How well do you relate with your ex?

Well, I guess they are 'Ex' because we could not make a head or tail of the relationship.  But I can assure you, there is none of my Ex's that can speak evil of me.

I make sure that, even if I was the initiator of the break up, they still feel good about their stupidity.

In fact, my last girl in the university still wants us back, because I am the only one that calls her at odds times, just like before.  Guess what?  She is in Yankee now o.

Well, thank God sha, that is the story now.

Seun, I shall not banter words with you on this, I'll let it pass.

You have showed enough naivity when it comes to relationships

It is funny how we sometimes refused to read between the lines..You never ask why?

For starters, I wish people would simply stop swearing or using offensive words in public forums, it's such a turn-off. I am so viciously allergic to it   (language discussion continued here)

Be that as it may. Whether or not one maintains a cordial relationship with their ex depends largely on the nature of the break-up. For instance, my ex and I don't even talk, not for his lack of trying though. We met at a party a few months ago after like 14 months or more and I could not be bothered to speak to him. When you put all possible effort into a relationship and the other party is heartless enough to walk all over that and cheat on you repeatedly, what on earth are you calling each other up for? Social banter? Thanks, but no thanks.

It gets out of hands sometimes. Infact one of the major reasons this same ex of mine and I called it quits was because of his ex. The girl is married with a kid but would call my ex at the drop of a hat. She was barely out of the hospital and back home with her child when she called my ex to complain of backache or some other rubbish... I think that's bollocks. On the other hand, my other ex and I talk over the phone every 6 months or something. I don't think it's very proper to carry on a relationship on whatever scale with your ex.  Especially when you've supposedly moved on and into another relationship.

I wouldn’t want my man spending time on the phone or meeting up with his ex and I most certainly won’t do to him what I don’t want him to do to me.  There's something Nigerian guys call Okafor’s Law. I'll let the guys explain what that is.

Honestly I'm hearing this for the first time.  Damn TRAE, I thought you were a walking encyclopedia on relationships

Well, yeah, I can relate with the law.  When my ex and I meet we still do feel like hitting it, although she claims to be seeing someone else now.

Give a little poot poot, it's ok (Fart Sound)
Oops my CD just skipped
And everyone just heard you let one rip ...Eminem in "just lose it".

I guess I just let one rip ... mis-yarned

Holier-than-thou people ...

Why bother to ask about my past relationships if you don't want to hear about it?

Every man on his own.

I have no problem with my ex.  We still see each other as good friends, but not on the other side.  After all no one knows tommorrow.

Thanks for the vote of confidence, girlfriend (?) and welcome aboard. Please share your ideas away sista, we're all ears .

Another boyfriend indeed! You cheeky fellow....

  if I keep blushing for another second, I'll definitely turn scarlet and that's no small feat for a black babe.

I'm touched Ikpa, thanks a lot.

Seun.....

I won't exactly say that Rotimi; welcome to the forum by the way. Yes it does take a lot of extra efforts, it involves travelling more often that you ordinarily would and let's not forget the cost. BUT..... it will and it does work if both parties are determined. If you really value that relationship, you might want to have a re-think my brother.

All the best

hmnn.. quite an interesting topic i must say..i took  my time to read all your replies & i must say we've really got some walking encyclopedia about relationships in this forum.. keep it up!!

coming back to the topic.. i must say it really depends on the way & what led to your breaking up a relationship....somehow i always manage to still have a good rapour with my EX-es... we mite not be talking on phone or seeing every time but then once in a while we have to holla at each other..

my last dude cheated on me.. so we called it quit............& fought for some times (like 3wks).. but the first time i set my eyes on him after the break up & fights.. we both couldn't help it. we had to sit down & laugh over the past 3weeks,, but guess what? we re still good friends & when people see us in town. they will think we re still dating but GOD help me if i should go back into that relationship.....
he has been staging a 'come back' but i made it obvious to him that i still like him but will never go into the relationship anymore...i can't afford to be hurt again!!!!!!!!
what do u think?

Ra,
u re such a wonderful adviser.. thanks so much.. if i must be truthful.. i think i still entertain deep feelings for him some where inside of me, but the truth is that i believed him so much the first time that when he messed up, i was emotionally shattered.. it almost affected my work,, thank God i got a good grip of myself.... i am now so scarred of getting hurt again.. i know if i go back to him, there will be a repeat performance

Aunty Ra,
I have a big big problem and I need help too.
You see, anytime I see any of my ex-girlfriends, I always remember the good 'ol times and always fell like having one last night with 'em
Even if I still have this one last night with 'em, which usually happens, I still fell like having one more night when next I meet 'em 
How do I get rid of this habit because it's driving me nutzZ!!

BTW, this is a genuine problem so plzzzZZZ treat with utmost urgency

Me I think my ex hates me

I broke up, and I must admit it was for a kind of stupid reason, but I needed air, and I couldn't tell him (don't know why).  I sent him so many messages ("I'm sorry, please forgive me" and so on)

But the guy never replied.  The worst of it all is that he called for a date and didn't show up, just after the break up.
I met his cousins on the chat and they were like "you heart-breaker, how could you?"

So you can imagine what he's been going around telling his friends about me.  But apart from that, it's quite alright with the other Ex's (not that I had many :lol:)

[i][/i]i agree with everybody that says it depend on motive with which you broke up.but it can never be like before.i think in respect of any motive, one should relate freely with one ex.