An Eye Opener: Married Women---Beware!

My Husband Impregnated My Daughter’s Private Teacher 


By Yemi Kolapo


I was a banker when I got married to my husband. Being a pharmacist, he was working in a pharmaceutical company then. He changed his job later, but he was still working in a pharmaceutical company, this time as a director.


He had been supportive of my job right from when we were courting. So, when we eventually got married, I did not have any problem with that. Even my in-laws had already got used to the fact that I had to be away from home almost all the time.

I work in Victoria Island and live in Ogun State, so it has not been easy. Efforts to get my superiors to transfer me to a nearer branch proved abortive. They usually said that they needed me at the headquarters than anywhere else. My husband said I should not worry myself about that; that he and the children would cope.

Things went on like that until I started having children. When my first daughter clocked four and was in nursery two, her class teacher wrote to me that she needed extra lessons at home for her to really catch up. One day, on my way to a client’s office, I stopped over at my daughter’s school to ask her teacher how a private lesson could be arranged for her since I usually got home as late as 10pm everyday and had to leave for office before 6 o’clock in the morning.

My daughter’s teacher then introduced a young girl to me. She said she could be coming home to teach her while I was away, so long as someone would be in the house with her.

I gladly agreed. I told my husband about it and he said it was okay by him. I had known him to be a reserved person, so I did not really expect him to kick against the idea. I decided to go for a female teacher because of the stories I had heard about irresponsible male teachers harassing and molesting young girls of my daughter’s age. She was also to start teaching my son, who was two years old then.

About two weeks after she started work, my mother-in-law visited us from her hometown, and she was always at home with them while I was away. One day, she (mother-in-law) waited for me till I came back from work. She said she did so because she needed to talk to me.

I did not take what she said seriously. She said that I should arrange for my daughter to be staying for extra lessons in her school. When I asked her why, she said the young lady that had been coming to teach her at home was too beautiful to be left with my husband for the long hours I would not be around.

I laughed it off and told her that it appeared she did not know her son (my husband) very well. I told her that I trusted my husband so much and I knew he would not do a thing like that. With that, she left. I did not know that I was uprooting the foundation of my marriage.

One day, my daughter told me that her daddy took her aunty out when she finished teaching her and her brother. I did not read any meaning to it, but I still asked my husband where they went to. He said he was going to get the boy his drugs and it coincided with the time she wanted to leave, so he offered to help her to the junction. I did not see anything bad in that, because she was a very nice girl. My daughter used to tell me how she pampered her and and her younger brother and made sure they finished their food. They were not keen on eating, so I was grateful to her that she helped out while I was away.

It went on like that for about a year. Later, each time I came home and asked my children whether their lesson teacher came, they would say that she did not show up. I became worried and asked the proprietor of the school about her. He said the lady had told him that she could not continue with the lessons because of distance. I felt bad that she left without telling anyone.

One day, my housemaid told me that she saw her in the market and that she was visibly pregnant. I told my husband about it, but he did as if he did not hear me. Then on the day I went for my children’s open day at school, one of the teachers told me that she had wanted to see me for long. I asked why, and she said we should go out of the gate. She then said she was the closest to my children’s former lesson teacher in the school. She said that when her friend started an affair with my husband, she told her it was wrong, but she would not listen.

I almost fainted when I heard this, because I knew the story would be worse than that. Then she said she almost wept when her friend got pregnant and told her that my husband was responsible for it. She said she had thought of telling the proprietor about it but had to restrain herself. She also said the girl had told her that even if the proprietor found out the truth and sacked her, it would not really bother her, because my husband had opened a supermarket for her beside her house. She told me that the girl was fetish and that she must have used charms to seduce my husband. But I was not interested in that.

I could not believe my ears. I took my children and went straight home to confront my husband. He denied it, but I knew that what I heard was true. So, I called my mother-in-law and told her to see what her son had done to me. But she said I was the one that married the girl for him. She said I should not disturb her because she warned me from the outset.

