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Elgaxton (m)
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Ojelede!
Marriage has nothing to do with pity or sentimentality, Go and Watch Gardener's Daughter(AIT--9.00pm weekdays)
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9ja4eva (m)
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Please do not marry out of pity, get married to someone you understand and who understands you too, someone you know you can live with and be happy, you musn't necessarily love her.
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efuah (f)
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marriage because of pity??? hell no!
you will forever regret
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Gift4all (m)
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Nooooooooooooooooooooooo
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phantah (f)
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marriage is a forever thing and it shouldn't be ventured into lightly. it's a wonderful thing to marry someone you love and who loves you back and even better if the person is your best friend, that way you'll never get it wrong. but to marry for pity, please don't ever try it, it will cost you, a lifetime.
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Queen B (f)
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Never!! Its like marrying someone only for money. I will never in my life do that
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ceceee (f)
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u don hear,u marry for love,to marry out of pity is the biggest mistake anyone can make,because u'll sentence yourself to longterm unhappiness.
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simeony (m)
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i can never marry any girl out of pity please
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pisces20
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if u marry someone out of pity soon you'll start to pity yourself  . it's not a good idea, there are better ways to pity someone other than marriage. |
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degubi (m)
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opuro how can u explain understanding without the trace of love?  |
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missparker
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this is interesting well i wont that either i just wanted to if there is someone out there who feels the other way round.you marry the person you love so that you can have enternal peace of mind .
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dudu-bobo
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no one will pity you when you get divorced
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ade.f (m)
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Yet instances of where couples have been married without knowing each other before their wedding day (in some cases, just a few weeks/months) abound. Take arranged marriages in india, pakistan and some parts of asia for example. people stay together for a long time. because they have no choice, they try to make it work and to a greater extent, suceed. maybe its an overated emotion this love. As with couples that "love" themselves, this emotion like all others, tend to fade. just like u can't be angry all your life, or cry all your life or be happy all your life, you can't love all your life.
How do you account for the fact that even after you are married or going out with a guy/girl, you still meet people that tickle your fancy and would even possibly make better partners or spouses? you make a choice not to pursue such emotions as the end could be disastrous for all concerned.
And before someone interjects saying "but you didnt even have that in a loveless relationship to start with", the answer is they build it as they go along. Maybe not love, but a form of respect that arguably performs the same purpose. Call it "mind over matter" if you will, the end result in both cases, is the same.
Opinions please-----
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oyinboaja
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Yet instances of where couples have been married without knowing each other before their wedding day (in some cases, just a few weeks/months) abound. Take arranged marriages in india, pakistan and some parts of asia for example. people stay together for a long time. because they have no choice, they try to make it work and to a greater extent, suceed. maybe its an overated emotion this love. As with couples that "love" themselves, this emotion like all others, tend to fade. just like u can't be angry all your life, or cry all your life or be happy all your life, you can't love all your life.
How do you account for the fact that even after you are married or going out with a guy/girl, you still meet people that tickle your fancy and would even possibly make better partners or spouses? you make a choice not to pursue such emotions as the end could be disastrous for all concerned.
And before someone interjects saying "but you didnt even have that in a loveless relationship to start with", the answer is they build it as they go along. Maybe not love, but a form of respect that arguably performs the same purpose. Call it "mind over matter" if you will, the end result in both cases, is the same.
Opinions please-----
I absolutely concur with you stupid brainwashed people think love is what will make a marriage work yet all the ones who supposedly loved before marring are mostly getting divorced whereas those who did not love in the way they want us to believe stay together and make their families work. |
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cynic411 (f)
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No way. So what happens when you get married, extra marital affairs start on the same day you say "i do" or even before then?
Let him/her know that you no longer feel it. It will be hard at that point but remember that no matter how bitter the truth is, it must be said. Time surely heals all wounds and the dumped party will surely get over it.
The person might even wonder what he/she saw in you in the first place.
Get your happiness first, not pity for others when it comes to matters like this.
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ne4real (f)
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no way !!!!! there r no sentimentsin marriage.
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ish! (f)
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i can never do that- marry someone out of pity; instead, i would rather go nun
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legry (m)
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Who are you pitying, yourself or your partner? Please,  |
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temmyabby (f)
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ayodewale (m)
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What God has Joined together let no man put assunder. that what the book of God siad. there are no two ways to it. Don't decieve yourself, by marrying out pity because it will not work out. never.
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diamondd (f)
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yea i will only if he agree divorce out of pity (then it'll be me to pity)
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Creamish (f)
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Ive dated out of pity but marry ? . . . noo ooooooo. . . ce n'est pas possible. . . means i'l b commiting myself to a pitiable marriage out of pity  |
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hazzel (f)
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God forbid !!!
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Ollie39
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No way. That will be like a death sentence!!
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chikasmile
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I am eighteen and married but most people i have met seem pessimistic about my marriage even family members.I lov my husband and he loves me i don't understand why people thinks i am joking or some can even believe it is posible.i want to know if there is anything an eighten year old woman cannot handle in marriage or is it my fault that my MR RIGHT came so early?Well so far am coping very fine and i don't see any sign of problem.I know marriage is not a bed of roses but is it that bad?
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Cori_corde (f)
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Marriage means totally committing yourself and spending the rest of your life with someone. The PITY will wear out and thn you'll find yourself in a state of pity. I rest my case.  |
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