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teddyface (m)
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hay guys i need your help, this is my story , in 2004 i told my friend i want to stop been a player, so i made up my mind to stop sleeping around and have one girl. another reason was that i wanted to fine out why married men could not stick to their wifes. so my relationship started with this beautiful, God fearing, take home to mama girl, we've been together since then till now, we have what lots of people will call a perfect relationship, we decided to keep it straight, no SEX till we marry, (if we end up), now the problem is that i'm dying of CHONJI (my D%$^ is hungry), and i just meet this girl that i know quite well that she will give me all i need, all i just need to do is to ASK, but i love my girl, but something keeps telling me that my D&^$ has no meter, so she wont know, Guys please should i ask???  |
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arikky (f)
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please don't do it
y do u want 2 throw away years of fun for 1 moment of sexual satisfaction
sometyms sex is highly over rated
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sammyjl (f)
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Masturbate 
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justyn3x (m)
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Pray very hard and anytime you see the Tempting-Babe, take a walk. I wish Adam had done this while back at Eden, how much good it would have wrought!  but on the contrary David did not, but imagine if God had not made a covenant before that with Abraham? So, just pray and take a long walk off her direction.Your girl will always be the best, if presently she is not pleasing your fantasies,have a SERIOUS TALK with her about your desires, at least give her a choice. You guys must have seen it all after a year or 2. |
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Vitastraka (m)
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Do not advise him to masturbate. Vitastraka can tell you as the king of masturbation, it is not the same
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michelin89 (f)
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Do not advise him to masturbate. Vitastraka can tell you as the king of masturbation, it is not the same
you dey here too *roll eyes* |
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Vitastraka (m)
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you dey here too *roll eyes* michelin how far? |
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hot chic (f)
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 :(guys sha, na wa oooooooo Roll eyez and leaves thread
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michelin89 (f)
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michelin how far?
I dey jo. I see you want to conquer all the nigerians forum around. |
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Tbaba2 (m)
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My guy don't try it,am talking from experience.Michelin ,don't lose this good girl because good girls no plenty for Nigeria again most of them don rotten my brother a dey the situation wey u dey before and i made the wrong choice. I lost the two of them,am lonely and sad. My guy endure,no be food. |
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michelin89 (f)
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My guy don't try it,am talking from experience.Michelin ,don't lose this good girl because good girls no plenty for Nigeria again most of them don rotten my brother a dey the situation wey u dey before and i made the wrong choice. I lost the two of them,am lonely and sad. My guy endure,no be food. You dey talk to me or to the poster? |
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Sweet T (m)
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@Topic
If this girlfriend sing your heart a lovely tunes everytime you think of her, please don't do it. Don't choke her love with that weed called unfaithfulness.
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Oke_amu (m)
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if you made up your mind in 2004, So I take it that since 2004 you have not had sex with anyone? Is that why your d**k is jumping out of your trouser?
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somegirl (f)
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I wonder how anyone can ask a question like "should I cheat on my girl/boyfriend"! It does not matter if somebody in this forum says "it's ok, go ahead". As long as your girlfriend would not want you to sleep with somebody else, you cannot but hurt her. If you have a problem with the current situation, why don't you tell her? You might find a solution (get married soon, have premarital sex, petting, self-masturbation etc.) or you could split up. However, I think talking to your girlfriend about your troubles is the best idea in your situation.
