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shelly
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Guys Not Wanting To Get Married
Looking for some advice for a friend- no really!
Her boyfriend (very long term) recently told her that he does not want to get married to her. He claims that he is happy the way things are, has isues with divorce (his parents are divorced) and while he says that he loves her, he is not sure if it is enough to be married. He told her that he didn't want her to waste her life on him, if ultimately he can't give her what she wants. Marriage has always been very important to her as has having children.
The issue of kids did come up and the guy stated that he thinks he wants them but would not definitely commit. The problem is that she really loves him, and she knows that he loves her. He just can't give her what she wants. She doesn't want to break up though, because she doesn't know if she'll ever be able to find anyone to love like she does him.
She is looking for advice, and I don't know what to say.
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hot-angel (f)
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Kids with divorce parents are always afraid of commitment. Because they don't want to be in the same situation as their parents.
Your friend Needs to help her boyfriend by telling him not to worry. As long as they are both in love, things will work out fine. She should talk to the guy and make sure she explains to him that, he needs not be afriad to commit. I think that's the only thing she can do.
The boy loves her -- YES (according to you), but whenever he tries to think that "things will work out".. he'll go back to thinking about his parents. Anyhoo.. just tell your friend to tell him she'll be there for him or summin. Another advice is that, she should leave him if he's not ready to commit. But i don't think your friend would want to do that.
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dejiolowe (m)
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the girl should shift before it becomes too late
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mmomi (f)
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This love of a thing affects women more than men. why?
Because we women love like children(when a child loves you he/she will believe whatever you said) and we always focus in one direction.
Tell your friend that she is on her own oooo!! Before men say anything out they have alredy thought of it day and night.His mind is some where else. That excuse is nonsense. Let her look for the dark he-goat before night comes or wait for heart attack.
My own view abi i dey lie!!
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dejiolowe (m)
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even the woman don talk am
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eveseh (f)
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no man with live without marring
because u need kids,u need someone to spend the rest of ya live with
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kellorah (f)
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to marry na by force? last time i checked, it wasn't!
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Busta (f)
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In Naija, Na by Force oh  |
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kellorah (f)
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i knw i'm going to get married but, no b before force, Nigeria or no Nigeria.
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adconline (m)
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na by force
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spoilt (f)
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this is a no-brainer! she should leave. he doesnt want to marry, but he wants to bang? twerp!
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Deep Soul (f)
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Story Story, Story! Once upon a time, Story!
He's simply lost interest jare. What bull crap is he giving!
Just give him a while and he'd be married before you know it!
O girl, please just step to avoid further heart ache
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davidylan (m)
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this is a no-brainer! she should leave. he doesnt want to marry, but he wants to bang? twerp!
is it bad?  |
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acidrop (f)
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very bad, who will want 2 get involved with a man with no future sef
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davidylan (m)
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Is his having a future measured by his willingness to marry?
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acidrop (f)
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what is a man whitout marriage, no kids no body 2 carry hin name, that aint future, we talking about futre even after he dies
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davidylan (m)
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Future - an ambigous word used primarily by Nigerian women to refer to men who are willing to marry. See also potential.
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spoilt (f)
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is it bad? yes it is davidylan! i hate when guys string you along! gets me mad. they want to keep u as girlfriend but want all the fringe benefits of wife. na true! |
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davidylan (m)
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most times they are not stringing you along, they are leaving clear signs that they have nothing in store for u behind regular sex. . . unfortunately most women in the desperacy to get married purposely blind themselves.
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spoilt (f)
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davidylan
i disagree. often times they tell everyone but you. its like shooting themselves in the foot.now why would they do that? they have to continue enjoying what you can provide!
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davidylan (m)
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Women can easily tell the kind of man they are getting involved in. It's not rocket science, before you got involved did you not know he had no plans for u besides banging you?
After donkey years you are now crying. . .
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spoilt (f)
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well she has come this far.can't be helped! why prolong the torture? she had better quit now before she greys at the temples waiting on him.  . |
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acidrop (f)
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Future - an ambigous word used primarily by Nigerian women to refer to men who are willing to marry. See also potential.
potentials simply means capabilities, future is future, and not what u are calling it, moreover if the man no wan get future the girls wan get tnk u |
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davidylan (m)
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na she dey complain not the guy. I'm sure the guy would not hesitate to replace her the very next day without much sweat while she's still moaning about the proposal that never was.
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acidrop (f)
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yeah, and then u think the nxt girl will like his idea 2  , and then the nxt and then the nxt, |
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4 Play (m)
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Given that you people live longer than us,why not allow us enjoy our shorter lives |
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spoilt (f)
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true. she should move on. too many men out there to waste time on one who isnt even made!
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davidylan (m)
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yeah, and then u think the nxt girl will like his idea 2 , and then the nxt and then the nxt, my dear, there are tons of girls out there who wont hesitate to drop their pants at the snap of the fingers. . . its a matter of finding them. |
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spoilt (f)
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Given that you people live longer than us,why not allow us enjoy our shorter lives @4play by all means just don't expect her to wait will you sow your wild oats with sluts! |
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acidrop (f)
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my dear, there are tons of girls out there who wont hesitate to drop their pants at the snap of the fingers. . . its a matter of finding them. well goodluck in finding them, and tell me hw long it took 4 you to find them, maybe a lifetime, because u would have found one by now |
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davidylan (m)
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kai naija women na wa. . . why must dey take relationships so seriously? Must every boyfriend be the one to propose?
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