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Alert (f)
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thanks to u all for your views.
some wondered why, one would be wit a guy who is stingy, I guess is because he makes you laugh etc.
this guy in question had been talked to and he is very unrepentant, hasn't made any attempt to cover up his weak point stingy!
though he buys recharge cards once in a blue moon, takes you out once in a blue moon, this acts can never be classified as a gift. period!
some of you got the gift's issue muddled up, let me clarify it here;
Alert's definition of a gift
A gift is something given as a surprise to someone you love in appreciation of her person, such gifts can also be a kind of a sovenoir or a memorable experience. it doesn't have to be expensive. for some of you guys that are scared of buying gifts
and lastly, it's a man's world, so the man should start the gift buying first and a lady can reciprocate, if she wants to.
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Uche2nna (m)
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Maybe he is broke? Maybe he is saving for rainy dayz? or maybe he is an asshole? Fact is that he is ur boyfriend and u are still with him. So quit complaining  |
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crazykid (m)
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Am a very special lady and I won't tolerate any kind of nonsense from any man. If he can’t buy me gifs then I would quit period. |
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presido1 (m)
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Am a very special lady and I won't tolerate any kind of nonsense from any man. If he can’t buy me gifs then I would quit period. He is suppose to buy you gift as the guy in charge but what in the case that for that two years u did not for one day buy him even singlet. Will you still have the mind to ask him for something. Let us know please. |
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yemmydavid (m)
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wetin u don buy 4 d guy?
it shld be a two way tin. (am sure u are just painting d guy bad)
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poeticsoul
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helloooooooooooooooo.2 years no gift, men thats just plin cruel. he's stingy n mean and u were so good to stay with him, pele dear.dnt worry may ur husband spoil u silly with gifts  |
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crazykid (m)
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If he can't buy you gift, then try buying him some maybe he would get ashamed and start buying you gifts.
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davidylan (m)
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and lastly, it's a man's world, so the man should start the gift buying first and a lady can reciprocate, if she wants to.
In other words you've dated this guy for 2 years and not given him a single handkerchief for his birthday. I'm not surprised he refuses to change. |
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Alert (f)
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@ davidlyan I don't know why some men will not quit being sturborn and stingy. why should a girl buy gift for her guy first, is she the one that chase after the guy first, who was the first to approach the other ? did i hear u say the guy, thanks. If you appreciate your girl u wouldn't mind who buys who a gift first, u will get her a million bucks gift. @ crazykid some selfish guys may receive your gift and still blindly refuse to reciprocate, and by the way, you don't give a gift because u want to receive one in return, or is that what u do? @ jummiey and poeticsoul thanks 4 ur prayers. |
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davidylan (m)
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@ davidlyan
I don't know why some men will not quit being sturborn and stingy.
why should a girl buy gift for her guy first, is she the one that chase after the guy first, who was the first to approach the other ? did i hear u say the guy, thanks.
If you appreciate your girl u wouldn't mind who buys who a gift first, u will get her a million bucks gift.
please read the incongrous statements highlighted above. |
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crazykid (m)
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@ crazykid
some selfish guys may receive your gift and still blindly refuse to reciprocate, and by the way, you don't give a gift because u want to receive one in return, or is that what u do?
Most girls don't buy gifts for their guys; they feel he should be the one to impress them and not them impressing him. But like I said earlier, if the girl can surprise him with gifts, he would begin to take her more seriously. I would like to know if the girl in question bought her man any gift for those two years they dated; if not, she shouldn't accuse him of selfishness because she is guilty of the same offence. |
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ufobabe (f)
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to an extend it is unfair. but what we youth don't understand is this.
LOVING SOMEONE IS NOT WHAT U CAN GET FROM HIM BUT WHAT U CAN GIVE 2 HIM.
still, love must be on a share bases.if love given is always returned,there will be enough 2 go around.
true love is not self - serving, but serves others, gives and makes sacrifies
respect involves caring about d other person's best interest and not pursuing only 4 personal gain
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Pip (m)
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Girls are really really stingy. Naija chicks in naija in particular. All they want is money,recharge cards, phone bla bla bla. U seem different. may yr guy is an "Ijebu" man. Did u but him any gifts?, what do u like about him that still keeps u there. i have been very generous in relations and it didn't get me anywhere. One thing I found out is that if a girl has given much to a guy she most likely wouldn't wnat to call off that relationship easily  |
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davidylan (m)
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@ davidlyan
I don't know why some men will not quit being sturborn and stingy.
why should a girl buy gift for her guy first, is she the one that chase after the guy first, who was the first to approach the other ? did i hear u say the guy, thanks.
