My Boyfriend Buys Me Buka Food!

my boyfriend and i have been going off and on for sometime, i admit that the fault is mine but here's what he's fond of doing:

each time i go to his place and i tell him im hungry, he buys me food from the local bukateria! at first i tot this was spposed to be an infrequent thing but i noticed that he never buys me food from nice places.   u can call him an "iya basira Boy"

i really don't like such food and he makes it seem like im fronting. though he doesnt mind when his friends take us out for a treat in nice places.

lol had to laugh at seun's response. 

anyways yeah eat before going to his house now!
is it that he has no mney to take you to nice places or is he tight with his wallet?  be understanding still.

I would die for a bukka food right now girl , are you insane?

ROFLMAO!   This is what I love about Nairaland,just when you thought you've seen it all someone comes up with a crazy topic   .

@jesusfreak,

I think the best thing is you buying your own food chinese,indian,Mr Biggs etc etc.BTW do you or your boyfriend cook.I wonder what kind of food Jesus eat Buka or Chinese!

i don't see an issue here at all, just make sure you eat when visiting him and give the dude enough time to save up to tAKE YOU OUT FOR PLUSH meals. even here in the uk my husband and i don't go eating out in posh restaurants every other day( nobody does this). cut the brother some slack  . i still say how can you not like iya basira?

Someone buys you bukka and you are angry. Chei chei chei. You should thank God he buys anything.

Doesn't your boyfriend cook? Why should he buy food from outside when he is at home? You can help him by organising his kitchen so you can make something for yourself when go visit him.

I concur with Tmoni.
Nonetheless, I think I should confront him with your feelings especially as it seems to be weighing heavily on your mind. If the response you get doesn't bring joy to your heart, perharps you should then re-evaluate the relationship.

the problem is i hardly see him because of my job and anytime we're together, it's always very brief so there's no time to relax and start cooking. _{i guess this is a problem as well}

but ive cooked in his house about twice.

does this mean the relationship is doomed because he's never even given me a gift

Seuns reply is the only real answer ive seen so far

I'm sure the guy is not boxed up! If he has wad ii don't see why he would not give u a treat specially sinc he njoys it whenever his freinds tak th two of you out

I think your relationship is doomed because you are more materialistic than your boyfriend.  There's nothing wrong with being materialistic, but you should be with someone who holds the same values otherwise:
If you don't understand each other, and you don't hold similar values, then your relationship is doomed, sister.

ok got you, not a problem, was just checking. you right i guess you guys have other issues yet to be discussed and little things are now being magnified.



i agree there with you seun good point, nothing wrong with materialism , if the person you with holds thesame values, you right . that way there is less conflict,

My dear,
Try teach him to cook. That'll be a better and "cheaper" option. And make him love doing it too. I used to be a "buka freak" myself, and I didnt mind if my girlfriend decides not to cook for me, but once I picked up interest in cooking, it was a good deal for us both,  you bet.

na wah ohhh, nairaland

LMFAO Truly a Naija girl.

Well as Seun had mentioned simply eat or buy your food before reaching his house (If you're not selfish buy him some as well) - Fact is you get from a relationship what u put in. Slowly and gently train him into acknowledging the kind of person you are, the type food and things you like in general and from a relationship.

You guys don't see eachother very often i would advise you to rectify that if this is long-term. Reason being if you get too imbeded in this limited type of visits (i can only assume what you do for the short period) it will b'come just that and there will be no personal or emotionally growth, hence the reason why you too are so different, you're frustrated he's unaware.

As for the gifts buy him one - let him know that u just saw it n thought of him, see if he reciprocates it anytime soon.

Truth is you are a material girl (no shame - nice to admit - so am I) but if your guy is not then there is a clear difference of personality, needs and wants. Some people manage to live with this by accomodating and understanding eachother which you two are not likely to do unless you get to know eachother on a personal level first.

I missed this earlier.  I think materialism is a relative thing.  Maybe your boyfriend also doesn't understand you?  Because if he understands you, maybe he will take the food thing more seriously?  Or maybe he will write more poems?