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trae_z (m)
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so my brother bougth me Praise George's "mastering money" personal development CD for my birthday and i was listening to it. near the beginning Praise makes a statement that "lack of money is the leading cause of marital unhappiness and divorce"
i'm kind of confused here because i thought that honour fell to unfaithfulness/infidelity. so married folks in the house, what do you have to say about that?
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cute-ass (f)
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Well even though i know money shouldn't be the no.1 priority to dating or marrying someone, i still have to agree with the fact that some marriages do end because of financial failures (if i may put it that way) Some ladies get so frustrated living from hand to mouth that they walk  so yes " it is a possible cause marital unhapiness and divorce", but "leading"?? Not sure i totally agree with that , ,  |
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davidylan (m)
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Hey Trae_z, welcome back to Nairaland. so glad to have you back!  i'm not married but money is probably the single most dangerous marital love killer. |
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Aproko (f)
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i'm not married but i don't think lack of money is the leading cause of marital unhapiness and divorce.its more like disagreement over money. when a couple starts to fight about money issues, then that marriage is on the way down.for those that do not have, the fight may be about 'when are we ever going to have?'and for those that have, it may be 'you want to finish all the money?' na wah sef oh  |
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afolayangs (m)
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Money is important in a relationship but not all that necessary/ one of the factors that cause marital failure.
******without money nothing can be done******
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jidody (m)
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Lack of conflict resolution skills is the leading cause. There is absolutely no problem that cannot be resolved. Couples only need to master the Art of Conflict Resolution.
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efuah (f)
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i think it's unfaithfulness that causes most divorce. but there are some women who hate to tolerate poverty. money can be a partial cause of divorce but not the main reason. as the saying goes; when there is life, there is hope.  |
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tasiana
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Partly the cause but can't say its the major cause.
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degubi (m)
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the lack of money does not guartantee marital bliss, the presence of money (lots of it) does not also guarantee marital bliss, what guarantees marital bliss are the two parties in the marriage, in a joint effort working in every conceivable way with the strenght of God to make their marriage work. any marriage based on the wrong foundation will eventually colapse, if the foundation is not good the building will never be good.
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moondust (m)
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Too much money can ruin a marriage just like lack of money. So it basically has to do with the level of bonding between a couple for it to work
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Pain
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I Think "The Love Of Money Is The Leading Cause Of Marital Hate. The Lack of Money Is The Leading Source Of Marital ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Well  See What I Mean? I Doesnt Make Sense. Money, Money Money, "Mo Money Mo Problem"---Gospel of Biggie 3:19 |
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dollyp1cute (f)
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am not married though, but i think it's unfaithfulness that causes most divorce.
, Money and the management of money (or lack of it) is the single most common cause for marriage break up this days, so says statistics. Unfaithfulness is quite rampant (especially among the men) but the woman just turns blind eye as long as the man is taking care of his duties. Lack of conflict resolution skills is the leading cause.
@jibody Is there anyway of improving your conflict resolution skills, training, seminar or courseone can attend. |
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delboy (m)
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Bruv, it is without a shadow of doubt, the leading cause cause of it.
Heard the phrase no romance without finance! It be true. That's when the so-called loving wife will discover s0-called -ex-boyfriend from 10 years b/4 now doing well and still professing undying love for her. Thats when she will suddenly remember you've not being taken her to places you used to visit, when you first started dating and a whole glut of other nonsense.
Bruv listen and learn from the CD very, very well, because a lot us, including myself have developed bad habits relating to taking financial decisions. Get your money right son, so that without anyones assistance u can handle all your bills by yourself and and live according to what you can afford.
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monshege
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There are many things that contribute to marital unhappiness or divorce but i would say that lack of money (on the part of the husband) or more money (on the part of the wife) is the leading cause.
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biozy (m)
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yes o! lack of money is the major cause of marital unhappiness,too much money is also one.
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mazaje (m)
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Money is very very important in a relatıonship and is definately a leading cause of marital unhappiness and divorce.
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pisces20
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Money is not a neccessity in marriage but it's still important. Lack of money in marriage can make marriage boring thereby leading to unhappiness and probably divorce.
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BlackMamba (m)
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You bet. "Kesh" can do a lot of magic in all human endeavors. As a man you either have it and keep your dignity or count on love and remain a lap dog.
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akara (m)
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Its a very important part of any relationship including marriage. The reason one is suppossed to know ones partner and if they can cope with or without dough and if they can be that understanding. The lack of money should not be a cause for divorce.
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crazykid (m)
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If you want to have a happy marriage, then money shouldn’t be a problem.
When there are money limitations in the family, there’s bound to be unnecessary quarrels between the husband and wife.
The children would keep fighting over food and other unnecessary embarrassments, which can lead to a divorce.
Money is essential in marriages
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abubaka (m)
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yes bro,i can testify to that money is very very essential in marital life.
I once experienced it,my brother was sometime back retrenched from UBA?STB.Before the incident,the wife had been very loyal and loving.but cld u blieve that few months after the retrenchment and the hell lot of money that the husband has been remitting is no longer coming;the wife just started misbehaving and always try picking offence on decisions taken by the husband.
Since then,i got to degist the whole and finally arrived at the fact the reason behind all these problems bw them is because the husband is no longer making money like before and is not really lavishing the little he got from former employer.
Bros,try putting good financial structures on ground before venturing into marrying,because havin a family is more than just marryin your wife and feeding her.
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TaxMan (m)
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@ Abubaka
I completely agree with you, one should not venture into this union if ones financial future seems bleak. The lack of money is obviously a major strain militating against a succesful marriage.
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spoilt (f)
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lack of money is honestly one reason for marital unhappiness. ive seen relatives living in excrutiating poverty. they fight all the time about money and some marriages have ended when the women couldnt take it any more. its like a bad joke.
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TaxMan (m)
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lack of money is honestly one reason for marital unhappiness. ive seen relatives living in excrutiating poverty. they fight all the time about money and some marriages have ended when the women couldnt take it any more. its like a bad joke.
@ Spoilt Why is it that it is our women who feel the worst effects of the poverty level? We really need to empower our women don't you think? Thankfully, most of my male friends who are considering marriage insist on their women being gainfully employed. |
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spoilt (f)
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when a family is poor, i think the woman and children feel it the most. during visits from poor relatives my dad often gives the woman woman secretly just so she and children can survive. its really terrible. it's good for women to learn a trade. inasmuch as you love the man, u should be able to fend for yourself and your kids when the chips are down!
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dollyp1cute (f)
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@jibody
Thanks for the info
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mubowa (f)
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yes, money is one of the number one cause not actually the main no 1
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TaxMan (m)
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@ mubowa
Kindly enlighten us as to the main cause of Marital unhappiness, 'the main No.1' as you have aptly described it.
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mubowa (f)
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the no 1 cause is actually if you guys are both unbelievers or your marriage is an arranged one(God first)
we all know money answereth all things. okay take a slight look at a situation where the man his not rich and the woman is contented with the situation but the man him self is not okay thinking he's a subject of ridicle. after complanning for a long time and the situation doesn't change he started accusing his wife to be a witch. this is still better because one can stand the anger of a man but in woman cases when the man is not well to do. you your self do not even want me to go into the detail. just know if u are not rich and your wife has an elaborated mouth you are finished. because she will abuse and insult you, sleep with another man and which leaving you without divource for a rich man. and how about when too much of money cause problem
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babyosisi (f)
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Money is definitely not everything but the lack of it is catastrophic in any marriage.
Girls please do not marry a jobless man.
When the chips are down, love will not turn into a plate of jollof rice!!
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