I Love My Boyfriend But I Fancy Another!

What an Infactuation. When you know your boyfriend had all thewse characteristics why did you go to him. Now you have found good qualities in another guy and you are suffering yourself over it.

Come on this is pure infactuation. JUst try and be yourself.

Hey, I guess its your time.
This stuff (ur problem?) is an epidermic. Its in the air. I know personnally because I know about this sort of stuff. A lot of women (and men too) are being confronted with this question and not meeting up.

@bebe
Glad to hear you say you have sorted this time out (I wonder wot you decided) but the problem is not the Mr. Universe but the way you think. If it is not Mr. Universe it is Mr. Macho. You still have plenty of temptations to overcome my gurl and I don't think you will survive.

In Nigeria as in many other places people look at relationships as things they can take from not something they should contribute and add to. You describe your bfriend as providing and strong bla bla bla, well that shows the view you have of relationships. That is exploitative, you seem in it for what ur bfriend can provide and not for what you guys SHARE. If you had spent time BUILDING the relationship and not taking advantage of it I doubt you will want to ADD Mr. Adonis to the equation.

Then again the soceity (especially in Naij) don't support what I got to say so I will shut up.

I, like most men started off like your bfriend. I learnt very quickly that I was a Mugu (I mean U the gurl are the one thinking of cheating? what better definition of a mugu other than your current "bfriend"). Now, like many good men, I live the life of a predator and what a sad life it can be sometimes. But many people want to be like me when they grow up so I aint complaining.

My advice gurl is that you really really figure out what you want from this life (a boyfriend is not a sugar daddy) if what attracts you is a furyne ass Nigga,  maybe u should learn to be self sufficient then you can go after all the furyne ass niggas in the world and not have to worry about keeping Mr. Reliant on the side.

Any way you go, you'll be alrite I know.

    bebe am so sorry am having thesame problem the MR.HAMSOME has been begging though i told him am into a serious relationship bt he said we can keep it secret.

   don't take him serious jst play along wth him,fling and enjoy ur youth age u can never ve such opportunity.
 
   have fun bebe bt dnt take him serious or he breaks your heart.ooooooooooo   

You have said it all you love your guy you only fancy th other,they are two different words,love and fancy, i want to believe you know that your boyfriend aint into fashio before going out with him,so i see no reason why this should become a big deal now.

Another point i'D like you to realise in life is  that your boyfriend can never be the best,just when you think he is,you will find someom=ne else but you need to know that he's UNIQUE,no other person can be exactly like him,so don't be decieved by outward appearance,it will never last,bad boys don't want unless you're fortunate to get one who's willing to drop those trash and settle down and thats by the way an exception because most of them won't,stay with your boyfriend n learn to apprecaite what you've got.

@bebe
I am not enough of a man,,,,you are far too kind. 

Howz it goin anywayz?

@soliq55 or whatever d name is,

Thanks for your comment. I wanted to hear other peoples opinion, i was really infatuated ok. Its not like i just wanted guys to waste their time. don't know why you felt that way, maybe because your location is MIDDLE EARTH i guess.LOL

@ijogbon,

How are u mate? am ok. Decided to stick with my man, so no worries about that. Blocking Mr. Gorgeous from my memory and avoiding him completely. Thanks for asking. hp all is well with you.

@Ijogbon,

U are too kind.   Nice move! it really goes to show you are a player (a retiring one i hope). I really like the strategy, did think of introducing them earlier but Mr.Gorgeous would not hear of it. He warned me. My boyfriend on the other hand might not even notice. He is that type of person. If i could i would introduce them definately but unfortunately i can't. It really wouldnt make a difference. I can discuss it with my boyfriend definately infact he knows i like people to really clean up (the grooming and all that) but he is not the type, i met him the way he is, became friends for quite a while and finally fell in love with him. I think i can live with his ways definately, i can't change who he is. Besides, i have dated the likes of Mr.Gorgeous before and it landed me no where. I will do my home work (that is getting him groomed), slowly but surely! he probably wouldnt notice he is changing but he definately would.

Thanks mate, a very nice move.

