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cute-ass (f)
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don't mind him jare, cute_ass After blowing my top, I realized he was just a loon that shouldnt be taken seriously. as for your advice, what if the woman she gets turns out to be a lesbian?  Yea dear, not to be taken serious at all. As regards the question: The ratio of chances of the lady becoming a lesbian to that of her tasting the forbidden fruit with the pastor is - - 2 : 98  @SweetT - you're mad - whats retarded in my posting - wise one?
Don't mind him so much, evryone else's post is "retarded", his on the other hand, is quite "educative" Please leave him to continue dreaming, its for free  |
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Sweet T (m)
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I dey go sleep. I work tonight. Gotta go keep the bad boys in control !
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cute-ass (f)
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I dey go sleep. I work tonight. Gotta go keep the bad boys in control !
Sleep tight eehn . . and make sure you wake up from a better side of the bed tomorrow, or you'll have to answer to me |
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Sweet T (m)
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@Cuteass
Aight baby ! night night.
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cute-ass (f)
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@Cuteass
Aight baby ! night night.
Night  You said you were going to bed 30 mins ago, your bed, how far is it that you haven't gotten to it yet?? |
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teddyface (m)
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@ poster run! run!! run!!! you are on your way to HELL   |
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cheexy (f)
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@virgin20
I am just a year older than you and meeeeeeeeennnnnnn any pastor that tells me that will get a good slap.What are you even doing in that kind of church sef. My dear, i know you are just curious to finally know what sex feels like but believe me girl it aint nothin if you don't have someone that loves and respects you. Imagine sleeping with the guy and having to battle with the guilt of loosing it to a married randy pastor and having to face his wife and kids whom you love so much.I know he might try to remind you of what he has done for you but that is just to make you feel guilty and give in to his cravings. Please leave the church because i won't even listen to a sermon coming from such a randy bastard. Just RUN
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cute-ass (f)
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@ cheexy Yea you got me thinking and you're right I forgot to give the pastor some sef, he should be castrated. For nuturing such thoughts towards an innocent young female church member, he's a disgrace to his population  The sins God will forgive on earth are uncountable  But let me stop there since i didn't hear from the pastor's mouth, no offence meant to the poster, but it could be the other way round  |
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virgin20 (f)
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just had to modify
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debosky (m)
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He is a married man, you are an impressionable 20 year old, if you are not careful, things will get out of hand.
It is not a pastor's duty to 'show you what kissing feels like', especially not a married one!!
why should you go and hug only the pastor, don't you have other friends or family??
even if he is the only one that 'understands you', you need to keep a safe distance or else the flesh will creep in and you will do something stupid
very few women will hear 'I love you' from a guy and think its only 'friendship', especially when hugging in private and kissing lessons are involved
don't be stupid, do the wise thing and limit your private unsupervised contact with this man.
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babyosisi (f)
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Nairaland users I am very sad at the reply to this serious issues. plz I need help , its not a joking issue. the pastor in question is the only one who understands me . i have had many women as mentors but they either don't understand where I'm coming from or they gossip a lot. I am going to be 21 in a month's time and I just want to make sure I am doing the right things. I personally don't feel pastor would harm me. he said to me " since you told me you are a virgin" I shall help to make sure you shall be pure till marriage.
the kissing part , he said "if I want to know what kissing feels like " i should feel free to ask him, its not a bad thing, he could just show me . also , he said if I want someone to hug me , he shall be there always, does he think I like him . I don't intend to have sex soon even though if i am turning 21 next month. I love God soooooo much . but my mentor really helps me . he teaches me a lot of things evne about how to be a woman of God.
Please i need help here. I am not a bad person at all!!! I just want to make sure I am not being deceived. he said feel free to tell me anything and every thing. usually , we someone is around the church premises. we've never really being exclusively alone . I know sometimes God's children can be in deep love eg david and jonathan. I just want to make sure things are straight
You can't possibly be serious about this whole nonsense. Don't come here and play goody goody when you're at the verge of acting as an agent of satan to bring down a man of God. You better quit your secretarial job and take your little Jezebel behind far far away or God will strike you down before you succeed in ruining this family. He has a wife and children,have you no shame? where are your parents and what did they teach you? |
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virgin20 (f)
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just had to modify
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babyosisi (f)
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a 21 year old is not a baby.
We have 12 year olds now carrying babies to full term,you are a full blown adult,hopefully with a full brain capacity,you obviously know right from wrong if all this silly story is not made up as I suspect.
