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Alert (f)
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my friends, this has been my case since i was 14(started with my private lesson teacher), up till now that i am 25. each time i let a guy be my friend, one day or the other the guy would usually surprise me with a sexual move, either he's trying to touch me or he's outrightly trying to pull off my clothes.
i am dating a guy now whom i'm not in love wit also i have two ex-boyfriends trying to get back in my life, i don't like them either. i don't know why i attract the wrong guys in my life, i always fall for guys that are handsome(but i'm correcting that now).
please, tell me what to do when a guy harasses me, because i have one who's currently doing that.he's a co-worker.
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joyblinks (f)
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my dear, in the aspect of the guy harrasing you. please give him a good warning. shun am well.
and please try not to be falling for handsome guys oh. because some of them sef no get anything in them. them dey feel say na fine we go chop
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michelin89 (f)
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maybe you are just to hot to resist!  |
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joyblinks (f)
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my dear, in the aspect of the guy harrasing you. please give him a good warning. shun am well.
and please try not to be falling for handsome guys oh. because some of them sef no get anything in them. them dey feel say na fine we go chop
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moondust (m)
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pray not 2 see me o! because u'll definitely fall, view my profile and u'll know what i'm talkin 'bout
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lilian777 (f)
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It could be that you are ; a, usually surrounded by the same kind of people since you were 14 till date.ie places you find yourself at b, Sending the wrong signals unknowingly ie like 'come -get-me' kind of message, What kind of clothes do you wear? c, The kind of choices you make as regards to relationship d, Too friendly with the ones you shouldnt be too friendly with e, saying yes when you mean no( As regards to your present realtionship) You shouldnt be dating people you don't like f, what is your major reason for being friends with a guy anyway?If a guy feels you are taking advantage of him,he may want to get even by sexually harrasing you or otherwise. The Ego thingy, don't you think? g,Or, it could be that you are just DAMN too SEXY for them guys. you know ,like 'too hot to handle' and 'too cool for comfort.' |
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donenick (m)
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SweetHeart shine your eye very well
if you u don't love anybody no point of you westing time cut-out
But mind you Good ones are very few
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adeboo (f)
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It could be that you are ; a, usually surrounded by the same kind of people since you were 14 till date.ie places you find yourself at b, Sending the wrong signals unknowingly ie like 'come -get-me' kind of message, What kind of clothes do you wear? c, The kind of choices you make as regards to relationship d, Too friendly with the ones you shouldnt be too friendly with e, saying yes when you mean no( As regards to your present realtionship) You shouldnt be dating people you don't like f, what is your major reason for being friends with a guy anyway?If a guy feels you are taking advantage of him,he may want to get even by sexually harrasing you or otherwise. The Ego thingy, don't you think? g,Or, it could be that you are just DAMN too SEXY for them guys. you know ,like 'too hot to handle' and 'too cool for comfort.' Am with ma girl on this one. You really need to check yourself and if you feel that you have honestly been faultless and blameless in this whole situation, then you need to deal with the situation spiritually. You may not know it but you may have a seductive spirit aura around ya |
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anabell (f)
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na wa which one is this again, are u just tryin to tell us u are very hot.please put ur pics let c 4 ourselves y these guys wont let u be  |
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bunmii (f)
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if you don't like your boyfriend then why don't u break up with him
and for the attention how do u deal with the guys?? jus tell them to leave you alone and let them know u really mean it.
and about the handsome/ugly why don't you just look at the personality of the guy not just the face, some handsome guys have good personalities , u could do worse with an ugly guy with an ugly personality
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white`Nkem (f)
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My dear, if you want to get rid of a guy pestering you there is no nice way to tell him that. Just act very cold and don't mind him. Any innocent smile can be misinterpreted and they can cling on anything!! So please, be very careful who you make friends with next time. Try a guy who is committed and really in love with his girl so you'D be safe!
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Bolarge (m)
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@moondust My guy u funny sha.Respect.  @Alert/thread starter U no sabi slap? Some guys no dey hear word till they feel that hot vibe 4cheek.  |
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puker (m)
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Nothing is too hot to handle. If you are beautiful guys will flock around you. Some would even commit themself for you. But if your arrogant, troublesome, nagging, frigid, then no body stays around you too long. Just to have a feel of your butt and they scram.
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Seun (m)
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Get used to it. Attractive women are always harassed by horny idiots. You just need to learn how to handle it.
One way to send a message that you're not interested in sex is to wear very plain clothes around those annoying men. No cleavage enhancing clothes, no semi-transparent clothes, no short skirts. Suits and such are perfect. Another tip: avoid unnecessary physical contact with men: no hugging, no kissing or 'pecking', no talking about sex.
