmmm,  marriage,  ? reserve ma comments

@Posters on Marriage
Sure it's an interesting topic. I think I'd love to get married,  (think? I'm sure!) But let's not forget the entire new series of challenges it usually brings. Be prepared for them, too.

@Kuwena
We all knew U'd be back; hope U've read all that was posted in the interim,  So it's Kansas,  well, let me know whenever u'll be in Texas.

@Others
We need not over-blame Kuwena for his usual effusive declarations of love and adoration for a distant land (where he is now, anyway). Fact remains that background wise, he didn't have enough exposure to have bridged the expansive delta between the advanced west and the 3rd world in his thinking. And many of us have similar tales. There are places in Nigeria I know of, where the technological expertise and devices are comparable to those anywere in the world, US inclusive. (Kuwena, U'd have understood better if U'd been exposed to multi-racial, multicultural, global working environments as is obtainable in bue-chip conglomerates in Nigeria before travelling out),  but then, they are only obtainable where there is heay foreign presence, and generally leaves u feeling "un-Nigerian". Frankly speaking, though, I think it's ok. You're just one of the multitudes who stream into the US each day, determined to make it to the best of their ability, and they usually do, as I know U will.

Congrats on your succeses with your manuscripts. Wishing u all the best of your new life.

NB: @Stannesi et al
please, let's all get ready to be fequently entertained with great stories of how wonderful the US is when compared to good old Naija, especially as our wonderful friend settles down there. Remember he's still grasping with the huge gap between the 2 worlds. Could we be a little understanding and refrain from picking quarrels even when it seems our own fatherland is being put down?
Cheers all!

FOR ALL THE MARRIAGE(FUL) PIPS, AND OF COURSE THE REMAINING NORMAL PEOPLE, CHECK THIS OUT.


WHAT TREE DID YOU FALL FROM?

Find your birthday and then find your tree. This is really cool and somewhat accurate. Then send it to your friends, including the one that sent it to you, so they can find out what tree they fell from, but don't forget to change the subject line to your tree.

Find your tree below and see what you are like,

Dec 23 to Jan 01 - Apple Tree
Jan 01 to Jan 11 - Fir Tree
Jan 12 to Jan 24 - Elm Tree
Jan 25 to Feb 03 - Cypress Tree
Feb 04 to Feb 08 - Poplar Tree
Feb 09 to Feb 18 - Cedar Tree
Feb 19 to Feb 28 - Pine Tree
Mar 01 to Mar 10 - Weeping Willow Tree
Mar 11 to Mar 20 - Lime Tree
Mar 21 (only) - Oak Tree
Mar 22 to Mar 31 - Hazelnut Tree
Apr 01 to Apr 10 - Rowan Tree
Apr 11 to Apr 20 - Maple Tree
Apr 21 to Apr 30 - Walnut Tree
May 01 to May 14 - Poplar Tree
May 15 to May 24 - Chestnut Tree
May 25 to Jun 03 - Ash Tree
Jun 04 to Jun 13 - Hornbeam Tree
Jun 14 to Jun 23 - Fig Tree
Jun 24 (only) - Birch Tree
Jun 25 to Jul 04 - Apple Tree
Jul 05 to Jul 14 - Fir Tree
Jul 15 to Jul 25 - Elm Tree
Jul 26 to Aug 04 - Cypress Tree
Aug 05 to Aug 13 - Poplar Tree
Aug 14 to Aug 23 - Cedar Tree
Aug 24 to Sep 02 - Pine Tree
Sep 03 to Sep 12 - Weeping Willow Tree
Sep 13 to Sep 22 - Lime Tree
Sep 23 (only) - Olive Tree
Sep 24 to Oct 03 - Hazelnut Tree
Oct 04 to Oct 13 - Rowan Tree
Oct 14 to Oct 23 - Maple Tree
Oct 24 to Nov 11 - Walnut Tree
Nov 12 to Nov 21 - Chestnut Tree
Nov 22 to Dec 01 - Ash Tree
Dec 02 to Dec 11 - Hornbeam Tree
Dec 12 to Dec 21 - Fig Tree
Dec 22 (only) - Beech Tree



TREES (in alphabetical order)

Apple Tree (Love)
Quiet and shy at times, lots of charm, appeal, and attraction, pleasant attitude, flirtatious smile, adventurous, sensitive, loyal in love, wants to love and be loved, faithful and tender partner, very generous, many talents, loves children, needs affectionate partner.

