20 years age difference - does it really matter?

If your 30 and above, having a partner 20 years older is okay. Otherwise; you'll be manipulated by the age difference and experience that coms along with it.

Let's say RMD is still single and eligible and he proposes to you and you are only 18, will you accept or refuse?

I know a successful professor in Nigeria who only got married at 50 plus.
He was a professor at UNN.
He was happy when he was still single at 50 and happier now married to a much younger person and she was the one who convinced him to marry. Because, he was too busy with his projects to be bothered by women who cannot offer him anything more than marriage.

My father married early at 35 and I am over 40 and I am still single and I am very very happy and more concerned about my charities than chasing skirts or being monopolized by a woman in a selfish relationship or marriage.

Most people in Nigeria tell you to marry early so that you can raise up your children before you die.

They also tell you to marry so that you will have children to survive you.

With all the early marriages in Nigeria, we have only increased the population of poor people all over Nigeria. Because  millions have rushed into marriage without family planning and have multiplied the socio-economic crises in Nigeria.

The age difference is not even the problem, but the productivity.

Useless relationships have produced useless marriages.

I will only marry for the sake of "Jaiyesimi".
I have a publishing company and the two books I have published between January and February mean more to me than taking a girl or lady to the altar.
Right now, I am more interested in relationships that can turn the fortunes of Nigeria around to improve the state of Nigerians.

What we need most now in Nigeria are not sexual productions, but human capital development.

If I find a young girl of 18 or an older woman of 50 who can inspire me to write a bestseller or make a great film, I will marry her right away. But not all the materialistic girls and ladies who cannot offer anything more upstairs, except to lure you into marriage and make babies and have comfortable families.
Even sheep and goats do that and have been more peaceful than humans.

Look at Nigeria and look at where your ways of life have led us.
The most populous country in Africa and among the poorest in the world.

The sooner we know our priorities in Nigeria the better.

I don't see anything wrong with it. Personally, I can date a 40 year old. My boyfriend is 31 and I'm 18 . . . everything is working out fine.

Rhodalyn,
Do you support a younger woman and older man marriage?

Personally I can only date a younger woman. But I want her to marry a younger man. Why? For her own peace of mind. I have my life to live.

But if the younger lady is in love with the older man, what should the older man do?
Reject her and break her heart?

I heard that it was Lady Bianca Ono who talked Chief Emeka Ojukwu into their marriage. And they say they are still happily married.

I am really worried, because I have seen younger women falling in love with older men and their parents even welcomed the older men.

I care for humans a lot and that is why I don't condemn anybody engaged in pre-marital sex or extra-marital sex. Because, we did not create ourselves and it only natural to be attracted to the opposite sex. And if the babe is old enough to choose the boy or man she wants to be with, why should we discourage or stop her?
Her security is what matters most. And if the older man can take good care of her, let them be.

Jacob was 47 when he married Leah and waited another 7 years to marry Rachel in the Holy Bible. And from my researches, I found out that they were very much younger than him.

So, when hypocritical "christians" are posing and posturing over an older man getting married to a younger woman, they are only fooling themselves. Because, once the nubile girl or maiden is 18, she is even free to leave her parents and marry the man she wants to be her husband for life.

Jesus Christ never officiated any wedding and none of his disciples did. So, I don't know where churches got their bill of rights to make rules and regulations for marriage. Because, Jesus Christ never gave us such an assignment.

The business of Christians is to make disciples of all nations as Jesus Christ gave us the great commission before his ascended to heaven.

I am making a comprehensive post, because I want to address many religious and moral sentiments on this topic.
 

yes i can date a guy who is 20yrs older than me. as a matter of fact am in a relationship with a guy who is about 24yrs my senior, we've been 2geda for a year and 5months, and he's talking marriage. i love him so much (and am willing and ready to settle down with him), because he's passionate about life, loves me for me. i think it depends on your heart and what's in it. so if u find ur self in that situation, think about it before taking actions.
NB:am no aristo girl.

initially the age difference wont matter but lets face it sooner or later the age difference will become apparent. you'll be putting on your husband's diapers and helping him into the bath tub.
women are die hard romantics but reality paints a harsh picture. as long as you're ready to do what it entails, knock yourself out!