Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap

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LuigiSon
Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap
« on: January 09, 2006, 02:08 AM »

Hi, I'm not sure if there's already a topic liek this or not, or if I'm doing something wrong typing this here, if so, I'm sorry.  But moving on.  I am currently in a long-distance relationship with a girl I met over the internet.  I've sent her some things, like a letter, and christmas presents.  We talk on the internet, and on the phone.  We live a few states away, in the United States of America.  It would be a 3 hour plane flight to get there.  We are very much in love, we are both sure of that.  We started out as friends, and she delveloped feelings for me.  She is currently 15, and I'm 20.  We'll each be turning 16 and 21 rather soon.  I understand it's kind of wrong with her being underage, but after thinking about it for a while I gave it a try because she wanted to.  I have since fallen in love with her, and we've been through a lot.  She's cheated on my once, by kissing another guy, and we've had a few fights here and there.  But we have gotten over all that, and prefer to stay together because how much we love eachother.  This month will make it 6months.  The distance is hard for her because she really wants to be able to hold and hug me, and to feel my presense there kissing her.

We would both really like to be able to meet this year, with me flying over to her and her meeting me in a hotel.  Now her mother knows of me, but my girlfriend and I don't believe she knows of us being in a relationship.  So, for the meeting to happen it would also have to be behind her parent's backs.  My mother, which I've talked to about this, believes that it would be illegal for me to go and see her without her parent's consent.  I don't know if that is really true, it sounds kind of unfair to me.  I know if for now we did anything sexual it would be very much so illegal.  But it couldn't be illegal for us to just see each other in the flesh and hang out together, right ?

Her mother doesn't really seem to like me, with me being 20.  But I don't know if she knows I'm dating her daughter.  But we're both pretty sure if she did know she would be very un-happy, and wouldn't say "ok" to us meeting.

I love her with all my heart, and she feels the same.  Is there anything I can do so me and her can meet, she would really like to be able to just simply hug and kiss me, and I'D like the same.  Any advice as to help to keep the relationship going healthy or as to what we can do to make up for the distance? Or any way for us to meet ?

also, I was checking around earlier and I've found claims that the sexual age of consent in my state is 16, and 17 in hers.  Now it would be almost impossible for her to coem here with her parents not knowing.  But, if she did visit or move here when she was 16, would we be able to have a full relationship without any illegal worries, any idea?

Thanx in advance for any help.  I may sound bad for dating an underage girl, I understand why that may seem wrong.  But I just love her with all my heart, and we both would like to really get married and be together forever.  I know that sounds corny and may seem like we have our heads in the clouds, but we really can't think of a life right now without one another.  Any help or advice would be appreciated, thank you.
Seun (m)
Re: Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap
« #1 on: January 10, 2006, 07:12 PM »

True love can probably wait for 1-3 years.  There's no need to hurry.
dejiolowe (m)
Re: Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap
« #2 on: January 14, 2006, 05:12 PM »

r u related to r kelly?
Ashbaby (f)
Re: Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap
« #3 on: January 21, 2006, 11:24 PM »

 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin ;DVery funny!!! Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
MatureMe (f)
Re: Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap
« #4 on: January 22, 2006, 10:09 PM »

Please be patient with this, a 15 year old girl changes her mind quite often, don't move too fast, give her at least until 18 and don't pressure her either.  I am not sure if this will work and just never know it might work.  Respect her family too and you might see them make changes about how they feel about you too.
prettyH (f)
Re: Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap
« #5 on: January 22, 2006, 10:20 PM »

You guys are too young to be talking bout marriage.
ghettochyk (f)
Re: Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap
« #6 on: January 23, 2006, 08:37 PM »

sorry to laugh but this is so damn funny..... ok, i'll stop laughing. Smiley
Ashbaby (f)
Re: Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap
« #7 on: January 23, 2006, 08:38 PM »

@ LuigiSon,
I'll give u some hope. I met someone when I was 15 and he was older, but he couldn't ask me out because of the age....my age! So anyway, we somehow lost contact, but right now, we are dating and it's wonderful. So it's not a lose-lose situation. If you guys are patient, then you will be able to enjoy something more mature in due time. Let her grow....you also need to do a little bit of growing. Then things will possibly work out fine.
ghettochyk (f)
Re: Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap
« #8 on: January 23, 2006, 08:43 PM »

on a serious note, i think you should just wait till she's 18 so you won't get in trouble. by then her parents prolly won't be so pressed.
eveseh (f)
Re: Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap
« #9 on: April 25, 2006, 10:09 PM »

Quote from: ghettochyk on January 23, 2006, 08:43 PM
on a serious note, i think you should just wait till she's 18 so you won't get in trouble. by then her parents prolly won't be so pressed.
Cheesy Grin Grin
nikitareal (f)
Re: Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap
« #10 on: April 26, 2006, 01:57 PM »

some mothers would make hell available on earth if u date their daughters especially
when they r still young.u love her ,which is good .n i think d age gap is no
barrier,vnt u heard of 10,15 years diff,luck man
babymine (f)
Re: Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap
« #11 on: April 26, 2006, 02:53 PM »

@ deji

He's not. He's just 20!  Wink
kajad (m)
Re: Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap
« #12 on: April 26, 2006, 03:47 PM »

If you really want sleep with her without any problem whatsoever, then You have to bring her to Northern Nigeria; the age of consent could be less than 7   Grin  Grin  Grin
fuzek
Re: Looking For Some Help Please About A Relationship With A 5 Year Age Gap
« #13 on: August 25, 2007, 06:17 PM »

Quote from: kajad on April 26, 2006, 03:47 PM
If you really want sleep with her without any problem whatsoever, then You have to bring her to Northern Nigeria; the age of consent could be less than 7   Grin  Grin  Grin

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