3 Years Older Than My Boyfriend: Is It Ok?

Hmmmmmm! This is serious, and don't forget that it is marriage you both are talking about here?

Just think about it very well, If i were to be in your shoes, I don't think i can.

@ omindav

You don't see it as a problem, he doesn't consider it a set-back, he still wants to marry you regardless the "3 years" difference, and you were saying??

What do you care if either of your families find something wrong with it?? Are you getting married to them?? Its left for both of you to prove to them that the age thingy notwithstanding, you're perfect for each other.

The lady being older than the guy, somewhat has bully from the lady, disrespect towards the husband and possibilities of outgrowing the husband written all over it

But believe me, your case wouldn't be the first, some have failed the test woefully, but there are some that have stood out the test of time. You can be in the latter group But the ball is in your court.

Do you have the kind of respect that you would have had for an older guy for him?? though you're older, you do realise his position in the family and household (to be)?? you guys don't have the "lady older than the guy" tagg labelled on you, right?? You guys have all it takes to make a marriage a successful one, shey?? Nothing would have been different even if he was the older one, abi??

If YES is your answer to the above questions, dearie you might be damned not to marry this guy over the "age" issue.
You just have to make the world see reasons with you, just don't carry yourself in a manner that suggests the "issue", and believe me, you'll find your families saying . . "gosh, we wouldn't even have guessed in a zillion years, its her or nobody ooh"!!!!

Gurl av been looking for a way to say this.My babe is also 3 years older than i am which i got to knw few days ago.It kind bugs me but i dnt really give 2 f***ks u knw.The problem will only be the family.

@Seun
U r sayn d family doesn't av to knw*****whts going to happen when d wify gets more wrinkled than d Hussy n she can give birth again when d Hobby still has a lot of yogurt to spray about uh?

@poster
Only God can help ooooo.Plz plz plz plz n plz FOLLOW THY HEART

My friend's wife is 4 years older than him ,they have 2 kids aged 9 and 8.
From scratch they have built a business worth £2 million pounds, they are happy travel worldwide for holidays yearly.
The sort of relations you speak of only call them to ask for money pay respects.
MORAL-It does not matter

how many times do i have to reassure ladies that its ok?  I'm older than my husband. it has never been an issue. he even looks older than moi. his parents know I'm older. they didnt care. they love me dearly. if the parents have a problem with that then its their problem. you guys keep on living.

omo, 3 years, it's absolutely not okay man.
2 years into your marriage if you plan on getting married, she'll have you saying yessa-massa.

He didn't ask about younger women did he now? that doesn't happen as much as it does with the older ones by the way.
and it's not ignorance, it's the truth. take it with a pinch of salt.

spoilt i was joking about that post, the 3-year age differene isn't that much of a big deal until she grows a nut about her age.

why would she grow a nut ( whatever that means) about her age?
why on earth do you think that brides older than their husbands are more inclined to being bossy than the younger ones? last time i checked a bossy woman is a bossy woman despite her husband's age.

All this worrying about age confuses me, really it does.

I know people much younger than me that I have a lot of respect for. I also know people who are much older than me that I have little respect for. You get respect from how you act, what sort of person you are, your character. The date you were born doesn't have much influence on those things.

   very ok and 4 real. Believe in your self that is all.Remember its ur life and no one can   rule ur world. ;)Make more of it happen in our generation.
Age aint nothin but a number, ALIYAH

The problem has to do with you personally. Accepting this issue on  a positive psychological stability and as well stydying  her to an extent, for any traces of egotism will help. If this is settled and the submissive aura will be eternally cast on her, then ride on in the path of thy choice. PACEM

Call me ignorant, but I don't seem to understand what the problem is. I have gone out in the past with people even 12 years older than me and we respected each other, I think the mentality that what the family would think about it is crazy.
Older women not only show a good time, the added benefits of the fact that are proud and ok with their body is a great relief, there isn't that stupid question of do I look fat (which younger girls are bothered about).

I think you should get on with it, the families wont be there forever you know!

My sister, to answer your question, yes. It is okay for both of you to marry. I think the work lies on you to submit to your husband as you would have even if he were 10years older than you. I think you know this is attitudinal. I know people who can rubbish any body whether the person is older than their father or not and yet there are others who would treat you with respect despite being older than you. My girlfriend is older than me and by December(God's willing) we are marrying in Edmonton, Canada. Age has never become an issue and cannot be. We disagree at times, but it is normal and our disagreements would still have happened even if the age bracket were the other way round. I sense a lot of respect from her voice and that is all I need from my wife- age or no age. Her age has even been a blessing to me because she is mature and so we don't fight over petty things that plague people of my age with much younger girlfriends. Please check within yourself and ask" Do I respect him?" If the answer is yes, go ahead and marry but if it is no then family becomes an issue.

Hmmm, age is nothing but a number and number is nothing but a thing.It is only a thing of the mind so if you don't mind then it doesnt matter
Besides, if you don't tell his family members your age no one will know. i can't remember my father of mother in law asking me for my age when i got introduced to them neither can i remember my folks asking my husband for his age when he met them as well.
Marriage is not built on age but love, The bulk of the responsibility lies with you the woman in as much as you don't show it to him that you are older than him when it comes to making decisions. You have to be submissive to him
I can marry someone i am older than as long as we are compatible and comfortable with the age thing between us. Go girl and do you thing

Re-ea-ally? You actually conducted some in-depth attitudinal research into this area, plotted the results into a Gant chart and discovered that bossy women were often 'older or richer' than their husbands. Wonderful! Did it occur to you that the lady who refused to give her husband the keys to the car because she had just put some gas in it, was just being stingy? No. To you, it had to have been the age difference. Are you saying women who are younger than their husbands, do not deny their husbands the use of the car? 

 It didn't occcur to you that these women were bossy, simply because being bossy' was a character trait they possessed right from day one, and not because there was an age difference between them & their husbands. Are you saying that if they had been younger than their husbands, they wouldn't have been bossy? Haven't you seen younger women 'lording' it over their husbands or 'bossing' their husbands, around? What does it tell you about the emotional maturity of the man?

Last note: First class, Juintade, spoilt, IG & English1 thanks for your articulate words & logical reasoning. Thumbs up, guys!