Should I Have Sex Or Forget It?

don't give in to pressure because here's what will happen if u do

1. u'll loose ur self esteem
2. he wont love u more than he does now so do the math, if he doesnt love u now, he wont even if u have sex.
3. he might cheat on u and u'll feel worthless, u know all that stuff ladies say when they've been dumped (after all i did for him, after all i gave him, i gave him everything, everythin including my body)

don't be a fool ok? use ur head because uve got more class than he does,

a guy who truly loves u will not pressurize u to have sex with him.

and if he says its either u have sex with him or u forget about him, i think the second option is better. he's not worth remebering anyway!

don't be blind to reality ok? its happend to many people before _{me inclusive}

so hold on to your dignity and pride girlfriend!

Why exactly would you want to be with someone who threatens you esp in giving yourself to him. shame

For all you know, right after it's done, he could just leave after finally getting what he wants.

Be wise.

I will only ask u one question !  Are u a virgin ? if u are, don't allow him ,but if u are not why keeping the dam thing ! do the stuff and enjoy the fun 

You know there are times even as a lady you must learn how to say NO and maintain the NO! while damning the consequences of your actions.

Personally I do not like it when a lady cannot stand her ground!

Basic: Learn how to say NO and stay with your decisions.

You are about to fall for the oldest trick in the book.  
don't waste your time, the minute you spread your legs for every Tom, privates and Harry who demands that you "prove ur love to him" u start depreciating in value. I've been there and i can frankly tell you i will not even for one minute consider marrying a girl i've had sex with.
A real man who loves you will not push you. i guess ur'e christian right? Dear sex outside marriage aint worth it, 5 minutes of pleasure isnt worth the remaining 23hrs and 55 mins of wondering why you even bothered in the first place. Wait for the right fella who is on the same wavelength as you, it may require some patience but in the end it will be well worth the wait.

what do you mean by you will not mary a girl you've hd sex with? R u a &&&&.

that means after you have sex with your wife, then you tthrow her out? Or u are imagining you'd get a virgin to get married to, in this century? even cartoons have pronography, so where would you find a virgin?

@ Topic

Then tell him to forget it!

That's kind of odd don't you think? It's one thing if you don't love this person but even if you eventually fell in love with this person and slept with her you still wouldnt consider marriage?

sharrap there!  The more you look the less you see!


In the old days of iniquity, i classify those i date into two; those i have real deep feelings for and those who we were just infatuated with.
For the take-home to mama type girls ii let you know upfront absolutely no sex and we kept ourselves. If in the event it happened by "error", i will still go ahead with her. For the infatuations, na 50:50 o! Rub my back i rub yours and we go our separate ways when we are tired. 

Thank you Jesus for saving your pikin 

lets just say such "errors" never happened. those are times you know God really loves you. kai! 

ask  u shall be given,we still av virgins out dea,though they might be a little bit scarce.

Hmnmn

 Hi, all, reading all ur views I'm impressed, but let me share my views, everybody is not d same but i care 4 ladys and one of the things that make d relationship going is sex but d lady in question is d one after my heart (going against davids views) but 4 some time now she is doing Zig Zag I want to go my way now. please in conclusion use ur head and not ur heart read all advise but decide wch way 2 go.

That's an old trick! Jesusfreak's answer is what i'd have given. . . Stand for something - your firm decision and choice, or else you'll fall for nothing and everything!

Isnt it better to be with a guy that loves you back?

If he did he wouldnt be putting you in a corner.

Think of yourself first. You could love him with everything and right after you do his wish, he tyhen decides he doesnt even like you that much, what then? Not like you can turn back time.

@ finemocha

bless you


My dear give me a second to cry (tears of sadness, at the extent of how blind love can be)

Dearie, did you say love??

Define love . . I thought love was patient, understanding, and . .

If he loved you, do you actually believe "sex" would be his "do or die" priority"??
If he loved you, do you really think he would make you go beyond your will just for his manly satisfaction??
If he loved you, do you really believe he would not mind having a pleasure that is supposed to be "a two man's thing" all to himself (i call that selfishness )
If he loved you, would he really be making those annoying threats and giving love a "ridiculous" definition ("prove your love for me by having sex with me") - - -  arrant nonsense

The last time i checked, being in a relationship means two people loving each other, now from the investigations above he obviously doesn not love you nor respect your priciples nor wishes, where does that leave you?? In a semi-relationship?? My dear, you deserve more biko

"Sex" "Making love" should be a mutual action of desire and pleasure, both parties should want it and be ready, no party should be forced into it to prove any damn thing,

Now if you can't have that with him, he doesn't worth a second of your precious time. And if you have to have sex with him to prove you love him, then yes, you'll loose your pride.
And that's not what my signature stands for, what he's forcing you into is "blackmail" and "manipulation" and dearie i need you to be strong and beat him to the core at his game.
Have you sat down to imagine how many girls he's bought with that "ear-popping garbbage sex-toasting" line??
Please, this is time for you to prove to him that you're different, and that you stand by your own principles and if he can't leave by them, he could hit the road and kiss the grass for all you care

And even if he stayed afterwards, please still show him the door, His type will only stay to make you pay for the sex-hunger you put him through. If he could search his "heart of hearts" and find it suitable to say those words, he isn't worth the while at all