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pmdaboh (f)
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Should a husband or a wife develop strong friendships with others from the opposite sex? What do you think are the benefits or dangers of doing something like this?
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cute-ass (f)
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Its actually a difficult question If the opposite friend(s) is/are someone you were tight freinds with before you got married, your spouse can't possibly expect you to throw their friendship out of the window  "friends" are precious, and shouldn't be given up under any circumstance, but then there are the ones that are unluky to end up with dubious opposite sex friends who are out to ruin you and your marriage Infact its a twisted and confusing answer, both NO and YES could be the right and wrong answer. |
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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@post
when you go into marriage, it becomes a different situation as being single. not bad to have friends of the opposite sex, but a lot of wisdom should be applied to such friendship and there is a need to be conscious and careful. cause you have to consider your partner and how he/she is comfortable with your friendship with the opposite sex.
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benit (f)
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Yes, but let it be open friendship(if there is no skeleton in your cupboard). Your spouse may be comfortable with it if you tell him/her. Not the friends you hide to receive or make phone calls to  |
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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i agree and disagree. i disagree concerning the issue of being open. because there are some spouses that are just not comfortable with the opposite sex around their spouse. take for example, a married man(also applicable to the married woman) has a beautiful wife, she maybe has a casual male friend in her office, sometimes no matter how open the relationship between her and her colleague , the husband definitely would get a bit uncomfortable. vice versa
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benit (f)
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@ thoniaslim,
It is natural to feel uncomfortable about the friendship. But i think telling him will be better because if he finds out, he will be even more uncomfortable with the fact that you kept it from him.
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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yea, what am trying to say is, he might be aware but still feel uncomfortable.
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osereka (m)
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to me it is extreemly dangerous for a married man/woman to have male friends. temptation can come any time. take for example a married woman have a male friend and the woman husband travel for a very long time, and the woman have no other person to relate with exept her male friend. ANY THING U KNOW CAN HAPPEN. and is the other way round. so let goat and grass be friends and see what happen
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benit (f)
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Its more dangerous on the side of men. women have stronger resistance
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osereka (m)
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yea it is but the danger is there.
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Ndipe (m)
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What exactly is the point in having a friend of the opposite gender when you are married? Sure, it could be innocent, but that could be opening a door for temptations. Please don't, unless that friend of yours is actually a family friend, that is a friend of your husband.
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osereka (m)
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even ur husband friend you should watch out. because the bible say THE HEART OF MEN IS EXTREEMLY EVIL.
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cute-ass (f)
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Its more dangerous on the side of men. women have stronger resistance
As true as it is, how do you know the few or many?? its not embroded on the forehead, God help us  |
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GNature (m)
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What exactly is the point in having a friend of the opposite gender when you are married? Sure, it could be innocent, but that could be opening a door for temptations. Please don't, unless that friend of yours is actually a family friend, that is a friend of your husband.
Yes, but if the friend is just not your type (really ugly) - you just find the person so unattractive (the person really wowo), then there shouldn't be any cause for alarm. |
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Leilah (f)
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Absolutely not, one thing leads to another, we are all humans!
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Akinagirl (f)
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I personally do not mind if my husband has friends of the opposite sex, because it shouldnt be a problem for me. But there is this thing called boundaries, you have to place them and if your friends are to overstep them then you need to get rid of them.
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