Help,my Relationship Doesnt Look So Good,my Gf Wants A Car First!

Prelude: we,ve been dating for about 2 years now.In the last 6 months things havent been so good between us. First,my friend saw her with another guy in a hotel in Lagos when she was meant to be in school.Worse still,she was supposed to help my sister out on a job search that very weekend.She came up with a funny excuse and said she just cldnt make it,tried to find ouut why,infact i didnt believe until i got there to see she really wasnt there.
She apologised thereafter even tho she denied at first but things havent been well with us since then. She now doesnt respect me,call me or even care about me .Foolish me,am so much in love with her and begged her to calm down so we cld  get back together. She seemed to agree initially but screams at me for little reasons now, hardly calls and fought with me at the  hotel the last time i went to see her in school.
I talk to her very close friends who really wants us to be together and she has done her bit to kind of talk some sense into her but she just sort of goes off some times.
Now she says she's tired,tried to find out why, her friend tells me she says i refused to fulfil a promise to let her have my car to use in school and some other little things i promised  her.
I would have done that without even a thot  but am kind of struggling right now and things havent been so well like before . I gave her the car earlier on to use in school for a while and it seems to have caught on,my sister needs a car too as i have two even if one is presently in need of serious repairs right now. Dont know whats right to do anymore.Will she come back to me fully if i let her have the car?Someone please help!!!!!!!

please get all the sex u can and then dump her before she further asks you to build her a house.

shio -

ROFLMCAO @ uyai darling, that was funny

@ don dada
Atimes i feel sorry for people that fall in love, Cos in as much as love is a wonderful thing and feeling, there are some that get to witness the ugly part of it, which one you ask??

The part that makes a partner walk over the other, and you're so beaten in love that you just sit back and accept it, the part that makes you see and write down your spouse's atrocities and yet not see the situaton as critical as the rest of the world, that part which is so blindly in love that it might not have the courage enough to walk even when they're suffering in misery

As sad as it seems, You my dear are in that shoe and it pains my heart so, that a lady like myself would be so cruel, and dubious. But thats just life.

But you my guy, you can't just live with that, i know you're in love, but wasn't it so that love is more enjoyable when both parties are doing the job?? Why would you want to be doing a solo??

Or isn't it obvious to you that the love you once shared (if any) has left the building?? the only thing holding her back is the financial and "car" priviledges she's getting from you.
She was caught in a hotel with another guy?? and what the hell did you say you were still doing with her?? waiting for her to go on a "second missionsry" journey with someone else to another hotel before you know she's playing you for a fool?? What girl will get so non-chalant and less-caring towards her boyfriend just because you couldn't provide her with a car, to go to school with?? what rubbish

Just listen to yourself . . whether we think she'll come back fully to you if you lend her the car?? lmao . . are you sure you're alright?? are you really willing to be her door mat?? to only have her "fully" bacause you satisfied one of her material needs or the other?? Comm'on now, where's your sense of dignity and human appreciation not just for material things, but loving you for you??
Its time to wake up from the slumber
What happened to a partner bieng understanding?? or she doen't know you're struggling?? she wants a "bed of roses" kind of life, and you on the other hand are willing to go to the ends just to make that happen, for what??

I can't see any foundation for a relationship here, you guys seem to be on two different ends of the universe, and it might need a miracle to make it work. When the love two people shared isn't there anymore, the goal of a relationship is somehow beaten, and deeping your head in ignorance wouldn't make matters better, only that you'll get more subdued into giving in for all her childish cries Please i beg you in the name of God, for the sake of your sanity and hapiness (you won't understand it right now), snap out of it, let her go. You can do so so much better!!!

Good luck.

Yea,My dear friend, I will go straight to the point and I advice u to heed to my advice,,
This is really an eye opener for you, Never u show a wman all the Love u have in this world even if u Love her mor than God loved us, I mean,never,ever,never,ever show a girl that u love her that much or else,u will end up been tha laughing stock.
  I read your mail and really touched, as of now there was a time I almost had my neck severed by a Lady way back and that was how I learnt my lessons and tpo tell u the truth,its the girls that keep coming to beg me,
For a girl to request for a car in schoola nd still understands your condition is not worth the stress, 
Men! Com on,are u a fool!!!! >:(Dump this girl,F, k her hard and I mean with all hardness and all the strength u have them dump her, Dump her, If u klike ,continue to be a MUMU !where she dey,
Remember one thing,Never show women,Ladies,girls all the Love in the world,Give them just 10 percent and u will see that they will always be the one coming to beg u.
She left school and u saw her in a hotel and still contemplating whether u should give her a car, iF u do,You are A big Fool,AND  i mean it ,a big one.
Dump that stupid Bitch,she dosent deserve it, 

