Why Are My Friends In Nigeria Always Asking Me For Money?

Hello Guys, I believe that God has given us freely,
so freely we are expected to give without complaining.
This is based on the fact that whatever we have is from God.
Remember the Bible says
"a man( woman- emphasis mine) receives nothing except it is given him (her) from above (The place of His Majesty)"

Wishing you all the best.

simple - u have bad and hungry friends-

people are bad because they asked for cash , i dint know that or mabe thats in ur own commandment

then when u ask for directions in a place where u are nt familiar with, what are u? an abductor or better still a murderer

ROFLMAO  . thats the case most times for some of this self acclaimed "highclass" xters

hi folks,

you said your friends is always asking you for money.

why not teach him how to fish instead of giving him a fish that you catch every time for your self and family.

This was what my friends introduced me to some months ago, and i never told any one.

i am telling you now,  to tell him to stop begging and do something for himself


when my friend told me this, i never believed i could work in lagos as an international staff and still work with my old firm, while i earn my money in dollars.

every month i earn over $6000 dollars from , club     ,        freedom.

just started in nigeria. it is already in existence in 6 countries like Indian, Austrialia,, since september 2006--- last year.

Their head office will soon be in Nigeria.

i never believed it, until i saw that my friend who introduced me to it with his job with MTN earn $6000 monthly for little or nothing

you too can be a member/staff and earn your money with little or nothing.


cheers.
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while @funloving might have come across as condescending, his post raised several valid points.too many people are freeloaders who will take advantage of others more fortunate than them if given the chance.

in secondary school (boarding), i sometimes found myselfin a situation in which all my ´friends´had 'borrowed' my best gear, leaving me with nothing to wear.sometimes, somone would tell me that he'D 'misplaced' a shirt .

all this meant that when i went to university, i adopted a hardline wih people from the very beginning.It is often easy to disparage others who are fortunate as being selfish.i also did this in secondary school.(see ___ he doesn´t want to share his grub!bloody miser) but one must keep in mind that one mans discipline is another man´s stinginess.

as to giving people assistance, i  recomend the approach adopted by western universitis in awarding scholarships:proven evidence of finacial acumen/discipline, and immediate cancellation of assistance in the event of the _´s failur to meet some set goals.in order to be effective, philantrophy must be hard headed.the aim is to elevate people to independent, capable individuals, not perpetual welfare cases.
my old man worked in the middle east for 10 years. it was no picnic for him, or for my mum.it was pretty cool for us kids(grin).some of my my dad´s siblings are . .  .  .you get my drift. he had a sister who was running a trading business.you know the kind-soft drinks, buiscits, indomie, etc, that you see in a thousand locations in Lagos.My dad pumped capital into her biz.Bought her a deep freezer, put up an allowance, he even put her up in our house in lag.the moment he came back home, and the cash flow stopped, the business immediately shrank to a miniusle operation.as for the house,i live there now(thats another long story) and she left it in a terrible state. the amount of money i´ve sunk into fixing it up makes me sigh(and i´m not half done yet)I've often wondered what would have happened if all that money had been invested in shares or in a more capable person(beleive me, the full story of the wasted doe/opprortunities  is sickening!).

Maybe i´m being cold, but i beleive you should get maximum utility from any expenditure/investment. if my aunt had developed into a highly successful businesswoman, one would smile and be happy for her.sadly, she developed into a parasite.and thats what most people who come around asking for money are,in my opininon.

as to lending out money, i try to follow some advice i read somewhere,'lend out half of what was asked, or the borrowr will regret not asking for more.alternatively, if i feel the person is in need, but is a risk(why spoil our friendship?) i'll GIVE a fraction of the amount asked, pleading  difficulties. 

asking for money is not really bad, 
but the problem is that they over ask and no amount of
money u send to them will ever be enough,
i think they should take it easy, people out side the country
go through a lot too, 

at least they asked not stole.

i have lost my friendship with my best friend in the whole world. i loved her so much but it's sad it came to something flimsy that put us apart. she asked me for money, that she was going to a wedding and she was the bridemaid and needed money for the clothes. 2years earlier, i had given some money to her mom out of love.

here am i, a full time student doing a little part time job to kill boredom, i gave it a thot and well the reason my friend wanted money wasn't good enough for me. so i ignored the mail. she never wrote me anymore. i miss our friendship and i tried to get in touch with her to no avail. I'm sure if it was a life and death thing, i will be more than happy to help. but this was for fashion  i expected her to know better as an educated girl.

was I wrong, my heart tells me no. but then i miss her alot but such is life.
when you ask for money, and someone says no or give excuse, don't be mad at the person. being oversea is not tantamount to rich student etc. . you never know what that student has in mind or is facing.

it's when it comes to money that you know who is your friend.

Gayle, Oprah's best friend has said it that if she was asking Oprah for money, their friendship wouldn't have been where it is today. she said even when she was struggling, she never asked of money from Oprah. And that's how it's supposed to be. They both still laugh about those hardship days.

I miss my friend alot. I hope someday we will be able to talk to each other.

Feel you@omoege. I have also lost a friend back home, because I could not fulfil his outrageous demands. The guy even had the nerve to tell a former classmate of mine that our friendship was not working out, because of this reason. I say, don't lose sleep over it.

roflmao, now that is funny , but seriously she is ur friend explaining to her would ve been better than ignoring her, mab she kind of felt insulted/inferior by/to you for ignoring her because u are in yanks. u know how people start imaginig things like no one wants to kiss anyone's ar$e.

I saw the topic and burst out LAUGHING!!! , haven't read d replies but I bet somebody has given you one similar to the one I'm goin2give, but I'm still goin2give it anyway, "ur frnds in Nig always ask you for money because ur not in the country n the automatic Nigeria way of finkin is dt "u've gone out of d country to ENJOY" forget d fact dt u mentioned dt ur frm d "upper" class in Nigeria, they'D still ask u for money even if u guys washed toilets together for a livin( before u travelled).

However, with someone who has lived on d streets before(not literally), dey r streetwise n know how to ignore such demands without offendin d asker but for the "aje-butters", its a different story, some r a little bit street wise and can deal with such demands, while some are just plain selfish and choose to avoid such situations, while the other innocent unsuspectn ones give, give and give, after some time, dey bcum wary, excesssively wary so dey cnt differentiate btween d genuine demand for help and the fake one, and just stop altogether, (u cn usually tell when u meet people like this because they r honest, brutally honest)

But from ur story, u said u dnt discriminate in choosing people u associate with, ryt? So, you shld have frnds who belong to the street wise category, learn frm them, and "stop actin like u r frm the "upper" class, if u wnt to mix, mix totally n leave dt "upper" class accent at home, u know, dnt try to "remind" them, dt u r not in their class, and dey shld wash ur feet because u r bringin yourself down to "associate" with them (if u r dt kind of person )

nyways, nuff said, me finks, goodluck with it

I think your manner of approach to those your poor  friends makes them demand for money from you. what i mean by your manner of approch is that, you have make feel you rich and in a higher level of living.
Otherhand, i will advice you to come out plain by letting understand friendship is not all demanding.