If Your Boyfriend Refuses To Make Love To You

My boyfriend came back from London (he is based in Nigeria) and stayed for more than a month. We made love the first week he came back, and then, he traveled on a business trip to another state that week and stayed a week. When he came back, we were supposed to travel together, but circumstances which were above us arose, which i understood. On the last week he was to go back, i felt like making love to him, but he would always come up with one excuse or the other, until he left, to be back at the end of next month. We had a quarrel cos of this, but have made up.

Dear nairalanders, what should i do to make him want me more? I still love him and we still communicate as if nothing happened.

@ ne4real

   waiting to see how many idiots will come to advice her to get some outside

That is a big no no, anyone that advices you such is a home braeker and doesn't want your hapiness, that is a road you'll regret in a long long while, do not take it

You still love him, and you know he loves you?? then galfriend you're at the top of your game!

Is this the first time its happening??

If yes, you don't have a problem. He's a human-being remeber with the ability to want and not want something at a particular time. It is believed by some that whenever one party is ready, then the other should be at their service

But in a home of understanding and right of choice, it shouldn't be so. Just like you might find yourself in the situation someday, he should be able to teløl you that for one reason or the other he's not in the mood

You did say, you guys had a quarrel and at the end of the day made up. Honey, swim in hapiness Cos you're one of the lucky ones.
It goes to show you guys have the key . . COMMUNICATION !!!

So dear, work with it, I'm sure next time he'll at least meet you half way, but you have to pay a prize too, meet him half way too. Atimes, just be understanding, he loves you, he wants to satisfy you and make you happy, but he's still human. Sometimes, just bear with him, you can't have it all at all times .

You guys sound happyto me, remain that!!!!!!!!

I think your boo might just have his mind on other issues. The only way you can find out is to talk it over with him.Ask if there is any problem. For me, I used to like sex in my relationship but it was getting outta hand and when i decidedto cut down it wasnt easy because my girl thought it was something she did but it wasnt. It was just sum personal conviction. I just try to space our intercourse adequately. Thats how it works for me. If you give me too much I just might puke!!! Talk to the bloke. Its the only way to get things sorted. Cheers

Exactly.  We need to know the reason he gave otherwise we can't even begin to think of a solution.

maybe the guy don get anoda babe wey fine pass u.

or im wan try anoda yansh abi? or im don tire 4 u

 (but if at the end of the day he's still not cut out for it, it still doesn't necessarily have to be something bad)

You're too kind, some men won't even relax to the point of being sucked, sucking the breasts and fingering. Some will rise up and walk away, Guess everybody is just different!!


Not so great point

Btw cute_ass, lol I thought you knew Nairaland by now. She's a girl so she wont get responses telling her to go outside, now had the OP been a guy well then you know that goes.

LOL 

Perhaps the guy was fasting and praying for business success or on deliverance, abi wetin make i talk!!

Dear, this is not the right thread for that.

Start up a new thread for more helpful replies, this is how you do that:

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-17637.0.html

Good luck with your  research!!!

Dearest J-girl so you know my  trade mark eh? 

from your response! whether she jumps him! or he jumps her( 2/2=? )as long as they're jumping each other!  problem solved ! 

Give him time.

Don't start taking it so personal he isn't seeing someone else ok?
What you're experiencing happens in relationships. Sometimes, you just want to be left alone. You don't want to be disturbed, you just need privacy to be alone for once,
Don’t get him so wrong dear. The worst disaster that two lovers can ever experience is if they don’t understand each other.
If he doesn't want sex, take it that way. If he wants it, give it to him.
don't pick up unnecessary argument over irrelevent issues

one sincere advice- take it slow, go with the rhythm. From experience i've noticed that even a supposed sex god could have his "off" days. i usually loose my appetite for sex when someone gets me angry prior to sex-e.g receiving an annoying phone call or realising i'd not done something i should have like earlier in the day. These things happen aight, it wont stop happening, the koko is that when it happens fill in the gap with something else.

Men love sex and I have not seen any that refuses sex. Your man is probably sniffing another Girl's behind. Next time he comes home grab him by the balls and demand good service or go buy yourself a good dildo

You're a woman, seduce him  or you wan make another woman show you aw   , jk  thats not an option.  I don't know oh, maybe hes under a lot of pressure, give him some space but let him still feel your presence.

I wonder when sex become breakfast, lunch and dinner which you must shove down the throat of others. If you have a long throat for sex you better look for someone who matches your libido otherwise respect his right to say mba.

True fcukin' story - The realest reply so far!

Listen shawday, does one have to spell it out for you? Read between the lines ma'

Oh and by the way, get at me when you leave that clown in the dust. I got big plans for you!