Making Love To My Wife Is Boring

my it was 4 better 4 worse,remember? then discussing with public

am I really supposed to contribute to this post?WETIN I KNOW?

aha! kilode now?

i'm sure u did not ask her about her opinion as per sex before u got married,

maybe u go tell am sey u need the thing bad if possible with another wife (mind u not another girl),

sex is a serious issue when it comes to marriage so why should she deny u of that after four kids.

Please just ask her politely if she would like u to marry another wife who's interested in sex !

Habba!! na wah for some women sha o

you should discuss this together and find a way to improve on the present state. just be as open as possible about it

  :)thank you jare Brown-Eyes, he has said it all believe it is real.

You can also call her pet names, I think that will move her because women like petting and caring

It is very possible for you not to find your partner sexually attractive to you after awhile and even though you speak to her about the issue it might not lead to a lasting solution and depending on how sensitive your wife is it might be counter productive because you have to bring up the issue in the most perfect way so as not to hurt her feelings.

There is still that little boy or girl in every couple that wants to explore and don't be surprised if your wife feels the same way about you.

My suggestion is to first provide an ideal environment for your wife to loosen up and feel relaxed, you could make sure you take her out at least once a month to places you know she would enjoy, encourage her to go visit her close friends or family  once in awhile to give her a little bit of freedom from yourself and the kids, buy her gifts once in a while it is not the amoun that you spend that matters but the thought, when you buy snacks for the kids make it obvious you are buying a certain snack for their mum so that they know she is special to you. I can assure you a lady is like a flower if you tender her well she would open up her beauty in all its glory to you.I am not saying spoil your wife as too much water can also kill the flower.

Bottom line is you need to bring out the best in your wife, make her feel like the lady you toasted years ago,call her atleast once a day from work to find out how she is doing and also check yourself, are you taking good care of yourself, are you still the same man she married or do you now have a pot belly and have total disregard for your body that makes you so unattractive to her.


This might be a case of one of newtons law of motion

"For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction"

Goodluck

l think you need to have a heart  to heart talk with her not in an agressive manner.

Cutesy,

I think you give some good advice.  I find that as a woman if I am not happy with my man for any reasons, it affects my sexual interest in him.  Women are emotional creatures. We connect sexually through mental and emotional intimacy.  If we no long feel an emotional connection and intimacy, it is difficult to get excited by sex.   It becomes a chore, or just another job on her to do list.  Or you thoughtful of her feelings and needs?  Do you allow your family to pester her?  Do you make major decisions without discussion it with her?  All kinds of things can contribute to the lost of sexual interest in ones mates.  Or could it be that you two were never really compatible sexually.

You mentioned she doesn't approach you for sex.  Has it always been that way?  If so, do you expect her to change all of sudden?

I am curious if this man has seriously sat down and talked with this woman.  He should asked her what is the problem.  Why is it so hard to talk about sex and what your needs are with your mate. 

The only thing is was his wife really into him from the get go?  Did she marry him because she really was into him or was it duty.  Once the children were born, she no longer has to front. Or he could be a bad lover, and she doesn't feel the need to take the abuse anymore. 

Sir are you a dud in bed?  Wome are like slow cookers, they have to slowly boils to get that point of estasy.  Remember, good sex for women is generally mental.  You can't wait to get her in bed to do her.  You have to do her throughout the day mentally, in order to do her good physically later.  For example, you can't say anything to hurt my feelings earlier and now that it's dark you want to jump my bones and me be all excited.  I just ain't feeling you.

For me, good sex is very important for me in a marriage.  When partners are incompatiable it can cause some serious problems.  I would suggest he exhaust all of his options with his wife first before seeking outside relief.   Once he has exhausted all avenues, then he has to decide what he has to do.

I personally knew a man in his situation.  He tried for two years.  All of a sudden the wife didn't not want to sex him.  They went to counseling.  He divorced her and has remarried.  Luckily they did not have any children together. 

I know I could not be in a marriage were I wasn't sexually satified.

Please talk to the woman openly.  She has to feel free to fully express herself emotionally and sexually with you, without judgement.

suck her KINI  till she cry for more

na wao, d guy weh post this thread don achieve his aim and say make una SHUTUP

watin una still de do posting?

What have you done to spice it up?

Call twoo or three area boys and watch them do it to her. Maybe you can learn something. Nigerian girls are dull in bed though!

this topic never tire una?

@poster, u are therefore nt a man for say such a stupid thing of your wife.
I meant no offence. . . .not!