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cuju (f)
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If you want to check my phone, no problem, but please tell me before you do so, and if you see something "funny", PLEASE ASK ME before concluding/assuming on it. My friend feels the same way. The first and only time i checked without asking wasnt found funny. |
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NaijaFuss (m)
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Na wetin eyes dey find e dey see says one proverb razor fit cut your eyes, B cAREfuLLL,
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N-joy (f)
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It depends if you suspect the guy/woman is up to no good.
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Esss (m)
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Not just the phone o! Check the e-mails, letters, dress pockets, wallets, the car, smell their dresses for strange perfumes, lipstick or semen stains, (for god sakes get cheaters P.I's to follow them about.
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adeboo (f)
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If you dont wanna see what u arent supposed to see, then i would say stay far away from their fones as possible.
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teeirl
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Hey, whats the point in checking his/her phone coz if u see something u dont like what are yu gonna do about it??? Are you gonna confront them and then they will know u are checking it or just keep it to yourself and let what you saw eat you up, I have a friend who constantly checked her mans fone, email etc and she never confronted him so she was only annoying herself. I agree totally with what shockreaction wrote a relationship requires trust if you are suspicious of anything u dont trust him so it aint gonna and if your checking up you are insecure in urself, No it aint good people privacy everyone is entitled to it. Id leave my fone lying around my ex would take it when he wanted to look through it use it and it never bothered me there was nothing in it but his fone was under lock and key hmm very suspicious but it never crossed my mind to check it as my conscience is clear his is clearly guilty so im the better party here and its only the guilty that accuse anyway   , |
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crazyp (f)
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I dont want any boyfriend checking my phone, if and whenever i get married, my husband is 100% free to check or browse thru my phone but definetly not a boyfriend. I no wan check anybody phone, make nobody check my own too, period!!!
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uchetobi (f)
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If you can handle knowing why no??? but if you want to live in a bubble be my guest!
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ghengis (m)
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Phones / texts are private. You wouldn't open your partner's mail, or be pleased if she opened yours, Private? you've gotta be kiddin. Do you have an official, responsibility-defined relationship with your wife? If there's complete intimacy and trust, why not go through my phone? I've nothing to hide. Besides, i feel its my wife's right to ask questions if i get funny messages (or send them), that shd also help keep my head in check. I'm not married but my fiance goes thru my phone at will and there's no biggie wit that, there are even times she uses my phone for days. Abeg, i no dey hide anything so no grammar about privacy and all that stuff |
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ghengis (m)
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@Siena Good point. thats why i neva mentioned anything about being sneaky, thats outright bad!
I insist that trusting someone includes trusting them to trust you!
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MILITIA (f)
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@Topic Sure! But do not bother discussing the contents with me! I owe you no explanation!  I will not even dream of checking my hubby's phone. Like I no get work or something. When the time come for that "we go know who buy market"! A bloody waste of time! Too confident for that type of rubbish! Thank God for America! Na for Naija that one go reign since a lot of people no get work!  |
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queen-b (f)
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Go ahead and check there's a reason why you want to do it. When you do go checking be prepared for what you are about to find out. What you don't know won't hurt you also what you do know will hurt you.
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denex
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I believe its better to know that to imagine. I think you shouldn't even check your partners phone secretly. Let them know you want to know who's taking interest in them. I and my girlfriend, we used to check each others text messages and stuff till it got to a point that she'd even show me by herself.
Sometimes though, she may want to keep secrets. Thats when some 007 skills come in handy.
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Bosdem (f)
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Why not if u both have nothing to hid, their is no big deal in it, except u get skeleton for your cupboard o.
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dutchmillionaire (m)
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There's nothing bad about checking or looking @ your friends phone. The way u check it determines how your partner would accept that checking habbit. With experience, reacting violently because u lack understanding would prevent your partner from keeping the phone handy for u to check, because that would go a long way to prevent the arguements,unnecessary tension etc it may result to.
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190 (m)
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well i have always maintained
d idea of checkin your babes fone o
do u knw hw many ppl have been saved
frm gettin d virus wen de catch their spouses
cheatin on dem or slipin abt, wit oda men
do u knw hw many diseases they hav escaped
mak una de ther de talk abt trust, nonsense!
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mccloud224 (m)
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if you have nothing to hide, you wouldn't bother who checked your phone, lol
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Gabry (f)
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NEVER EVER CVHECK ANY OF YOUR PARTNER''S TUFF AND I WOULD EXPECT HIM TO DO THE SAME THING FOR ME. ITS JUST PLAIN RUDE. There are many times my partner's HP is at my side and when it rings, I would just pass it to him without even looking at the screen seeing who is the one calling. . . Am not bothered seriousky. Thats his business, not mine.
But he always tells me who is he talking on the phone after that even though I dont want to know. . .
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Gabry (f)
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To me, one part of a criminal is that you udse/take/look at something which does not belong to you without the owner's conscent. Or maybe you give out information about the owner without the owners conscent. to me, thats plain rude , dispicable behaviour and also its just bad.
so. . . you take your partner's HP without his/her conscent and to check on it or even to just play a game on the phone is considered to be a criminal to me. sorry, no offense.
My mom always checks on my father's HP and I hate it very much when she does that. same goes for my sister checking her husbands HP and my brother checking on his fiance phones are all just plain bad. . . i have been arguing with them over this matter for years now. . . thats the reason why all of them always ends up fighting and fighting because of this.
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C2H5OH (m)
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Yeah. In fact it is a necessity.
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Phillfree (m)
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Yes, it's right. I do check mine anytime anywhere, and she does same. There's nothing wrong abt it.
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cheatmaker
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To me checking your partners sms will only get you more annoyed expecially if your partner is the sexy type.
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patwhizkid (f)
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Re:
« #90 on: June 08, 2009, 07:58 AM » |
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Yeah, i can check his HP anytime anyday, but he can't check mine, cos d security in my phone is very tight & he is not permitted/allowed to check(d caller i.d., touch and/or answer (any) call(s) on my HP by me.
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whitelexi (m)
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Not right, it only happens where there's a distinct lack of trust
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v3nom4eva (m)
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@topic
total waste of time. . .
WHATEVER HAPPENED TO TRUST???
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djcrucifix (m)
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Everyone is entitled to their privacy. l won't bother to check my patner's phone cos we do trust each other and no secret exist between us. I tell her everything and she likewise, so for me to be checking her phone is a betrayal of the trust.
i think that answers the question. |
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Rooneyboy (m)
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It is very wrong , i dont do that to her and in return she should reciprocate by doing same.
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radiantsmileoria (m)
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What stops your partner from checking the fone? It seems that's the only thing both of u hav in common. Well, in d real sense, i don't think there is nothing there to worry about cos u already called the person "YOUR PARTNER"
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