These men have been led to believe that they have to be aggressive to get a girl, so you need to be assertive.
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kliverpool (m)
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may be u should give your self this Yoruba or Guari tribal mark i swear it will work
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Obelomo
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My dear if u have to slap a guy that is haassing u, for him to stop than do it! Also do not be friendly with these guys so they know that u mean buisness. Alert u not have to date ugly guys, just make sure the guy has nice personality.
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software (m)
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may be u should give your self this Yoruba or Guari tribal mark i swear it will work
hehe he he he, Abeg o my sister, don't yield to his advice ooo, Watch Ur moves when u are around guys, Like others said. don't expose ur body in anyway, u know what i mean THanks |
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Chi angel (f)
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@ Alert
I don't think d problem is with the physical look of d bois, i think d pblm is with d d personality bhnd d look. DO u go out with sme1 because hes handsome or do u go out with sme1 because hes got d personality n xter u nid for a spouse? because from ur own words, u said ur 2 ex-bfs want u back n u don't like them either, n u don't like ur present guy, n one common thing about them is that they r handsome. So mayb u just go 4 d handsome guys without xter check? Look, thr r handsome guys out there with very good xter, so choose well, with ur eyes wide open. And for all d harrassments, hmmmmm tell them off, Do watever u can to make them know u aint interested, n don't get tooo close to them because mayb that is what mkes them think ur interested, 2ndly thr r certain thins u don't talk about with them n certain clothes u don't wear around them, not to pass d wrong information. Gurl, no b ur fault sey u too fine, but use wisdom get wetin u want.
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IBB Fan (m)
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with a username like Alert, where do you expect the eyes (and probably d1cks) of the guys to turn to? sometimes, we just look for solutions to our porblems in far places when they're sitting right there on our foreheads.  i for like to see ur pic sha! |
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nnenneigbo (f)
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hehehe me too i wan see the picture too. that way we can tailor our advice. all your replies make me laugh out loud.
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olalekan1 (m)
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hey there, its a serious matter but i will just advice you to go and report to the police or his nearby family or relations,
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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Police for naija, ke. lmao |
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BlackMamba (m)
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Nothing is too hot to handle. If you are beautiful guys will flock around you. Some would even commit themself for you. But if your arrogant, troublesome, nagging, frigid, then no body stays around you too long. Just to have a feel of your butt and they scram. Nuff said. Seem like one of those little brat who often feel entitled. |
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aik.mamah (m)
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the fundamental reason is because of THE WAY U DRESS and the kind of company u keep. also i have no doubt you r the kind that like showing off to guys, u might equally be rude to guy (they don't always like it that way)
don't call fo unnessary attraction
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shockreaction (m)
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You get harassed by guys because you LET them harass you.
Simple logic here. Moving along now.
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topeorekoy (m)
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i guess u like guys that have cars to drive around. flashy guys? thats one kmistake some ladies make, u can't expect most guys to spend, trip a lady out and not want to remove her cloths. i have done it. i love it when a lady loves me not for what she wants from me but she has to love for real, not for what i have in terms of looks, cash, ride to take her around. aint trying to be rude to the ladies, most are like that.
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DewDrop (f)
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oh whatever! deal with it People are hungry in the world this one is worried about having too many guys trying to get at her  What about those women who wish a man would look their way and not point & laugh Unless they're trying assault you in anyway just enjoy it- you only get like 5-10 more years of this. If it really does bother you that much, quit being friends with men.Though it seems to me that u relish that attention! your with someone you don't even like- For why!? So why won't the wrong impression be made of you?!? you obviously can stay around someone and not let them know your true feelings so can we blame friend A for making moves? Anyway- about your co-worker, tell him to stop or you'll report his behavior to a supervisor And if he doesn't FOLLOW THROUGH! Don't make empty threats! |
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biozy (m)
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questions. are u sumptous?what kind of dresing u dress?how do u talk?may b they wanted to take advantage of that). i think u hav this inferiority complex.just seat yourself n figure where u got somethings wrong.and correct them
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olabosun (m)
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U might be somehow attractive & loose.
Maybe u're d jokin type of a woman & u play allot.what u'll need to do is Jst 2 minimise familiarities wit guys. Nd pray,so that u'll never attract wrong men 2 manage ur future as a woman.that is the greatest mistake anyone cld do. My dear.
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romeo (m)
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put your picture first and after i'll decide
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moondust (m)
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girl, retain your friendliness abeg and enjoy the attention while it lasts. just don't let anybody convert a handshake to a hug. |
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Bolarge (m)
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I repeat U no sabi slap? Any nonsense "Oooh Tunde pleeease stop it now. . " no be for typical ogbonge Naija playas. For them na stimulant. Correct slap na 1 thing no guy fit misinterprete. |
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