It sounds too silly to be coming from an adult
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cute-ass (f)
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Nairaland users I am very sad at the reply to this serious issues. plz I need help , its not a joking issue. the pastor in question is the only one who understands me . i have had many women as mentors but they either don't understand where I'm coming from or they gossip a lot. I am going to be 21 in a month's time and I just want to make sure I am doing the right things. I personally don't feel pastor would harm me. he said to me " since you told me you are a virgin" I shall help to make sure you shall be pure till marriage.
the kissing part , he said "if I want to know what kissing feels like " i should feel free to ask him, its not a bad thing, he could just show me . also , he said if I want someone to hug me , he shall be there always, does he think I like him . I don't intend to have sex soon even though if i am turning 21 next month. I love God soooooo much . but my mentor really helps me . he teaches me a lot of things evne about how to be a woman of God.
Please i need help here. I am not a bad person at all!!! I just want to make sure I am not being deceived. he said feel free to tell me anything and every thing. usually , we someone is around the church premises. we've never really being exclusively alone . I know sometimes God's children can be in deep love eg david and jonathan. I just want to make sure things are straight
I'm sorry to say this @ vigin20, but this is the kind of thing that pisses me off You came seeking honest and sincere advice, we gave it to you and you're here trying to justify them. What else do you want us to tell you?? If you strongly feel he wouldn't cross the line, then who are we to insinuate otherwise?? Who said you were a bad person?? But comm'on you were the one talking about the way you were thinking about him  About the "kissing", what do you mean "he could just show you"?? are you some toy?? please my dear, you guys shouldn't do unholy things all in the name of "brothers and sisters in the Lord", if you aren't ready to be in a relationship yet, why does he need to show you?? why can't you wait and experince it with yur own man?? Yes, for some, the first kiss is quite unforgettable so why not wait?? and why is he suggesting it in the first place?? My dear listen, what we're trying to tell you is that, his pastorship (dictionary please) notwithstanding, he's human, and even though both of you started on neutral grounds, feelings can change along the line, and from your tell of things, we Nairaland users think it might be safer for you guys to be lessattached. Its still going smoothly, but on that fateful day, we won't be there to draw you back and before you could shout N A I R A L A . . the irreversible deed iss done,what then?? Both of you would be doomed and ruined, why not smuggle out while the game is still good?? and even though you still want him as a mentor, I suggest you guys stay in the open, where the public will prevent you from entering the fire *drawing her right ear with her right hand* hmmm, a word is enough for the wise, he who has ears, let him hear oooh |
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debosky (m)
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serious advice?
No more hugging
No more kissing lessons
No more spending time alone
detach yourself from a married man, you are still young and don't want to carry the label of home breaker from a tender age.
why on earth would you ask your pastor whether he has feelings for you? that shows that the relationship has gone beyond mere mentorship into an inappropriate realm. stop it now and seek counsel elsewhere. your closeness will put you in trouble and affect many more lives than just you and this man.
who is he to 'release' you when the right man comes along? that means for now you are his woman? God save us from deception and sin
think of the church, the sisters, wife and kids. don't be selfish. leave the man alone!!
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babyosisi (f)
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I'm sorry to say this @ vigin20, but this is the kind of thing that psses me off You came seeking honest and sincere advice, we gave it to you and you're here trying to justify them. What else do you want us to tell you?? If you strongly feel he wouldn't cross the line, then who are we to insinuate otherwise?? Who said you were a bad person?? But comm'on you were the one talking about the way you were thinking about him About the "kissing", what do you mean "he could just show you"?? are you some toy?? please my dear, you guys shouldn't do unhoky things all in the name of "brothers and sisters in the Lord", if you aren't ready to be in a relationship yet, why does he need to show you?? why can't you wait and experince it with yur own man?? Yes, for some, the first kiss is quite unforgettable so why not wait?? and why is he suggesting it in the first place?? My dear listen, what we're trying to tell you is that, his pastorship (dictionary please) notwithstanding, he's human, and even though both of you started on neutral grounds, feelings can change along the line, and from your tell of things, we Nairaland users think it might be safer for you guys to be lesser attached. Its still going smoothly, but on that fateful day, we won't be there to draw you back and before you could shout N A I R A L A . . the irreversible deed iss done,what then?? Both of you would be doomed and ruined, why not smuggle out while the game is still good?? and even though you still want him as a mentor, I suggest you guys stay in the open, where the public will prevent you from entering the fire *drawing her right ear with her right hand* hmmm, a word is enough for the wise, he who has ears, let him hear oooh she is not looking for a mentor but looking for a man that is unavailable to her. A man that is someone else's because for some reason she is incapable of getting one that is unattached. Miss virgin,get a full length mirror,look into it and whisper,"I'm an idiot" 3 times and then pack your stuff and relocate first,before God strikes you down. |
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babyosisi (f)
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serious advice?
