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Imani (f)
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Lol how can she not be when there are actually guys who think like this? Imani was probably joking but there are guys who do such things
er er, i think you meant I-man. @I-man, You see what you have caused?  |
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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Lol I apologize, Imani
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salsera (f)
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@topic one of the reasons I love nairaland, just when you think you are the only one, peops respond to a thread like this @poster My dear you mentioned your a Christian, then TALK to God , not about guys that want sex(because even if they say they'll wait the thought will still come up many times) TALK to him about the guys you meet. He should widen your circle of friends to inlcude people who are on the same page then peg this thread anytime you get weak  I found this verse(its in psalms can't rember details) When I say ''my foot slips" Your mercy lifts me up Its my paraphrase tho Chao |
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Telly B (m)
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 "But as for me, my feet were almost gone; my steps had well nigh slipped. . . But it is good for me to draw near to God: I have put my trust in the Lord GOD, that I may declare all thy works." -- Psalm 73: 2 & 28 (KJV). My dear you mentioned your a Christian, then TALK to God , not about guys that want sex Words on marble!! 
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salsera (f)
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@Telly B thanks for the details |
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gracious (f)
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you know what this is an issue . it is easier said than done. that is why every day we pray "lead us not into temptation" . I have decided that I do not need a boyfriend. if I want to remain the virgin that I am . by God's grace I pray to wait till I meet someone who has same or higher fear for God than I do. because its not about HIV , STD, pregnancy, . Its about keeping a good consience . love for God . Peace to you sista.
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amaikama (m)
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why is it so hard for some one to stay awake all night long? why is it so hard not to have a feelings for some body? and why is it so hard a car cannot move without fuel?
we can't cheat nature neither can we cheat man made object.
cheers.
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MP007 (m)
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I think people that i have taken any form of pyscologic class will understand better, lets just say we have been shaped by our society.Be it behavioural or humanist , the environment we live in shapes us, like the second president of the united states said "to determine the moral values of a country , u have to look at the women in the society.
When u watch tv what do u see? a date and then what? sex
ur friends tell u the same thing , u then to do what u grew up knowing
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cyl (f)
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Marriage is honourable in all,the bed undefiled.Heb 13:4.thats the word of God.
Personally,ive had a big struggle with this issue,ive been sexually active before now,met with God and have a lotta regrets as to having had sex before(should have just waited).
Met a guy who i think i could have a future with and he says,he cannot guarantee me no sex before marriage, Just then i stumble on this thread and i'll say,its been bothering me but ive made up my mind not to obey any man over God.Fornication is a sin under whatever label,wether sexual compatibility or not.
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stimulus (m)
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why is it so hard for some one to stay awake all night long? why is it so hard not to have a feelings for some body? and why is it so hard a car cannot move without fuel? It's easy: #1. It's not hard for some people to stay awake all night long - depends on what's keeping you awake. I've enjoyed staying awake all night learning new IT skills; most people I know also do not find it 'hard' staying awake when they do 'all-night internet browsing'. A few people stay awake easily because they also have what excites them enough to make the night look like a few minutes. #2. It's not so hard not to have feelings for some body. Wait. Just go outside, walk up to your neighbour; dash that guy's daugter one terrible smack full across her face - and when her dad shows up with a shortgun that doesn't recoil, tell and say: "I was having feelings for her!"  #3. Your body does not function like a car; otherwise, the fuel pumps will have been perennial strikes and shortages due to serving over 125 million adult Nigerians.  we can't cheat nature neither can we cheat man made object. No; and neither can anyone cheat on the regrets of not doing the right thing at the right time. unugo? |
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amaikama (m)
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stimulus! are u trying to tell me that u are a virgin till u get married that if u are married now? since "doing the right thing at the right time means" u don't have a girlfriend and never in any relationship not to mention sex?
make u talk true oo!!
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stimulus (m)
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Ol' boy amaikama, cool down small - I never said stimulus doesn't have a girlfriend! Make me and you talk true for this thread; but I go prefer after you! I've "seen" things I should not see; "heard" things I should not have listened to. . . but even though the passions were strong, I haven't done "done" those things - you get my drift?  Okay, in simple ABC - I'm still virgin; but that doesn't make me more righteous than anyone else. Besides, this is the year of my favour - abi no be so them talk am? Ever since a programme I attended (Global Prayer), there's this sista that has been making it hard for me to see myself like apostle Paul! The babe no wan hear word, and her own wahala sef, e pass prophetess Deborah own! So there. I'm glad to have found a "good thing". . . very soon sef, you go hear say I don obtain the favour of thy Lord! Proverbs 18:22 |
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thesilent1 (m)
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there's this sista that has been making it hard for me to see myself like apostle Paul! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!! preach on brother!!!!! i was in those exact shoes about 9yrs ago and she still never tire for me so praise god! |
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amaikama (m)
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good for u oo!! keep it up.