Ash Tree (Ambition)
Extremely attractive, vivacious, impulsive, demanding, does not care for criticism, ambitious, intelligent, talented, likes to play with fate, can be very egotistic, reliable, restless lover, sometimes money rules over the heart, demands attention, needs love and much emotional support.

Beech Tree (Creative)
Has good taste, concerned about its looks, materialistic, good organization of life and career, economical, good leader, takes no unnecessary risks, reasonable, splendid lifetime companion, keen on keeping fit (diets, sports, etc.).

Birch Tree (Inspiration)
Vivacious, attractive, elegant,friendly, unpretentious, modest, does not like anything in excess, abhors the vulgar, loves life in nature and in calm, not very passionate, full of imagination, little ambition, creates a calm and content atmosphere.

Cedar Tree (Confidence)
Of rare strength, knows how to adapt, likes unexpected presents, of good health, not in the least shy, tends to look down on others, self-confident, a great speaker, determined, often impatient, likes to impress others, has many talents, industrious, healthy optimism, waits for the one true love, able to make quick decisions.

Chestnut Tree (Honesty)
Of unusual stature, impressive, well-developed sense of justice, fun to be around, a planner, born diplomat, can be irritated easily, sensitive of others feelings, hard worker, sometimes acts superior, feels not understood at times, fiercely family oriented, very loyal in love, physically fit.

Cypress Tree (Faithfulness)
Strong, muscular, adaptable, takes what life has to give but doesn't necessarily like it, strives to be content, optimistic, wants to be financially independent, wants love and affection, hates loneliness, passionate lover which cannot be satisfied, faithful, quick-tempered at times, can be unruly and careless, loves to gain knowledge, needs to be needed.

Elm Tree (Noble-mindedness)
Pleasant shape, tasteful clothes, modest demands, tends not to forgive mistakes, cheerful, likes to lead but not to obey, honest and faithful partner, likes making decisions for others, noble-minded, generous, good sense of humour, practical.


Fig Tree (Sensibility)
Very strong minded, a bit self-willed, honest, loyal, independent, hates contradiction or arguments, hard worker when wants to be, loves life and friends, enjoys children and animals, sexually oriented, great sense of humour, has artistic talent and great intelligence.

Fir tree (Mysterious)
Extraordinary taste, handles stress well, loves anything beautiful, stubborn, tends to care for those close to them, hard to trust others, yet a social butterfly, likes idleness and laziness after long demanding hours at work, rather modest, talented, unselfish, many friends, very reliable.

Hazelnut Tree (Extraordinary)
Charming, sense of humour, very demanding but can also be very understanding, knows how to make a lasting impression, active fighter for social causes and politics, popular, quite moody, sexually oriented, honest, a perfectionist, has a precise sense of judgment and expects complete fairness.

Hornbeam Tree (Good Taste)
Of cool beauty, cares for its looks and condition, good taste, is not egoistic, makes life as comfortable as possible, leads a reasonable and disciplined life, looks for kindness and acknowledgment in an emotional partner, dreams of unusual lovers, is seldom happy with its feelings, mistrusts most people, is never sure of its decisions, very conscientious.

Lime Tree (Doubt)
Intelligent, hard working, accepts what life dishes out, but not before trying to change bad circumstances into good ones, hates fighting and stress, enjoys getaway vacations, may appear tough, but is actually soft and relenting, always willing to make sacrifices for family and friends, has many talents but not always enough time to use them, great leadership qualities, is jealous at times but extremely loyal.

Maple Tree ( Independence of Mind)
No ordinary person, full of imagination and originality, shy and reserved, ambitious, proud, self-confident, hungers for new experiences, sometimes nervous, has many complexities, good memory, learns easily, complicated love life, wants to impress.

Oak Tree (Brave)
Robust nature, courageous, strong, unrelenting, independent, sensible, does not like change, keeps its feet on the ground, person of action.