  One more thing,I have dated close to 50ladies and have seen the good,the Bad and the most Ugly of them all,so bros shine your eye ,
I Have a girl i love so much now and shes always the one that comes calling anytime we have a little quarel, are u not the man here???I really Love her,ut I don't have to break my head or weep or tell her I love u 100 times,or running after her all day long and telling her,I am missing u,thinking about u all day long,she will take u as a veryu weak man,
Learn from these ok.
Good luchk and ps keep us posted in here how it wenmt.
  Reme, Dump that idiot after F, g her Hard and I mean hard without mercy.
Goodluck.

no offence but she sound like a bitch just tell her this is gettin too much for you to take n u want out of d relationship

kike, if am dondada will u go out with me

@poster

Well Cute-ass our counsellor has said it all, that the only word i have for you.

Read in-between the lines.

@Don_dada

Ha !  Rejoice for the Lord is your strength 

What are you thinking again? You should be doing thanks giving !!!!

My people say : Iku to ye ki O kpa ni, ti O shi ni ni fila, ah ko le kpa ni Mo!!!!!! (What wanted to kill you but missed and knocked off your hat, that thing can not kill you anymore).

Now as I am 'talking' to you now now, use your tongue to count your teeth, oya ahn lehn le !!!!!

You need to play this girl out !!!! You know maybe you can put up her details and the playerz in the house will help you teach her some sense.
Me I can buy Car for this kind of girl O !!!!!    I see the making of a beautiful revenge on your part, 

 


LMAO   ABI??

@ cute_ass, you took the words right out of my mouth.

@ poster,
a girl that loves you would not kick you when you are down. this girl has the guts to demand a car when she knows things are not going too well right now. she has the guts to rub your face in the mud by being in a hotel with another man(probably past caring if she is seen or not) just because you told her to be patient till things improve!!!!

my dear poster, your girl friend will not leave you because she thinks you are the perfect mugu(i.e she can disrespect you and you will even apologise to her for disrespecting you), she will continue seing her 'aristos' because she knows theres nothing you can do.

so take a cue from all the other posters, dump her fast.

I don't really think your girl is still interested in that relationship,i still can't understand the reason why cheated and after doing that,she's still ignoring you,i think she's going out with someone else.


I think she's just taking advantage of the love you have for her,i don't think she's worth all this trouble,even though,ladies tend to be driven by pleasure,i still feel its wrong for your  girl to start acting weird because you can't afford to buy her a car.


Nevertheless,you can still try to sit her down and talk to her,and don't make the mistake of correcting her rather you two should rub minds,listen to her n c if she's got anything thats bothering her,then you can draw a more reasonable conclusion,you will then knw if you can hold on or move ahead.Gud luck.

Really want to thank every one for their contributions so far. The funny part of all this is that i seem to share the same feelings on  leaving her but being the kind of person i am, just keep telling myself to give her one last chance to see if she'ld come back to her senses.sometimes i even call after telling my self i wouldnt anymore. She said she wants out and i am sure i didnt spend this much energy to have her in the first place. Also for a few days now,we just got ttalking as normal so should i still go ahead or wait a while ?

@Cute ass, ,I understand,yea, 50-50,its ok, but u know that most times it could become only one sided and what happens then, I believe that we should Love with our eyes fully open so that when one or the other party wants to start taking things for granted,then,ones attention has to be drawn to it.
 
           Bros,Don Dada,u know the little problem u have now,, You need someone to take her place and keep your mind off her for good,if not,u will always feel like calling her up and before u know it again, BAM!u ve started again,
           Really,don't give it a second thought ok, look for someone to take her place immediately and let the new person understand what u went through and this time,make your stance clear, Never Love wit binded eyes.
  We have caring and beautiful quues out there and so many,all u have to do is to take your time and believe me,the next person u will get will really appreciate u ok.
 Goodluck

damn ,,,your relationship depends on a car , your relationship is as bad as the cars daily use on your roads