@Ijogbon

Hello, how u dey? Guess what!!!!!!!!!!!!! had a chat with my boyfriend yesterday,  it went well. He is going to get groomed today, the hair, beards, nails etc am so happy he is even going to a spa. I just hope he keeps it up not a one off thing. Thanks so much. Now i have my own shine shine bobo!!!!! he practically laughed at me when i said i was digging Mr. Goregeous (he knows me too well). As for Mr. Goregeous, i have deleted his number and thats final.

Thanks to all those that contributed one way or anorther.

@Bebe2007
_{*Lower jaw smashes into the ground!!!!*}

Ma gurl ! You deserve all you are getting larv !

_{Brushes shoulder off}
Damn I knew I had game but turning Mr. Headteacher into Mr. Young Corper just out of Uni and dazzling all the young girls in his class? 
A Spa!!!! Gurl you know what now?
Your man is now Mr. G and them gurls, yes them, they going to be all up on his case fer real. Hope you gat your roundhouse and hammer kick in check _{*sings    there ganna be some slow singing, some flower bringing when the other chicks be leaning*}

Mi'darl I guess you can see am happy for you, and you told him!!!!! Now thats what I call a PLAY !!!!!

Mr. Georgeous? Game set and Match.
While I was a player you can't imagine how many times I dreaded that play, happy to say I never had anybody tell me this - Mr. Georgeous in yer ferking face

Enjoy ma darling. lol

may god deliver you from ojukokoro that will destroy your future family, i will advice a;; naira land forum members to also pray with this mr handsome freak,

We all want that guy that treats us good and proper and when we find them we don't want them and get bored because of all those good looking bad boys out there but that is all those guys are "good looking badboys" they will never give you all the happiness and contentment you have with your boyf now. It our out natural instinct to window shop but make sure that is all it is because if you cheat and loose this guy i bet u come with your tail between your legs begging for forgiveness. Familiar with the saying "we don't know what we have till we loose it",    Good luck 

 i  really identify with your situation because it happens to me as well despite having a very pretty and lovely girl.

you know the truth,love your boyfriend but fancy another one even though he is not d best for you.

That is called lust of the flesh in other words evil desire,you just feel like gratifying your flesh.check out this bible verse Galatians 5:19-23

solution: accept and believe in Jesus Christ and ask for Holy Spirit to fill you to overcome this.galatians 5:16

if not you will always continue fancying men even after flings here and there.

stick to your man,"blend" him and work out your relationship

Infactuation

@poster
HE WHO BRINGS HOME AN ANT INFESTED WOOD, SHOULD EQUALLY BE READY TO BATTLE WITH IT

girl,
    u had beta start appreciating what u ave now before u loose him 4 those who will appreciate him more.

I completely understand where you're coming from. This is just a natural urge, men have them too and women pretend not to. I think you should take time to write your boyfriend's pros and cons because it seems to me that you were seriously considering leaving your boyfriend just for some fun with Mr.Gorgeous. By writing the list maybe you can put into perspective why your boyfriend is so great because it seems that you may have forgotten the reasons why, make a similar list for Mr.Gorgeous if he was to be your boyfriend, what is his potential? You will most definitely find that Mr.Gorgeous has nothing on your boyfriend. If your boyfriend is turning you off by not being fashionable, I think you should seriously discuss this with him, not as in a sit down and talk type of thing, but more of a comment here or there, 'you know your hair would look great if you smartened it, or had it cut' or 'why don't we start going to the gym together', buy him hair products and things that will encourage him to smarten up whilst at the same time, smarten yourself up so that he knows he can't just let himself go and that he's not going it alone.

People can tell you over and over again not to let your boyfriend go because he is amazing with you, I have been there and I know sometimes you just feel as if you're not that attracted to certain aspects of your boyfriend. If you believe these are serious issues that are getting in the way of intimacy or other things, then you should seriously consider why you are with your boyfriend and your future together. However, if you feel that you will grow to love his quirks over time and can see yourself married to your boyfriend then know that you are just having a harmless crush for Mr.Gorgeous.

Hope that helped 
Good Luck