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enolase (m)
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It's amazing how people throw away a lifetime of happiness over a few minutes of perceived bliss. Even HIV is no more a deterrent. I just treated two HIV patients who are about to hit full blown AIDS now in my clinic. Very sad stories indeed. One of them just had a baby boy. Implication: patient, his wife and the baby have the virus. How many more of such stories do we have to hear before people take correction and stop gambling their lives away? Any man that has no control over his "abunna" is an accident waiting to happen, PERIOD! |
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smile007
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Hehe O boy we be the same oo. |
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teddyface (m)
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Hehe O boy we be the same oo. how do you mean? |
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omoge25 (f)
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It's amazing how people throw away a lifetime of happiness over a few minutes of perceived bliss. Even HIV is no more a deterrent. I just treated two HIV patients who are about to hit full blown AIDS now in my clinic. Very sad stories indeed. One of them just had a baby boy. Implication: patient, his wife and the baby have the virus. How many more of such stories do we have to hear before people take correction and stop gambling their lives away? Any man that has no control over his "abunna" is an accident waiting to happen, PERIOD! How true your statement is, the pharmacy I volunteer at you should see how many prescription for AID/HIV related patients we fill out. @poster I laughed and laughed and laughed after i read your problem. Are u serious? Look its a matter of being a mature, self controlled adult. Do you love your girlfriend, you have probably already put in some time with her, you believe she is someone you can take home to your family if you don't want to ruin that then keep john thomas in his place. I have a feeling once you get some from this new girl, once will not be enough. you will probably keep going back to her to quench you thirst and eventually you will get sloppy and girlfriend will find out. |
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adconline (m)
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who do people always come to us all their problems thinking that we are priests or therapists. I think that this forum is has changed with all these half baked stories.
I wonder why Seun would list this topic on the front page.
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lilnaomi (f)
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who do people always come to us all their problems thinking that we are priests or therapists. I think that this forum is has changed with all these half baked stories.
I wonder why Seun would list this topic on the front page.
this dude is a joker but i kind of agree with him u don't need people in a forum to tell u whether or not 2 cheat on ur girlfriend. keyword here is GIRLFRIEND which means commitment is involved. am sure she laid out the terms and conditions for gettin with her and u signed the contract, now u want to breach it?? if u go ahead and sleep with that girl, she might not find out and u can get away with it, makin ur relationship stronger bcus then sex is no longer on ur mind. but if she finds out, trust me u will spend ur last days on this earth regretting it. weigh ur options carefully. n all those people sayin he wants 2 throw his relationship away for a few minutes of bliss or somthing along that line. yea sex is for a few minutes (am sure we all wish it were longer!) but sex is very important in a relationship. a sex-less relationship hasnt got quite a strong foundation bcus then, nothing is at risk. sex is very very very important. why would u decide to go into a sex-less relationship knowing fully well u r a sexually-active person?? i don't understand! |
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LuUmBiOn2 (m)
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@topic
You mean your take home to mama girlfriend tells you your d|ck as no meter? Men, that an indirect way of saying to you, better be up to the task and nut butts.
I can sense she cheats on you too but you could still be her man. That's that.
My verdict: you had better started eating pussies and don't kill yourself while young, FUCKK!
One love.
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Dynast (m)
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Sorry to sound pessimistic
Some girls tend to pretend that they are angels by telling you no sex in a relationship but at the same time they will be satisfying themselves with another guy.This they do so that you will see them as epitome of morality but all is deceit.
My guy personally I can't have sex with any girl i know I can't marry no matter the urge. If you know you can marry the girl go on and talk to her and satisfy your sexual urge instead of seeking that elsewhere if she refuses tell her plainly you may be tempted. I like being plain
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bantos (m)
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HAVE SEX WITH YOUR SO CALLED "TAKE HOME" GIRL
THAT SETTLES IT
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amaikama (m)
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It is better to commit the sin with the person you are prepared to live with, with the rest of your happy life than committing a thirty seconds sin, regretting and worst of it all, she now got to know about it and you looking stupid and miserable. by the way, whose idea it is to remean sex free till you guys get married? she could be wanting you to make to her. you never can tell. well, as for me. don't do any thing stupid my brother. if the lazy boy is getting all heat up, just post the question to your woman and i believe she will understand and settle the matter.  but don't tell her of another woman oo!!! abeg! |
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kike001 (f)
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if u really love her u wont cheat on her
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efuah (f)
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please don't!
few minutes enjoyment can rob u off ur lifetime happiness.
Don't ok?
