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ikamefa (f)
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When you give a legitimate reason as to why a kid's father is not around, the kid learns to live with it. When you give reasons such as "I am just a single parent" the kid has a hard time living with it and it affects them psychologically. This stuff is well documented, I am not making it up.
i agree but the facts still remain that there are people who grew up in a single parents home who did not end in prison or turn into a mental case There is a reason God gave us two parents. If God had intended us to just have one parent, he would have just created a woman and no man.
But if you folks don't believe in doing things the way God intended, I guess all I can say is more power to you.
its not about beliefs yes its obvious you don't support single parenthood, the sad fact is there are people already in this situation and more people are still going to go into it : are we going to tell them to go jump into the ocean for being single parents? does that make them bad people? for the records ika6 is not a single parent but you all should stand in other peeps shoes for a minute |
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babyosisi (f)
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yes its obvious you don't support single parenthood, the sad fact is there are people already in this situation and more people are still going to go into it : are we going to tell them to go jump into the ocean for being single parent?does that make them bad people?
Not at all but it should not be encouraged as a choice of what a woman can do when and if she feels like it. There are others involved besides her. |
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spoilt (f)
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single parenthood doesnt mean the child doesnt know who his father is. neither does it mean that the child doesnt spend quality time with his father. each case is different. lets not be judgemental. and by the way families where the man has a harem of wives and a battalion of children cannot really be considered a 2 parent home. afterall there simply isnt enough of the dad to go round. especially in situations where the wives are housed in different locations and he visits them when he pleases. those women are single mothers.  |
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ikamefa (f)
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single parenthood doesnt mean the child doesnt know who his father is. neither does it mean that the child doesnt spend quality time with his father. each case is different. lets not be judgemental. and by the way families where the man has a harem of wives and a battalion of children cannot really be considered a 2 parent home. afterall there simply isnt enough of the dad to go round. especially in situations where the wives are housed in different locations and he visits them when he pleases. those women are single mothers. trust you! " " to come up with funny examples  that na pseudo-single parenthood at least them sabi their daddy |
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babyosisi (f)
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single parenthood doesnt mean the child doesnt know who his father is. neither does it mean that the child doesnt spend quality time with his father. each case is different. lets not be judgemental. and by the way families where the man has a harem of wives and a battalion of children cannot really be considered a 2 parent home. afterall there simply isnt enough of the dad to go round. especially in situations where the wives are housed in different locations and he visits them when he pleases. those women are single mothers. Most kids born out of wedlock do not associate with their dads,some don't even know who he is (mom may not even know,ask Maury  ). Polygamy is another issue altogether with it's own stench |
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babyosisi (f)
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Personally I'll rather be born to single mother than to a polygamist.
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spoilt (f)
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trust you! " " to come up with funny examples that na pseudo-single parenthood at least them sabi their daddy yes oh. no matter how flat a pancake is, it has 2 sides! sometimes men think they know everything. |
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GNature (m)
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i agree but the facts still remain that there are people who grew up in a single parents home who did not end in prison or turn into a mental case
I am not disputing that. If you were to poll these people and asked them if they would have rather had a father while growing up, what do you think their responses would be ? i think it's quite obvious (and for a reason) its not about beliefs
yes its obvious you don't support single parenthood, the sad fact is there are people already in this situation and more people are still going to go into it : are we going to tell them to go jump into the ocean for being single parents?
does that make them bad people? The point I am trying to make is, we shouldn't live our lives on the premise that "well, it worked well for some folks, so it must be okay" No. We must strive to make ourselves better. for the records ik6 is not a single parent but you all should stand in other peeps shoes for a minute I am talking about women who have children with no intention of getting married all in the name of being independent. Not all the other women with children. |
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GNature (m)
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This topic had nothing to do with polygamy. That is completely different.
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GNature (m)
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There are women who are getting pregnant through artificial insemination all in the name of being independent.
Now, tell me, how is the child going to know his father ?
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spoilt (f)
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@gnature
i am trying to tell you that the same men that crucify women who want to be single mothers are the same men who have numerous wives and children. these women live like single mothers so what's the difference? why the crucifixion? they are the same damn thing.
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labiran (m)
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the artificial inseminator |
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ikamefa (f)
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There are women who are getting pregnant through artificial insemination all in the name of being independent.