There was no one else I could turn to. I had taken my mother-in-law as my own mother even before I got married to my husband, because I had neither a father nor mother. And she had been very nice to me.

My mother-in-law later called me and said the only thing she would do for me was not to recognise the lady as her daughter-in-law, but that there was nothing anyone could do about the baby girl she had given birth to.

I cried and cried, but my husband said it was the Devil’s handiwork. I went to the girl’s school and reported her. The proprietor dismissed and disgraced her, but that will not remove the fact that she has a child for my husband.

Although my husband has begged me and promised never to have anything to do with her again except the upkeep of her child, my marriage cannot be the same again with a child outside. I have a feeling that the next time I set my eyes on that lesson teacher, I will kill her.

Readers, what do you think?


Source: http://www.punchng.com/Articl.aspx?theartic=Art20070505721478

Talk About Girl-Power. . Super-Girl or Is CatWoman?

O ga sha.
But really, the lady was so naive; how in the world can u leave your husband with any female for that amount of time.

Even if she is the ugliest girl and will never be his type in a million years, the fact that he sees her everyday, she gives him the attention that he wants - its only a matter of time before the evil deed is done. (Even the best men fall - especially when the temptation is handed to him on a siler platter).

The reader really needs to re-arrange her work issues beofre this happens again.

I am surprised by the reaction of some people here especially with the names calling "pigs", "dogs"  Whenever as a woman you decide to get married then you must consider the type of job that you do. You can't eat your cake and have it. Either marry the bank and stay therein or  be prepared to share your man with some one else (it might even be another man).

Its the duty of the man to go out and bring the money while the woman should utilize the money brought in raising the family. When this arrangement is edited then sorry. Society does not give any woman caught in the act a second chance. I don't know what lessons a 2 year old and perhaps 6 year old will be taking. Its not by force to marry and give birth to children when you know you are not ready.

Get back to me when you get out of your cave, otokx

All you are just saying that "don't blame us for being untrustworthy dogs". no more, no less.

na wa oh! there's risk everywhere. i personally would feel very nervous to hire a male tutor for my underaged daughter. i would drop dead first before i put my baby girl in a situation where she would be compromised or taken advantage of. there's some kind of beast that comes out in male teachers when no one else is around! 
on the other hand there's the risk of a female teacher in the home with your husband. but i believe he is an adult and therefore responsible for his actions and should be able to control himself.

if i were to choose i would pick a hemaphrodite teacher.

ok. seriously, i would go with a female teacher. i don't lie awake at night waiting for my husband to cheat or worrying sick that he will. ive padded my account, taken charge of my emotions and learnt to do stuff for myself. whenever he upsets the applecart im off. ive tried to be the best wife i can be and i can do no more than that. 

she didnt hire a female because she thought a male teacher  would molest her daughter. her daughter's teacher introduced the female teacher to her.

what do a 4 year old and 2 year old need a teacher for?

the teacher encouraged the children to take their meals seriously; was that part of the job description?

a woman's job/career should not be allowed to conflict with her primary assignment.

seriously, as far as im concerned children don't need extra lessons till about 8 or 9. the strain is too much.

all these stories that Punch dreams up sef, na wa!

last wk it was 'the man that jilted me 25yrs ago is my daughter's fiance'   

as we used to say when we were younger. . . this story na fabooooo! 

could be autistic kids, spoilt

her husband could have helped out if the kids were acting that way, otokx. Seriously there's no point bin arguing with a cave man.

so after teaching the "autistic"  kids then she has to give their father some too!  

I'm just giving some excuse for why a teacher would tell a parent that a 4 yr old needs "extra lessons" if that's not a retarded kid then I don't know.

See how red_lips is abusing me instead of developing some argument. There is a time for everything. If at such a tender age the woman does not have time for the kids (forget about her husband) then she have no one to blame but herself. As I said earlier it is not by force to marry or and make babies if you are irresponsible.

Moral of the Story: Parents should not abdicate responsibility for their kids' upbringing

second Moral: Listen to the advice of the elders, they see more sitting than we can standing!!