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pmdaboh (f)
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One thing I think that you have not thought about and no one has mentioned is just because your girlfriend is a Christian, does not mean that she is not dying to have sex just as much as you are. And, she also gets tempted to satisfy herself as well. God put sexual desire and drive in all of us, and if you have been in a relationship with your girlfriend since 2004, I am sure her sexual desires are just as strong, maybe stronger, than yours. I think it is funny how men do not think women want to have sex as much as men do . . .(I cannot figure that one out!) However, we all know that there are double standards as far as sexual behavior for men and women in this world--no matter what country we live in. If a man just cannot control his sexual urges and he cheats on a girlfriend or a wife, it is understood for he is a man afterall. However, if a woman cheats on her boyfriend or husband, she is called many negative names . , ! Your girlfriend may be on the verge of wanting to step out on you also. Just because she is a Christian does not mean she does not feel sexual desires or want sex.
Now for you to ask a question like that on a forum, to me, is somewhat immature. If I say, "God ahead and do it - will you?" If I say, "No don't do it--will it stop you?". I think you already know which way you are heading, but you want a confirmation that it is understandable to cheat on your girlfriend, for afterall, you just cannot take it anymore--as if she can!
I will say this, if you cheat on your girlfriend, or who knows already have cheated on her and just wanted to hear if people understand your sexual struggle and confirm for you that it is alright to do so, I hope your girlfriend finds out about it before or if you two plan on getting engated or married. There is nothing WORSE to woman than finding out that her boyfriend or fiance is dishonest. You see it is not just the unfaithfulness that hurts, but when unfaithfulness occurs, it is like the bond that you had with that man (trust, friendship, and communication) is TOTALLY broken. And from that point on, you realize that you "do not know " that individual the way you thought you did. If he can be that deceptive behind your back, than you do not know him at all!
Woman look at a man's unfaithful in a whole other way than men do. To men it is simple. They have a need or an itch and it must be scratched. To a woman, an unfaithful man has broken the foundation of the relationship, cannot be trusted anymore, is not a true friend or soulmate to her, is not dependable, is weak, uncaring, and does not love her like he said he does. Afterall, if she is holding out sexually for you due to the power of her love and commitment level she feels toward you, than if you "truly love her", why can you not hold out for her. She will think you do not love her the way you say you do. You see we emotionally tie in many more aspects of unfaithfulness than just "he got satisfied with another woman", which is very painful in itself.
Simply put, we LOSE HOPE IN YOU AS A MAN. And once that is lost, we can and will TURN OFF our feelings towards you and become receptive to another man that seems as though he has a genuine heart!
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amaikama (m)
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efua,
it seems you and kike don't seem to understand what he is going through at the moment. "he is feeling sexy" and he does not want to hurt his girlfriend. what advice would you two give at this crucial moment? just don't bring prayers into this!!!!
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amaikama (m)
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pmdaboh!
that's a good one. i hope teddyface is reading this. all you ladies, i hope you all can read!!!
LADIES
Yes!!
amaikama
good!!! read, learn and be wise. just don't denied that guy good thing of life just bicos you both make promises.
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Elgaxton (m)
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hey!
Na wah o! when it comes to sex eh, hmmmm I no sure sey na prayer go solve am.
U know what, just talk it over with ur girl ( the take away package). don't tell her of any other girl unless u wan begin act
all those them home video suspicion groove.!
To withold sex is hard o, but is all about self-control sha,
just think about better things than sex (Only God knows what sha)!
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engee2 (f)
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MA DEAR , ITS GOOD 2 KNOW that GUYS LIKE U R STILL AROUND US,
MA DEAR I THOT IT WAS A DECISION U BOTH TOO AS 2 STAY AWAY FROM SEX . ITS ONLY NATURAL 4 you to FEEL that WAS EXPECIALLY WHEN U HAVE DONE IT BEFORE. BUT U NEED 2 BE STRONGE AND HAVE RESPECT 4 THOSE PASSED YEAR . CALL UR GIRL AND ASK OR BETA STILL TELL HER FIRST HOW U FEEL. because I TINKU WOULD NOT BE FAIR 2 HER SHE HAS DESIRES TOO
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