Olive Tree (Wisdom)
Loves sun, warmth and kind feelings, reasonable, balanced, avoids aggression and violence, tolerant, cheerful, calm, well-developed sense of justice, sensitive, empathetic, free of jealousy, loves to read and the company of sophisticated people.

Pine Tree (Peacemaker)
Loves agreeable company, craves peace and harmony, loves to help others, active imagination, likes to write poetry, not fashion conscious, great compassion, friendly to all, falls strongly in love but will leave if betrayed or lied to, emotionally soft, low self esteem, needs affection and reassurance.


Poplar Tree (Uncertainty)
Looks very decorative, talented, not very self-confident, extremely courageous if necessary, needs goodwill and pleasant surroundings, very choosy, often lonely, great animosity, great artistic nature, good organizer, tends to lean toward philosophy, reliable in any situation, takes partnership seriously.

Rowan Tree (Sensitivity)
Full of charm, cheerful, gifted without egoism, likes to draw attention, loves life, motion, unrest, and even complications, is both dependent and independent, good taste, artistic, passionate, emotional, good company, does not forgive.

Walnut Tree (Passion)
Unrelenting, strange and full of contrasts, often egotistic, aggressive, noble, broad horizon, unexpected reactions, spontaneous, unlimited ambition, no flexibility, difficult and uncommon partner, not always liked but often admired, ingenious strategist, very jealous and passionate, no compromise.

Weeping Willow (Melancholy)
Likes to be stress free, loves family life, full of hopes and dreams, attractive, very empathetic, loves anything beautiful, musically inclined, loves to travel to exotic places, restless, capricious, honest, can be influenced but is not easy to live with when pressured, sometimes demanding, good intuition, suffers in love until they find that one loyal, steadfast partner; loves to make others laugh.

Hi Everybody

I hope i am still part of the fun of this house,
Anytime i come ere i always feel welcome and smiles take a bedroom on my face.
Anyway from this page i managed to read i will say
Congrts KUWENA (u sound like u ll like 2 be president of USA,i wont be shocked if u do so.)
Opoks,long time brother, Hope say u dey keep d house busy+please try to because u know how good it is when u try 2 light up this place with ur flows.
PGM how now?lol.

JISI n all d marriage pips keep it up,I have ur back!!

be bak latr, hopefully

Oga aniffy, what is your idea of 'good'.
I think it's rather unfair to say that there are more 'good' females than guys.
You don dey work for National Population Commission?
Even at that, how do you rate 'good'?


Kuwena
Glad to see you back

Forget that thing! I told you that this thread is your third babe (only surpased in order of importance by your Bank A/c and the USA).
So moi knew you will be back as fast as you left it

That your 'World of Enemies', I hope Opoks! no go dey there sha! Just kidding

Congrats! Finally landed your ass in America!
E yaa! What bliss! Nothing like a dream come true!

You were swindled of N400k? So sad
You see what I went through when I was swindled about N600k.
When I posted it, I'm sure you probabaly felt I was stupid & reckless to have lost that amount of money.
Now you know better.
Business is win or lose. Before you set out to win, you must be prepared to lose.
And the loss can come from the least expected factors.
Glad that you're learning from experience.

Glad to see that you're still a very good story teller.


niyoo
Exactly! Not being 'married' but being 'happily married' is what is important.
Just make sure you marry 'your best friend'. That's all.


Jisi
Too many riddles all over the place.
I may fall into your maple date but damn! I didn't see any 'reserved' in my character.


tommyex
Glad to see another 'Noah' drop back into the thread.
It's beginning to feel like 'home' here.


@silent readers
Make una just keep reading.
Una get any other role?

true that!!

well, I don't understand too, why do men seem to have issues with ladies that are rich ?

especially the 'self-made' ones.


married ones ke ?

I doubt if anybody is married on this thread.

@JISI

where in the world did you get that 'tree' stuff from ?

  YOU KNOW, THERE REALLY MIGHT BE MORE GOOD LADIES THAN THERE ARE GOOD guys. I FOR ONE AM A GOOD LADY. I'VE ALSO GOT GOOD FRIENDS. SINGLE WORKING CLASS GIRLS.(LESS THAN 30 OFCOURSE) ANYBODY INTERESTED?

