My Ex-Boyfriend Insulted Me After I Did 'Shakara'

Serves u right girl! U should know that we men are sharks.

You caught your guy making up with another lady..................end of story, Did you think he really loved you and thats why he came back begging, girl you really need to think straight and for heavens sake the world is filled with guys but then be very careful because we come in different packages so make sure the package u want has been properly endorsed before you go ahead to make it yours and here'sa one rule of the game......Be friends with your man before you become lovers and then you must have a close friend of his as ur personal person that way u'll know he's in n outs even if it's been hidden from you it'll come out by mistake one day except of course he's a very smooth criminal....So lady forget the one you caught in bed with another lady n move on with your life n be happy u werent married before now...Chou!!!!

All I can say is that the end-result of shakara and insincerity is what you've experienced.  You are immature, hence your shakara, and your dream man is also immature, hence his reaction.  (oops, I myself may be immature to someone else)

As per your question about insulting a lady after sleeping with her, is there any gold in your bosom?  Is it something he can spend in the market?  Did sleeping with you make him rich and give him supernatural powers?  Where did you get the idea that once a man sleeps with you he has to start worshipping you?  Get back to earth, girl, you are not the only one with female assets.

The two of you lacks seriously in maturity. Expectedly and without any recourse to any written rule anywhere, the guy is suppose to be more mature and should not have insulted you.

Yinkus, welcome to NairaLand. Wish u nice stay here.

Girl don't worry about it infact forget him if he really loved you he wouldn't have insulted you and it wasn't your fault. Someone worthy of your love will come your way and will treat you with respect and not stupid insults!

Please people, be easy on the poor girl now. Beautifull, I think you need to move on. He's not the only man in the world and he's definitely not worth a second chance. Keep doing your shakara but always remember that you can only do shakara to a guy who has not seen your 'yansh'. So don't give in to the next guy, ok? That way, you can do enoughhhhhhh shakara and he won't be able to insult you.

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The first time ive seen a guy behave like that. I wonder what the problem of some guys is?

Does sleeping with u increase the money in his bank account, does it brighten his future, pay his living expenses, take care of his family, make him educated or what? Does it do anything 4 anybody? Has all his problems in his life now been solved?

He is just beign childish and immature. But again it showz that too much shakara does not do anything 4 anybody either, but in this case, since infidelity was the case i guess he never had any respect 4u. Do u really think that such a person would be good as a husband? He would still go around sleeping with all the women because he has no respect 4u.
And guys that do this how would u like it if she went about telling everybody that your Pepe is small, or that you're a one minute man, or a complete novice? That don't sound good either does it? A responsible guy would not use the special moments u guys had to turn around and belittle u. Afterall many women have met guys who can't last one minute in bed but have helped them to improve their performance and their self esteem rather than go about telling other people of it or belittiling them with it


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@IAH it has all to do with the maturity and love of the people involved. Even if u don't give the guy anything and then got married to him (like she said she said she could marry the guy), would u really want such a guy as your husband?
For a full flegged adult to turn the lovely and endearing moments u spend together into something 4 insults its just plain childishness

So if a guy has seen your 'yansh', you can no longer do shakara to him? Fallacy of the highest order. Unless the girl is not sweet. If a girl is ever sweet down there, a guy will always want to come back and will always be the one to beg because, he will not want any other man to taste out of the horney in the pot.

There are some ladies who will not starve you with good sex (shakara) as a lover but who you can not also afford to lose.

Agbaya ni e o rilla64, na for your mouth them go hear say teacher mother die?

anyway beautiful, life is full of ups and downs, we all make bad choices and decisions, we learn and we move on.....funny enough everyone has said the truth to you in their own way just brace yourself up and keep your head straight, someone is out there waiting to receive all your shakara and still love you beyond your wildest imaginations  .......................make him happy too 

welcome to NL...........the home of fun, laugh and weirdos 

@ hotangel, you got me laughing

u don sabi now? to get man no easy.

that a cheats doesnt mean he doesnt love. he might just be plain greedy but will never want to lose u for anything. that he shouts on u or insults doesnt mean he doesnt love too. like what seun says, he could be immature. an immature person can still love but might find it difficult controlling his emotions.

sleeping with a guy has its risks. he might be counting numbers. u know we men feel cool when we talk and say i v creamed 100 girls, 90 girls (mostly lies)...

So, then what exactly is left?  If all women are good for is that one time in bed why should the guy look forward to anything else?  Obviously, there must be more or we wouldn't even be having this conversation.

Sorry about the incident, yours is not the first so, you take heart.
My word for all ladies is just to know the type of person they roll with and submitting yourself so a guy 100% can be detrimental to you.
But that doesnt say you shouldnt give other person the chance oo

Hi girls,
The replies of all the guys point one direction, that we(girls) will never allow them have their way even when LOVE is in the air until that day you will say 'I DO'.This is a big lesson.
If you don't give them, they won't allow you rest, just follow you like HE-GOAT, telling you all the love in this world.
Little wonder this guy follows like ..... for more than a year now because he never test am.He complains to his friends that I don't love him and he always beg "even if you wont do the thing please let me see your face every day". I was saying this year BUt now laye- laye even pecking I wont allow him.

My dear, don,t mind the guys.Any HE_GOAT that comes arround no mercy, you will see that he will cherish you more. Don't listen to the love story that will come out of his mouth.

_{Mechanics don't allow us know the real mad men. All of em are the same.}

@beautifull just wize up because this could happen again. women never learn... or they learn the wrong things