Why Are Orgasms Difficult For Ladies To Achieve?

Hello everyone,

Experience has shown that a good majority of Nigerian women (ladies and girls) have actually not discovered themselves sexually. Some do not even understand what it means to do so. Well i would like to engage in a personal question and answer session to examine this issue, as well as to serve as a guide to replies to this post.

Q1. Is sex important in a relationship?

A1. Many ladies would rather pretend that it isn't, or would rather downplay its importance. The truth is that it plays a big part in determining the direction and strength of a relationship. Sex (love-making) is a bonding ritual between two partners. How compatible a couple would be is actually dependent (amongst other things) on how compartible they are in bed.

Sex is a two part process. It is part physical and part emotional (some might add a third - spirtual. But this is irrelevant to the topic at hand). Therefore the best sexual satisfaction is derived from a combination of the two. Unfortunately not many people have had the pleasure of reaching this maximum level of satisfaction. In addition, the dissapointment is associated more with women than with men. So why is this so?

Q2. Why do men reach orgasm faster and more often than women?

A2. The reason is more methodical than instrumental. The female sensual system is very complex yet easy to understand. Havent you wondered why it is so easy for a woman to excite a man, but harder for a man to do the same for a woman. Well the reason is simple - men are selfish when it comes to love making. They depend mainly on their dicks during sex that they easily get carried away and tend to reach orgasm at the expense of the woman. This leads me to my next question

Q3. What excites a woman? 

A3. The human body is a sexual entity with many flash points. It is a common misconception that the female body has three flash points : her lips, breasts and cunt (for lack of a better word). On the contrary her entire body is full of flash points waiting to be explored. Many of us are too traditional in our way of lovemaking that we tend to make it boring. Remember that the traditional way of kissing her for some seconds before eventually climbing on top of her with out any side attractions was a method used by our forefathers for one purpose - to make children. Therefore lovemaking in our times should be more methodical and adventurous. Do you know that many couples cannot go naked in front of one another, even during lovemaking? Its a big shame.

Q4. So how can ladies reach orgasm?

A4. I learnt a lot about the sexual needs of women from my ex-girlfriend. She was a former lesbian. Do you know why lesbianism thrives in Nigeria. Its because men have failed in their responsibilities in satisfying the sexual desires of women. They have overemphasized the use of the privates to the detriment of what is really important - the body. Lesbians are good at one thing - they easily identify their soft spots, concentrate on them, and derive maximum satisfaction from them. To the guys i ask you these questions:

Have you ever made a woman reach orgasm without using your privates?
Even after using your privates do you make her come?
What are her soft spots?

The key to the game my friends lies in patience and a listening body. You must be able to listen with your body (not your ears or eyes) in other to decipher the flash points of hers. This usually requires patience and experience. Therefore the more you engage in it the more you learn and become better equipped.

I have learnt a lot through practice and would want to share it with anybody who is eager to learn 'because there are alot of unsatisfied women out there, but just few of us who can do the job.

haven't you wondered why so many women (married and unmarried) go after a particular set of young adventurous guys. Its because they get the job done.

     

@temmyabby

whats so shocking? could you unseal your lips and say something?

Hey daloua
your post is very informative and educative,  you have asked the questions and given the answers,  so what do you want us to contribute??? I am confused

learn how to use your tongue.

@Nymphoqin
You sound just like your name- YOU ARE A NYMPHO- You need a privates diet !

@nymphoqin

you don't have to be that sarcastic. he was just being funny.
it would be better if you just make your contributions on wether you agree with my views or not.

be a good spot

YOU ARE FUNNY

I LIKE YOUR SPIRIT.

SO SHARE YOUR EXPERIENCES WITH US. I AM DYING TO HEAR THEM

 i've never sucked a pussy,but i badly need to do so.i like watching lesbos go at each other.why?it's sensual and damn stimulating.rather than spend the whole night banging at my woman,i'd rather suck and stimulate her till thy kingdom come.but most babes i don ask to suk their toto,no gree, why?babes if u need am,call +2348037667755 or email me at nino2132003@yahoo.com.

it depends on the type of action the people in question needs. now if it  a whore house, the man just go there to get satisfaction and the  quickies u do on the side too. but if it is a real relationship like husband and wife or lovers, the women  needs to loosen up too. some women will just leave the action for the man alone. they pretends a lot.
       the men too need to know how to wake their partners, check her soft spots.
       the men need to know how to explore  their women parts with patience
       the need to know how to kiss ur woman is very important
       the men need to suck or kiss  the woman every where like boobs ears cunt expecially the cunt.  any time u do that to any woman she will surely come expecially if u are a pro like osereka. u can check me out for more info  on 08036215728 only abuja babes can call.

I AGREE - LADIES YOU JUST HAVE TO LOOSEN UP. SOMETIMES YOU JUST HAVE TO HELP THE GUYS OUT. IT TAKES TWO TO TANGLE YOU KNOW. LEARN TO BE MORE ACTIVE RATHER THAN PASSIVE.

@OSEREKA
LEAVING YOUR NUMBER FOR PUSSY LICKING IS RISKY because A CARRIER MIGHT SET U UP AND MAKE YOU REGRET SUCKING ANYTHING. THERE ARE MORE SUBTLE WAYS OF SENDING OUT CODED MESSAGES.

A LADY CALLED MY LINE AND TOLD ME SHE ACTUALLY COMES WHEN MAKING LOVE WITH HER HUSBAND BY REMEMBERING HER SWEET EXPERIENCE WITH A YOUNG GUY WHO KNEW HOW TO MAKE HER TICK.
THATS THE POWER OF IMAGINATION.

So so sorry  can i ask have u tried gettin there yoslf (masterbation)? I only ask as some have issues in reaching orgasm due to phsycological factors, but if u're able then maybe u just have to consider yo choices of partners (some people can be selfish).

 @ Uyai,it is not a surprising thing. I have met at least 5 women about that age who tod me the same thing.
 
@ IBDat, it not often that the problem is psychological or something serious.The truth is when most guys get aroused all they think of is sticking it in and getting their rocks off.
One other side I have discovered to this is when a lot of women say they want a guy with a massive privates.What I discovered is that when you make a woman come she becomes so sensitive that even putting your finger into her and moving in and out will make her come again not to talk of your privates.
And when once a woman has come she will come repeatedly

@nino213
big fat privates as you put it are over rated. 

if orgasm is soo difficult for your lady or you don't know how to use your magic stick; here is an option,  suck it up.

@adconline, I believe the purpose of this thread is the suffering some of us guys put ladies through in the name of "knowing how to use your magic stick" or  I got the longest privates in the world.
      I used the word suffering because I have a great number of female friends some who confide in me what they put up with from guys who think they are gods gift to women.
Please read the initial post and digest it.
I suggest all  posting know this is a serious issue before posting smart ass comments