Do You Have A Step Mum?

if ure married make your marriage work! i don't pardone divorce, stick to hubby becuzz of your children and pray to God for a change.

as for step mums forget it, they see the kids as their rival and as such dey must be dominated, and not allowed love from their fada's.

STEP MOM! I have read all of the stories here about them but none can beat my father's wife. I say nobody she is the devils footstool, i am sure  she and the devil share a shot of ogogoro first thing in the morning .
The woman was wicked, Jesus save me.
Someone who will go out naked on the street and swear for us the children, because she had a fight with  our father. Will say when my brother eats she does not want to hear him swallow.

She was involved with juju and she was not hiding it ,till today we still know she is involved ,but she is the one who goes to night vigils.
If you wake up 2am in the morning to use the bathroom, she is up looking at you pass her ,as she refused to sleep in her bedroom she slept in the living room, wake up 4am she is up looking at you  holding a bible in her hands .

Because of that woman i have many  issues,  i can not eat rice that is not burnt, i must not see even a drop of water inside or else i will not eat it , even if i am dying of hunger.as i was subjected to eating rice with water inside due to the fact she would cook 3 cups of rice for 8 people and add like 7 litters of water to make it swell and believe me we had enough rice at home. just wickedness i could write a book about her, she was just plain evil.

I would fight for my children no matter what , than leave my children with any man so as not to let them see what i went through. That woman made me confess Jesus is lord oh.

Step mums hmm, where do I start? for me its just one sad topic because of the negative effects these stepmums have on the groing child. i had three of them, one left to marry another man so my brother has a step father. i think they relate quite well. my mum is also step mum to my other sibs. so the likelihood is there of her being regarded as wicked. personally i think this will be unfair considering how hard she laboured for other people's kids when their mums ran off for a while after that things had gotten rough for our old man.
but whos to blame? i think the man who goes about marrying more than one wife and in my own case hes dead and buried leaving no will so ?. keeping and living with one woman is war enough and some of us men go ahead to add more. bone whatever the bulls**t any religion says. or is it misinterpretation of what they are trying to say?

anyways as an adult now, looking back i really do not blame the other women in my fathers life. also as a stepchild matures the earlier he is responsible for how he feels the better for him so that he is not weighed down with needless grudges and burdens.
the thing is complex and the problems, issues, pros, cons, blames and all what not are multidimensional and inexhaustible and very sad for the majority caught up in its associated negatives.
my care is for those damaged and weighed down psychologically by it. all i can say is that you should not allow it rule yur today and yur virgin tomorrow any longer. the responsibility to let go and let God is yurs. abi will yu keep on blaming yur step or yur dad( for marrying her, hence) for this and that?
truth be known, yu hold the keys to yur desitny.  
Those who know the truth
learn to love it.
Those who love the truth
learn to live it.

There is a law; irrevocably decreed in
heaven before the foundations of this world
upon which all blessings are predicated.
And when we obtain any blessing from God,
it is by obedience to that law upon which it
is predicated.

let God the all powerful creator take control.

Hi GREAT NAIRALAND,
I want your advice with this problem have been for a long time I don’t know what to do please I need serious  person to respond to this mail is my life I want to share with you my great naira land people.
My  mother is late, and I have father as if I don’t have he doesn’t take any responsibility of the family since I want young. my mother and my father both living as husband and wife when I was still young I was in primary school then,my mother own the residence where we living but nobody never no such things that the house belong to my mother,my mother was a great trader while my father was a civil servant, thing was going fine then both of them now decided to have another land which was bought  in my father name after sometime my father just decided to leave my mother I went to another apartment that is closer to the land my father bought, when he was going he decided to take everyone of us to the house that he rented to the closer  land apart from my mother that her left behind, after sometime my father decided to send us back to our mother that he cannot take care of the responsibility of every one of us.since then my mother have been taking care of seven child and give us a sound education with the little cash she has until 2006 December that she was dead, and my father got marry to another wife then both of them  live in my father apartment while we stay in my late mother house.   
My father never allow us to come in to his house when  never we just think of seeing him, thinks have been add for me because I take most of the responsibility in the family and I don’t have any saving.i am working with my ND holder, currently running lasu program for my degree has part time.
What can we do to get this man from this evil woman,we pray but is not enough because we don’t have time.

stepmum's could be real nasty to have but i have seen some examples of perfect harmony
thank God i don't have one but if i do, i would have boiled her alive if she made life miserable for me, point blank!

all those advocating polygamy should better take note.
when a man keeps acquiring women like underwear.
The children are the real victims in this communal lifestyle.
One man one wife,less trouble

  MY STEP-MUM KILLED MY DAD!!!!