No more hugging
No more kissing lessons
No more spending time alone
detach yourself from a married man, you are still young and don't want to carry the label of home breaker from a tender age.
why on earth would you ask your pastor whether he has feelings for you? that shows that the relationship has gone beyond mere mentorship into an inappropriate realm. stop it now and seek counsel elsewhere. your closeness will put you in trouble and affect many more lives than just you and this man.
who is he to 'release' you when the right man comes along? that means for now you are his woman? God save us from deception and sin
think of the church, the sisters, wife and kids. don't be selfish. leave the man alone!!
This girl is crazy. A 21 year old that's reasoning like a kid. at 21 most us already had a college degree. This girl needs a hot slap to wake her up |
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babyosisi (f)
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are you in a cult? what kind of release do you need,are you some sort of caged animal that'll be set free after taming? The day you decide to kiss and defile this man and ruin his home may your lips pucker up and remain in a puckered position |
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debosky (m)
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why are you the one 'asking questions to know if we are cool'? why isn't the person who is in the position of authority and should know better?
your father in Christ wants to show you what kissing is about? God have mercy on the two of you. Being a virgin is the least of the issues here and it totally irrelevant. you are naive and dangerous, leave this man alone since it seems he doesn't have the good sense to send you away himself.
any serious pastor wants to be above board and to BE SEEN to be above board, carrying things 'into secret' just opens doors for the devil to come in.
He says he will not have sex with you, what on earth would lead to such a discussion in the first place? so he can hug and kss, but not take your virginity abi? stop talking like a 12 year old like Babyosisi said, get away from this man before you ruin his home, the church and least importantly your life.
if his wife catches you guys hugging and breaks up the family, you'll still be a virgin won't you? but you wdve destroyed his home.
stop all this nonsense now or else you will regret for a long time.
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cute-ass (f)
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@ BabyosisiThe thing tire me sef, and i'm getting madder at her responses What exactly does she want to hear from us?? "Ooh baby girl, stic to the pastor, he's your burning candle and the road to your path"?? Because it all seems our rantings are falling on mere rock, she doesn't want to hear it, so why carry the cross all the way to nairaland in the first place "i need advise", "advice me", "what should i do", "is he being straight", "would he ask me for sex"?? we know there are kids ooh, but at 21, haba @ Virgin20I see you're swimming in the attention we're giving you, right?? Because you've gotten advice to last you this life-time, and one more to come, but you wouldn't quit, why?? because you haven't heard what you want to hear. Change in advice: continue going to hidden places with him, in your next lecture tell him you want to take him up on the "kissing tutor" promise, tell him to hug you more, lets say 60times aminute, tell him to hug you more tight so you'll feel the flow of annointing He's the only one that understands you?? try moving in with him and his family, you already love the family dearly, and since your own family aren't functioning, it will only be "continuation of love" with the pastor's family. If he starts making sexual advances: please dearie, just give in, please. Then at the end of the day clap for yourself, wipe off your shirt, nod in your mirror and say to yourself . . MISSION ACCOMPLISHED. now go practise this $2 million advice, you won't get it elsewhere!!
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babyosisi (f)
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continue going to hidden places with him, in your next lecture tell him you want to take him up on the "kissing tutor" promise, tell him to hug you more, lets say 60times aminute, tell him to hug you more tight so you'll feel the flow of annointing This is a funny one. annointing by hugging |
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davidylan (m)
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someone said may be I'm chasing him. I 'm just the kind of person that is friendly that's it. but I guess the issue is I'm kind of forming a sort of attachment to my mentor. and that is why I asked him if he has feelings for me just to make sure we are safe. he said confidently that "he has feelings, but the kind to see me prospers' .
A true pastor would have rebuked you sternly for asking him if he had "feelings" for you and refused to see you in private. we discuss evry thing.
Where is his wife when you are "discussing everything"? don't be such a hypocrite, would you be comfortable as a married woman knowing your husband "discusses everything" with another woman? The way we lay our bed is the way we shall lie on it! he says that " he won't ask for sex, that is against God's laws to do that to a good chrisitian woman".
So if not for "God's laws", he would have asked you for sex? What about his wife? Why are you so selfish and wicked? Have you spared a thought for his poor wife who is busy thinking you and her husband are discussing holy matters? but its okay to cry on his shoulders .