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stimulus (m)
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Lol. . . the hardest part is that she won't even let me draw any maps on her skirt!  Anyways, I'm safer without the maps - as I can find my way to her heart. As long as seeing myself as any apostle is concerned, bros, I no fit prostrate for "forty-lashes-save-one" (2 Cor. 11:24) |
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Veracious (f)
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well i belong to the group of girls who whould wait until my wedding night, so sis don't give up on your hopes no matter the presure. the truth is even when somebody comes your way and is not willing to wait then you have every reason to kick his butts out the door because he does'nt deserve or know your worth.and what more you will be proud to walk straight and tall when you see him walking down the road and belieave me he respects you fro your desicion though would not admit it to anyone because he would make a fool of himself.
soon you will walk down the aisle with your real man, don't doubth me.
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stimulus (m)
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well i belong to the group of girls who whould wait until my wedding night, Be encouraged. Your perseverance will be well-rewarded. |
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TV01 (m)
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Be encouraged. Your perseverance will be well-rewarded. But please be gentle with the brother on the first night 0! |
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stimulus (m)
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Lol, na "babe" - not brother! I'm not in the gay-parade party O! |
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pilgrim.1 (f)
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Lol, na "babe" - not brother! I'm not in the gay-parade party O!So, Veracious. . you go easy on the brother when D-day comes! |
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TV01 (m)
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Lol, stimulus. . . TV01 might not have been referring to you. It seems to me that he was following up yours and referring to the poster before you (Veracious).
@ Stimulus, ah, ah. You even managed to mis-read me on a one liner. Na wah 0 ! So, Veracious. . you go easy on the brother when D-day comes! Thanx Pilgrim.1, my jocular advice exactly. God bless TV |
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stimulus (m)
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@TV01, @ Stimulus, ah, ah. You even managed to mis-read me on a one liner. Na wah 0 ! No vex, I repent. Lol, stimulus. . . TV01 might not have been referring to you. It seems to me that he was following up yours and referring to the poster before you (Veracious). @pilgrim.1, many thanks. |
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Veracious (f)
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@ pilgrims and @ stimulus i mean every word i say and i am very proud to say it always to those who care to listen. well sha the brother won't regret waiting for it though. but i will take it easy and nice with him anyway as advised. cheers |
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N-joy (f)
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Haven't you heard its all about sex,sex,sex.
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N-joy (f)
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@his grace
You know its all about sex for you guys.
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N-joy (f)
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@his grace
Good for you if its not about sex, can i come to yours for coffee then?
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Veracious (f)
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this is just interesting. some people are running away from sex maniac
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salsera (f)
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@veraciuos
LOLLLLLLLLLLLL
I tire o!!
sista , ermm coffee
sex is an appetite you feed
maybe the guys you have been with have been on binge eating
@stimulus
i remember you and your sista 'hook my heart'
tell us when the D-day happens and post in the 'tell us about your marriage' thread.
good to know there are some men like you'll out there
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darth
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Hey, I'm really impressed by the good stuff on this thread, especially from the married folk (17 years!!! WOW). I believe Yemstar in on the right track and It's just one of the devil's lies to get you to believe there aren't people just like you out there and it's easy to think that way when ur down, but remember when Elijah (or was it elisha) was in this spot and God told him that he wasn't alone but there were 4,000 people who truly served God and had not bowed their knees to Baal.
Keep it real, girl stand strong. God is on your side.
N.B: How happy r the people testing for compatibility with their choices anyways, truth be told, premarital sex destroys trust in a marriage and can lead to a lot of unhappiness down the line. because the guy starts to think at some point, If she could give in to me that easy, then she will probably give in to any other guy she that catches her fancy.
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real_demi (f)
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LOL, TV01, veracious, darth and all on the side of abstinence. Am soooooo happy to know that some guys are still out there standing up for THE TRUTH in this perverse and crooked generation. @ poster , Hold on. Your wait is worth it. You'll be proud of yourself after it all and so will your hubby. Grace and Peace! |
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r_o_b_b_y (m)
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See her complaining she hasnt seen a brother willing to be in a relationsionship without sex. have u tried me?
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Veracious (f)
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@ r_o_b_b_y
I don't think you are the right candidate for her.
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