OPOKS
THE TREE THEORY ISNT MEANT TO BE 100% CORRECT SINCE Each INDIVIDUAL HAS A COMBINATION OF 2 SOMETIMES 3 PERSONALITIES. MAPLE TREE HUH!

PAK
WHERE I GOT THIS FROM? HOW ABOUT EM--- FROM A GREENISH SLIMY ALIEN?
THE STOCK MARKET IS CRASHING YEAH BUT IT IS A GENERAL TREND, HOPES ARE PLENTIFUL FOR ITS RISING. LETS SEE IT DOES. EFFECT TO INVESTORS? EM--- THERE ARE ALOT. HEART ATTACK, LOSS OF MONEY, FEAR, BRAIN DAMAGE, AND HOPEFULLY IF THERE IS AN UPWARD SWING, MORE MONEY, HAPPY FACES, INCREASE IN THE SIZE OF YOUR POT BELLY.

GUYS, when I THINK OF MARRIAGE, I THINK OF THE 2 PIPLE INVOLVED. FAMILY MAY want to INTERFER BUT HEY ITS JUST THE 2 PIPLE INVOLVED THAT should MATTER. WHEN I DECIDE TO GET MARRIED(WHENEVER THAT IS) IT would BE TO WHOM I want to AND NOBODY ELSE. IF MY FAMILY DOESNT APPROVE, WELL I'LL JUST HOPE AND PRAY THAT IN TIME, THEY DO. SHIKENAN.

I HAVE SPOKEN.

PEACE OUT. PIPS

@Kuwena
I like your 'new spirit'.
And I'm glad that America can bring out 'this best' from you.
Getting to where you've always wanted to be seemingly catapults you to greatness.
It's not an American thing, it's a mind thing; and I'm glad for you
Keep it up!

And I feel that your new found 'positivity' will rub off on this thread.
Just one line of caution; if you want it to last, just don't paint Nigeria or Nigerians in black again.
We have our own pride.


Jisi
I'm also not 'shy'
Every other trait on that maple tree is what I've found (or observed) in me.
Just scrap out the 'shy and reserved' part.
I used to be. Now I'm crazy!
Thank you.


@pak
I pulled out from the stock market long time ago.
I won't be affected by either its rise or fall.


@aniffy
I knew it was 'exactly from your viewpoint'
Never mind that I deliberately ignored that part.

From my own viewpoint, I don't see what you see.
I see a lot of 'pretenses of righteousness' from supposedly christian sisters.
Many of them act as though they are 'angelic' in righteousness and do not have dirt, 'imaginations' or tendencies in their minds.
As though 'hallelluyah' litters every thought or imagination of theirs.

But as a Guy man, I see beyond the 'veil'.
I actually see more pretenses within the church walls than outside of it.

I don't mean to say that 'outside girls' are better. They simply show you their real selves faster.
Church girls? You have to wear binoculars (spiritually, mentally and social-wise) to decode who is faking and who is not.

I don't becloud my sense of judement by the simple reason that we are all in church (or are all 'christians').


Now to the other points you made there:
I would both agree and disagree with you.
Christian brothers as you described them above are the same as their Christian sisters
Both are products of the same Christian indoctrinations that make both of them act 'holier than thou'!

The result is that the sistas desire more 'game' 'cause they are afterall human and therefore sensual.
But the brothers would not 'deliver' because the indoctrination (or whatever ) takes away the fun, the natural spontaneity, unpredictability and naughtiness that comes naturally from being a man and from staking up game for a girl!

Also you have to differentiate between the 'Christian' and the 'person'. Unfortunately, most people do not.

Your Christian sistas did not meet Opoks! And unfortunately, I've been taken by a sharp Christian sista who saw game in me

It's probably because they pretend just like the Christian sistas they meet in church.
The question then is; 'who bells the cat'?
Who will step up and become more 'real'?
Give me an answer if you have one.


I would also both agree and disagree with you here.

It occurs in both gender, so, do not join a particular gender to point fingers at the other.