That is the gate to the wide road that leads to destruction. he said he shall never take advantage of me.
Should this even be named among married men of God? he shall release me when the right guy comes my way.
Is he now your boyfriend? I go to his house almost everyday to help cook, clean , his sisters live with them at home so I don't have to worry about stuffs like that. but he always tell me to come spend time in their home.
someone tell this man's wife to wake up and smell the coffee! and because of I just want to be a good honest christian woman
good honest christian seductress you mean? sister mary needs good advice
Get thee out of the pastors heart! |
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babyosisi (f)
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If only this pastors wife knew about MFM prayers.
She would have called down fire and brimstone to consume this seductress in her home while doing dishes
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virgin20 (f)
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Ijust had to modify
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davidylan (m)
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I have a degree many suitors come for me but I know they are not the rightful partners. my pastor talks about releasing me because he is my father in christ. At this rate he will soon become your lover in Christ. |
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debosky (m)
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how many 'advices' do you need?
LEAVE THE MAN ALONE!!
STOP SEEING HIM IN PRIVATE!!!
SEEK FEMALE COUNSEL!!
Men and women are very different, ONLY a woman can truly understand how you are feeling right now, since she would have gone through a similar experience on the way to womanhood.
A word (more like thousands) is enough for the wise.
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babyosisi (f)
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lol david.
@ virgin,relocate to a new town and cease from ever working in a church alongside any pastors.
2ndly say yes to one of your many suitors,marry quickly and do all the hugs and kisses and more from morning till night if you so desire.
and the above is that female counsel in a nutshell
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davidylan (m)
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I am very sad at the replies i get. ah why d'u treat me this way. now let me get serious here. a jezebel doesn't ask for advice to know if she is heading down the wrong road. so I am not one . I want advice that is practical , If I have a black heart to go further with my pastor, I would have y'all know that.but i don't . that's why i ask if innocent hugs and such comments can lead to further stuff . ok I admit , I've been on the defensive , trying to justify holy hugs , I'm wrong , how can I ammend my ways on my part. but quickly answer this is it possible that he knew I was beginning to develop feelings for him,because he tells me to "come closer", but from my heart, I never kiss, or do any stupid things apart from hugs , maybe 2 x a day.that's it. so that's why I on my part was trying to hope that I am reading too much meaning into stuff. I my self would never want to jeopardize a ministry or family I truly love. so if you give candid , critical advice, I shall willing accept it.critical advice that adresses evry area I have touched
I thought he promised not to take advantage of you? My dear, i am a man too! If a lady told me she had feelings for me and is as naive and trusting as you, i'D play my cards so well u'D be eating out of my hands within a week. He is TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOUR FEELINGS! He doesnt want to rush you because that may scare you, its the small things like hugs (2x a day) that begin to slowly break down your defences until the day he makes his move you wont see it as wrong. Sex does not start the minute you set eyes on each other. It subtly begins with the words we say, the looks we give each other, those innocent hugs, the peck on the cheek here a pat on the back there. Sex is addictive, you may be satisfied with a hug today, next week it will graduate to a kiss and within a month . . . Stop decieving yourselves, you both are already having sex in your hearts, only the physical manifestation is yet to occur. Best of luck as you break another woman's marriage. |
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babyosisi (f)
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people don't waste our advice on this character.
This virgin20 may actually be a man just playing on
No girl is this naive,i hope not!
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davidylan (m)
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people don't waste our advice on this character.
This virgin20 may actually be a man just playing on
No girl is this naive,i hope not! you are a woman so you don't see them. there are plenty of them everywhere! |
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cute-ass (f)
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@ David
Please don't, why are you painting the pastor?? Did you hear from him??
After reading all these her posts and responses, I'm beginning to peep ooh
Until i hear from the pastor, I'm no longer blaming him for anything.
And who told you she's trusting and naive?? she said in her first post, that she's been "thinking" of him,and you call that naive?? what naive girl will ask a full fleshed man of God if he has feelings for her??
Not at all, i'm not going that road of being fooled once again, ah-ah!!
@ virgin
You're an adult, your mates get married and raise a family. And yea, you might be in some kind of emotional problems or otherwise, but we've tried to help you to show we gat nothing but love for you. We've been tender, we've been harsh but you still seem not to take our words seriously, wish there was any other language we could use in telling you the words. I'm exhausted, really.
If you need it in "norwegian", i'll be more than glad to render my services. You're 21, so you should be able to put at least 1 and2 together.
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