Now, tell me, how is the child going to know his father ?
erhm! by tracing him through the clinic at least the sperm came from a mans plumbing network abi? " " |
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babyosisi (f)
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I think that is pure selfishness when a single unmarried woman goes for insemination.
If a woman wants a kid that bad,she should adopt.
There are tons of children looking for homes.
I know some will say,it's her body,her choice,well would would want to be the product of that choice?
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GNature (m)
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@gnature
i am trying to tell you that the same men that crucify women who want to be single mothers are the same men who have numerous wives and children. these women live like single mothers so what's the difference? why the crucifixion? they are the same damn thing.
You are changing the topic here. I condemn polygamy in all shapes and forms. This thread is not about that. |
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spoilt (f)
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There are women who are getting pregnant through artificial insemination all in the name of being independent.
Now, tell me, how is the child going to know his father ?
how many single mothers do you know personally, who were inseminated? those are a minority and they have their reasons. which you are in no place to judge. |
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ikamefa (f)
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how many single mothers do you know personally, who were inseminated? those are a minority and they have their reasons. which you are in no place to judge.
God bless you oh! but being inseminated is now becoming quite popular and its catching on |
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labiran (m)
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good point spoilt
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babyosisi (f)
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That term strong black woman ought to be incinerated.
Whenever it is used,you see a picture of a single unmarried woman with kids.
Is that what makes a black woman strong?
The ability to have kids with no father in the picture and struggle through raising them.
This ought to be spoken against because as the number of these strong women grow,the rate of illegitimacy also soars
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GNature (m)
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Who would ever want to be a product of artificial insemination ?
What does such woman tell her child when she asks: I want to know more about my father ?
How would you all feel if your mom said she never met your father a day in her life and you are 15 years old ?
Abeg, quit advocating immorality. It is sickening.
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labiran (m)
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good point GNature
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spoilt (f)
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by bringing in the polygamy angle im not trying to change the topic. we have to thrash out this matter fairly and from all angles. i feel that all the ills people are condemning in a one parent family can also be found in a polygamous setting. so what's the difference?
that said, people have different reasons why they opt to be single parents. when a woman tells you she doesnt need a man, keep your nose out of her business because you don't know what her reasons or experiences are. you have no idea what her childhood was like or how her dad's relationship with her mum was like. i used to be very judgemental. now i know better.
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ikamefa (f)
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Who would ever want to be a product of artificial insemination ?
What does such woman tell her child when she asks: I want to know more about my father ?
How would you all feel if your mom said she never met your father a day in her life and you are 15 years old ?
Abeg, quit advocating immorality. It is sickening.
please tell or show me how this is immoral  (abi because i never shack my pammy tonight i no dey see well? )  if you say selfish i understand |
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labiran (m)
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good point ikamefa
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ikamefa (f)
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good point ikamefa
abeg gerraway jor  |
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labiran (m)
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abeg gerraway jor why?  [ |
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GNature (m)
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please tell or show me how this is immoral (abi because i never shack my pammy tonight i no dey see well? ) God intended man and woman to bring child into this world. And ideally, the child should be conceived after marriage. Puting needle in your self to born pickin in the name of being independent is nothing but immoral. |
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spoilt (f)
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when doctors inseminate a woman with her husband's sperm to get her pregnant because the sperm can't swim by itself to the egg is it immoral too?  cool down oh, gnature! |
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babyosisi (f)
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by bringing in the polygamy angle im not trying to change the topic. we have to thrash out this matter fairly and from all angles. i feel that all the ills people are condemning in a one parent family can also be found in a polygamous setting. so what's the difference?
that said, people have different reasons why they opt to be single parents. when a woman tells you she doesnt need a man, keep your nose out of her business because you don't know what her reasons or experiences are. you have no idea what her childhood was like or how her dad's relationship with her mum was like. i used to be very judgemental. now i know better.
so perhaps to prevent a rough childhood a woman may choose insemination over marriage and that makes it ok? This is not only about this woman ,it is about a child and children. No body at least on this thread now has advocated polygamy,I'm still wondering how it even became part of this discussion. |
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labiran (m)
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@ babyosisi
good point
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babyosisi (f)
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spoilt dear,you are going way off this discussion.
We are talking about an unmarried woman conceiving and having children by whatever means.
How could you say it is okay?
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babyosisi (f)
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labiran na wa
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