Gbam!!!!!! Nothing more to add.

I think the 'take home' lesson from this is that you as a person, if you are in a position to do so, you should prevent other kids from ending up with 'Step Moms'.

Some people have suffered the problems of broken marriages but wthen grow up and end up having broken marriages themselves. We simply can't take the 'crap' our partners give us and prefer to separate forgetting that that singular action will affect the children for life.

I know some people are just so difficult to live with, I mean some are devil incarnate, take the case of one of my friends. Her husband was a proper 'esu laalu'. When pregnant, he will push her down the staircase and I am talking of a slight woman who was about 45Kg when she got married, she was so slim while the husband is 6 ft tall. This man beats her up regularly and doesn't pay a farthing for family upkeep. You think that's bad? Oh no, that's not all. They lost 2 boys due to his wahala, one was a couple of weeks old and the other one was about 4 years old when he died. The father could not care less. When he is angry, he will hurt everyone around him especially his wife but as soon as his anger cools, he will blame the devil for it and start shedding crocodile tears that he didn't actually mean any harm.
And that's not all, this man keeps a horde of girlfrieds outside home and  maintains a high profile in his church! You know how we Nigerians serve God don't you? Anyway,after a while, this my friend starting falling ill needlessly and losing weight. To cut long story short, her doctor asked her to do another test since everything else failed - malaria, typhoid, etc and she was diagnosed with HIV.
As for me, long before this, I had told this friend to leave this man. Her only reply was that the man will not allow her take her children (she had 2 young ones now) and they will simply suffer and probably die if she left them with the man. When we learnt she had HIV, we were completely taken aback. And guess what, the man had known for a while that he had HIV and had been taken treatment for his condition and yet never used protection with his wife at home. YOu still think the person you are living with is bad? You can always swap with this one!

5 years on, this friend still says she doesn't regret not leaving this man. Her kids are doing well and she says the man is less vicious to her now. Perhaps age is telling on him or he is simply getting too old to constantly beat her up. One day, I hope I can indeed pen down this woman's full story but me thinks she should be given an award for her love for her children. Her life is not important to her as she thinks she has made a great mistake with her life but she doesn't want her children to end up in any bad way. Me? I have not set eyes on that man for almost 10 years now. Just can't stand him and his hypocricy, what if he puts an infected needle on the chair one is to sit on?

 i hav a step mum but, i don' hav to do anything or talk to  her because i see her like a monster in my family and she does these thing that really make's me sick. i think all step mum are the  same,  i want to use these opportunity to tell every body that have step mum to be carefull to all these step mum. i blame my dad for taking a second wife i don't see any good reason that made him to go for another woman , my mum is a very good for my dad and the family , everybody dislike the second wife because their marriage is not approve by family members.

I repeat, Not all step moms are bad!. In some rare instances, there are some who have the future of their step child on the same basis as their own child.

@ adedijoy:

OMG

what kind of human being is this man?

I didn't have a stepmom,but i am a stepmom and am not evil.My husband's first wife died when their son was about 4yrs
old.I met him like a year after when my first son was 5yrs old,it was the boy's idea that his dad should marry me because
he wanted  a mummy like other kids.We have been so close that nobody knows that he is my stepson.He only got to find out
that am not his birth mother this year after my husband's co-worker's wife told him.He is 12yrs now and we are a happy family
BTW i have 3 boys of my own and there is no division in the house.Sometimes i blame the men for allowing their wife to mistreat
their children.To all of that had bad experience because of your stepmom,i will say don't allow it to affect your future forget the
past and move on with a positive attitude towards every human being you meet.It could happen to anyone but lets pray that
those women will have a change of heart.

I hv a step mum.  My mum had seven of us before she died then my Dad got married to another woman.  Meeeeeeeeeen!  Its not easy but I thank God for HIS grace.  My dad used wisdom and it helped to an extent.  All my siblings are grown now so we don't bother about the step mum a'home but always wished our mum was there for us.  The diff is very clear!  I pray that my children will never have any cause to live with a step-mum.

TEENA, wow my situation is the same with urs. i think you're a wonderful lady n i would like to get to know u hopefully when i come to naija we can hang out--- email me @ chupeco@yahoo.com

My step mum is white so I have no problems with her. She doesnt do juju, doesn't give my dad wahala and stays away from my mum.

Yeah Stepmumss, We are just lucky our dad had enough money and resources for everyone of us
i can't even imagine otherwise, as for me, one woman and one woman alone!