Do all those sistas who complain these things to you have equivalent spiritual discernment, wisdom, etc?
Even, do half of the so-called sistas who complain to you have such wisdom and discernment?
If they did, then they should have enough wisdom and/or discernment to attract their type of men.
And quit complaining.


As for rating anyone 'good' or not, everyone claims to be 'born-again' in the churches today (and outside of it).
In fact, it has become a fad.
How do you then know a 'good' person?
I live that to God.

I just go ahead to attract to my person, someone, anyone who shares my values.
I do not necessarily seek out 'good' sistas or 'good' brothers because that term is 'very relative'.
Humanbeings can disappoint
We change like the weather.

Opoks good to see you welcome me back even thought with a yab,its allowed.

I dey vex for the other people wey don forget me oo,

Na lie e!
Who tell you?

It depends on your game! They don come tire!
Make I no sound like hunk but you do not need to spend time around females for them to sense your eligibilty or ability to spin 'game'.
You only need to be within eye-sight. And interract normally; no extra drama.
Every other thing is body language

My guy, come for lessons!



My guy no vex! you know say na 'yabbis' be my middle name



Even the married ones dey fear!
Whether them they fear say they lost their 'youth' too soon
Or they probably believe that this is a 'youth' thread.

Don't worry, we're all prob in our late twenties, heading towards our 30th Birth dates in a couple of year(s) time.
Not too late for Nigerian standards
But very soon (hopefully ), we may soon start hearing wedding bells And I.Vs

But where is kenosky?

wow,  this thread,  kind of pretty cool,  have numerous posts,  hav a lot to dish out,  but i would do it as ma head remembr,  am,


@Alfa,
"i havn't said anytin wrong, anyway, " (i could say that to u but not ma mama, should should hav slap me to another race.), so i'm not ganno say anymore, well i'm sorry, i would tak a bow, and salute,  thanx 4 d tip i'm cool, 

@Niyoo,
always eager to read your post, 

@Jisi
Wow,  thanx 4 d tree, but,  don't know
lets just analyze,  hw true anyway, i fell under Lime,
Lime Tree (Doubt) -- realy, !!!! (1st of all lime, nice fruit, )
Intelligent(true), hard working(true), accepts what life dishes out(true), but not before trying to change bad circumstances into good ones(true), hates fighting(false "love that") and stress(true), enjoys getaway vacations(true @who doesn't), may appear tough(maybe), but is actually soft and relenting(maybe), always willing to make sacrifices for family and friends(maybe true "never had that choice, dey do it 4 me instead, lol"), has many talents but not always enough time to use them(true), great leadership qualities(true), is jealous (very false)at times but extremely loyal(sometimes).

me and ma bro. fell on d dsame true,  that prove it kind of false,  (We're Opp.) ,   thanx its nice to know anyway


@Kuwena
love your new touch on positivity,  like i always say “Pessimists are more often right, but optimists accomplish more.” in ma next post i would gve u a little tip, my guy dey, d way u dey describe dose Yanke guys dey scare me ooo,  abeg small small. I for like show carol,  some old post from d old Kuwena,    sup?,  man i dey enjoy (feel ) your yanke highlights,

@Jisi
lol,  very funy,  but every trader show try as much as possible to be emotionless,  (i never said is not ok to be sad) i see no reasons, why our population to go reduce,  wit just bad market,  small small. ooo

@Aniffy, , Opoks & Pak
ma guy u and all this xtain girls na wa ooo,
which one come be xtain. girls and xtain boys,  (do u mean people u see in church, or people u know that r xtians even if dey do not attend your church???) because i know say Going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than standing in a garage makes you a car.

All marriages are happy. It's the living together afterward that causes all the trouble. God dey,  our side. relax, also An ideal husband is one who treats his wife like a new car.

@Calyx
Na u know ooo,  i think say Caps Lock na 4 Capital Letter,  i no know say na 4 Shouting,  does it matter,  as long as d message is passed,  if u see it as Shouting out of words,  na u & your YIM, MSN fans know,  oooo??? enjoy, 

@Silentees,
At least make una sign-in present,, 

God bless yah all,