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pazuzu (f)
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hello everyone. this is my first post and im real excited. i am a nigerian who lives in south africa but moving back to lagos to start up a business online. i am coming with my expatriate(white) boyfriend and our daughter. is it safe to be back in lagos and what can i expect?
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4sight (m)
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What would you expect? Nigeria is wiser now even though I don't know when u left. Feel free to come with your husband if you are legitimately married. I am married to a Bahamian and she accorded me a lot of respect here in Nigeria when she came, we wedded here and things have been very smooth and ok. If he is just a boyfriend, then expect some side talks but if u have intentions to marry and will do that as soon as you arrive, don't be afraid to bring him. I hope I helped.
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SKU (m)
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its silently frowned on, i remember some time ago my parents even 'warned' me bout it. that jus made me curious
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Luish (f)
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I am an American woman who looks white, even though I'm both white and African American. I am terrified of the women in Nigeria. Based on what I have seen in the US., African women hate when African men marry another race. I'm trying to learn as much as I can to be able to survive while we are in Nigeria. HELP!!!
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Evept (f)
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@ pazuzu ,well,i would say some people don't like it but if your happy with your relationship u should'nt care what other's think.
that's right and if your family is ok with it then everything should be even better but if they don't ,go ahead with your relationship,everyone don't want the same thing in life ,what make's u happy should be what u should go for.
I personally,i've always prefered interracial relationship because that's where my heart always go for and im happy with my partner now who is white ,although some of my family memember's don't like it but they accept it because i don't care what they think or say,it is my life .
you should feel free to move to Nigeria if u wish but buy a house in a decent area ,that is safe and secured,i don't know when u left Nigeria but it has changed alot this few years.
And people see interracial relationship in a better way then before,as long as u and your guy are happy ,there should'nt be any problem at all,i have few of my friend's in Nigeria that are married \in a relationship with white in Nigeria and there families and people around are ok with it and alot even admire it ,so don't worry about that but
it will be advisable to get married to your guy before moving to Nigeria or when your there as it is tradition and it secured for u and more accepted in the community etc
I and my partner will be getting a place down there shortly so that we will have a place to stay when we visit nigeria instead of staying in a hotel or with my family.
Good luck with your online business
Cheers
Evept
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mamaput (f)
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If you are not married to the man there is no respect
In Nigeria its a big difference if its the man or woman that is white.#
From a very General point of view, lets say it dose not look too good if you are not married to the man.
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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as some one said above it is silently frowned upon. and it depends on the views of the family you come from.
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mamaput (f)
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She is staying with a white man and has a child from him.
Am very sure her family knows.
In her case its not about the Family its about the public view.
We all know what Nigerians think of Nigerian women with white men.
If she is married to him they will not be able to say anything again.
But as long as she es singel she may find herself dragging her man with other women.
And in her case she too is only girlfriend like the others
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English1 (f)
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I guess it depends on the family.
I live with my Nigerian boyfriend and his family are all very nice to me. They don't seem to have a problem with us.
How would strangers know if you were married or not?
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mamaput (f)
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It may start with the house girl, or the normal gossiping,
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FBS
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well i think its depends on the family, if they welcome it, believe me, you will have no stress but if they are against, you should be ready for battles and wars!!!
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