If you appreciate your girl u wouldn't mind who buys who a gift first, u will get her a million bucks gift.
You sound very selfish and i'D be very surprised if your present boyfriend has any intentions of marrying you. If truly you appreciate your man, why can't you go out and show him how its done by getting him a gift? why shld appreciation in a relationship be one sided and why should it be based on what YOU can get and not what you can give? Have you ever asked yourself what positive contributions you have made in his life? Can he look back on the 2 years he has spent with you with a smile on his face? @ crazykid
some selfish guys may receive your gift and still blindly refuse to reciprocate, and by the way, you don't give a gift because u want to receive one in return, or is that what u do?
It is clear that is what you are doing because you claimed earlier that you have NEVER given your guy a gift because he's never got you one before. @ jummiey and poeticsoul thanks 4 your prayers. You don't need prayers, you need to get over your selfish, greedy and covetous attitude. |
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Alert (f)
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@ davidlyan you sound so sensitive on this topic, I hope you are not experiencing same from your girlfriend or wife  |
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bballchick (f)
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no offence right but d guy seems like a LOSER, i mean materialistic things is not everything but he could always buy 5naira stuff for u( dnt know if things r 5naira nymore) as i was saying, he should at least appreciate u I'm sure u'll appreciate d gift no matter wot it is , no offence again D guy seems like a LOSER,
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Alert (f)
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no offence right but d guy seems like a LOSER, i mean materialistic things is not everything but he could always buy 5naira stuff for u( dnt know if things r 5naira nymore) as i was saying, he should at least appreciate u I'm sure u'll appreciate d gift no matter wot it is , no offence again D guy seems like a LOSER,
thanks for that honest opinion |
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N-joy (f)
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excuse me poster - what did you give him as a gift all through the two years?
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manoy (m)
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excuse me poster - what did you give him as a gift all through the two years?
What a word! N-joy u are great. |
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sod4luv (m)
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to an extend it is unfair. but what we youth don't understand is this.
LOVING SOMEONE IS NOT WHAT You CAN GET FROM HIM BUT WHAT You CAN GIVE 2 HIM.
still, love must be on a share bases.if love given is always returned,there will be enough 2 go around.
true love is not self - serving, but serves others, gives and makes sacrifies
respect involves caring about d other person's best interest and not pursuing only 4 personal gain
Thank you jare, u're rightee!! |
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meta4 (m)
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my guy whats up with that?
don't you know that a relationship is like a job, you work at it daily,by giving your time,resources and that includes gifts. if you don't do that, you can't improve it,no matter how much the lady likes you.
so go ahead and make her happy,she deserves it
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Alert (f)
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@ meta4 Thanks  |
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djcrucifix (m)
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well i'm a guy and i don't do such things but for the guys who don't, na them sabi o! 
as for the ladies, if your guy doesnt buy you a gift and you have been dating for 2 years, then something is wrong, maybe he doesnt appreciate you.
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sley4life (m)
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Why babe dey interested with gift? The guy may not like geting a girl gifts for some reasons. The lady shouldnt complain about gift even if u have dated him for years. U have to also get the guy gifts too for him to appreciate and do more for u. I have dated a girl for 3 years and she hasnt gotten me any gift. But the only time i insisted on gift she got me a boxers shot which tore into pieces 2days after she gave me. what a mess! But any how life must continue
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nyabinghi (m)
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is it a crime for babes to also give guys gifts too. I also notice naija babes don't appreciate inexpensive goods. I once bought a pair of shoes worth 1,800 for a babe i was wooing she collected it with disdain. I was pissed.
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zignor (m)
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@Alert . . .you sounded like an IGBO girl . . .hope am wrong
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zignor (m)
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excuse me poster - what did you give him as a gift all through the two years?  She gave him a tight pussy |
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donpapa (m)
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is it a crime for babes to also give guys gifts too.
I WONDER O |
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Eclairs
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gs he'D be compelled to gv u gifts if you do the same. Every decent boy would unless he doesnt deserve u. No disrespect to the boy.
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Eclairs
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recharge card na gift?
Man's world? don't mk me laugh. I think u hv to buy him gift as well unless he doesnt deserve ur gift and if he doesnt, then, I gs he would think u don't deserve his.
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spoilt (f)
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i know a guy that dated a girl for a long time and no gifts. after she complained and wept he bought her dusting powder for valentine's day. I'm not lying. |
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