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olufunmi (f)
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I'm a 15 year old girl. I'm in love with a guy of 28. Right or wrong?
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Seun (m)
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Wrong. If the 28 year old guy agrees to a relationship with you and one day attempts to have sex with you, he can be arested, since the law regards you as a minor, who is still under the supervision of your parents. You don't want that to happen, do you? What you are experiencing is a case of forbidden love. The treatment is simple: wait until you're about 20 and if he's still single and you are still in love, then go for it. Love that's what pursuing will last for more than 5 years! |
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casper (m)
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Yeah that is damn wrong   |
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Greatpeter (m)
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Funmi, love has no barrier. If you think he is your ideal man and you love each other go ahead. But how are you coping even with this Yoruba regard for respect won't he take you for a ride? Won't he say what do you know little girl know when even you are trying to bring out good and useful ideas that can benefit your future.
I will tell you that this your age is still to fall in love with your studies and man for now whether you are in University not withstanding.
I advise you as my own sister.
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preetie
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nice,i guess thats the jumpoff right now o! i finally found someone in my shoes but just a different size,im 17 and my babydaddy is 28, no doubt we r going 2 last,its our second year now and everything is gettin better or best,we r just a different couple and truely in love.so funmi if your ciriously in love with this guy and not just because u want 2 b on a different level,asin aristo,follow your heart he could even be your babydaddy
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babadudu (m)
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I'm a 15 year old girl. I'm in love with a guy of 28. Right or wrong?
I would say this....if you were my sister, I would not agree with the relationship. I would think the 28 year old is taking advantage of you...especially, considering this may be your first major relationship. You may think you are in love....I have my doubts though, only time will tell. |
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Seun (m)
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Being in love is like having a headache. It comes and it goes! So don't make drastic decisions in the name of love. Start preparing for serious relationship (engagement and marriage) marriage as early as possible, but be very careful before making any commitment.
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hot-angel (f)
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hmm, personally I think its wrong girl. I ain't gon date no dude that's 28...(daing, I don't want to wake up seeing my uncle beside me). The highest age I think a 15 year old should date is 21. I mean you can have a crush on a 45 year old man, but don't picture yourself with him.
But just for the sake of answering your question, Imma say if are sure the dude loves you and you love him same, go for it girl..Just take stuffs easy, because these guys ain't looking for nothing than to pop your cherry! Be safe girl.
**** I am loving this site!!**Yummy
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shockreaction (m)
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There is nothing "wrong" with having a relationship with him. The only problem is the way the society sees it... Obviously, most people, if not all, will be against it because you will be considered too young. You've not even reached the age of consent (16, I guess) yet, so, yeah, the older guy may be considered a sick pedophile, by some people...
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Seun (m)
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Why is no one else suggesting that she should wait before pursuing it? Am I mising something?
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legry (m)
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not like its a new thing
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Vieira (m)
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Seun, I agree.
She should wait a bit and if the guy is still around in the next 3 years then we know he is serious.
Take it easy girl and wait a bit. You have your whole life in front of you.
The fact that he is much older than you means he is more exprienced and may seem worldy to you now and this may be part of the attraction but as you get older it will seem even less of a big deal.
I hope you are not having sex yet becuase technically he can be arrested for that.
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preetie
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the issue of arrest is quite funny  |
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preetie
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well thats the jumpoff now here in abuja u can't find a guy in his mid 2 late 20's dating his age group nd damn they r all serious, they r ready 2 wait,lifes different now,no one wants an overmature babe,they r thinkin bout the future, well thats only if this gy is serious and the babe 2.
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solo2 (m)
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Very wrong, you are carrying a load much heaver than you.
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hot-angel (f)
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Very wrong, you are carrying a load much heaver than you.
EXACTLY!. i need to sleep now. *yawns* |
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abrakson (f)
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What is that? Girl wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong. You are still a baby because in our context Nigeria you'll still be getting some spankings for wrongdoings so my dear you are still a kid and have no business with issues like these.
You are only infatuated towards the guy; nothing more nothing less. Slow down and wait for the right time.
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Chigszy (f)
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i just had to say something. you are 15 and u love a guy that is 28 there is nothing wrong with that. because she is 15 does not mean that the guy must have sex with her. but that is possible too. the ball is in your court but personally, you are in love with the guy and there is noothing wrong with that. but having sex with him if you are not ready is your decision to make. if he forces you or pressures you to have sex with him and you are not ready then just dump his ass it will hurt real bad but he aint worth it. so girl do your thing but have a clear head about it and think rationally when the need comes  |
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hot-angel (f)
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I just had to say something. you are 15 and you love a guy that is 28 there is nothing wrong with that. because she is 15 does not mean that the guy must have sex with her. but that is possible too. the ball is in your court but personally, you are in love with the guy and there is noothing wrong with that. but having sex with him if you are not ready is your decision to make. if he forces you or pressures you to have sex with him and you are not ready then just dump his ass it will hurt real bad but he aint worth it. so girl do your thing but have a clear head about it and think rationally when the need comes are you always this smart? |
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Seun (m)
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having sex with him if you are not ready is your decision to make It is not your decision to make. It's illegal and it could get him in trouble. |
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princeabely2k4
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This issue of a 15 years old girl dating a 28 years old boy is not suprise to me it is the same thing that happans arround nowaday in the country. you can even see a girl of 10 years dating a boy of 28 becusea he gat money,so what do you think about that.
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IAH (f)
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This is simply Child Abuse! Awon agba iya!
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Angelgal (f)
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Cradle robbing to say the least...
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Chigszy (f)
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@ hot-angle trust me hon i can get smarter than that. That was just a warm up.... don't hate |
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Pinky (f)
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Why is no one else suggesting that she should wait before pursuing it? Am I mising something?
seun u aint missing anything,, am with u all da wayas for u poster........... u re a minor, at your age u don't even need a boyfriend......when one of my sisters was 15, she had admirers because of her big stature but that was wher it all ended,, i never allowed her to date anyone of them till she became a major......so girlfriend..... if at all u choose to date, don't do it with a 28yrs old boy.. because to be sincere someone of 28yrs will start to plan his life & how to settle down so if u think u gat a boyfriend in him, u re wrong.. he's going to be wisked away by some girl later on.. u will get nothing from that relationship u re in but a major heartbreak!!!! assuming a girl of 28 is dating a 45yrs old man, ther will be no probs because they re both matured...but for u of 15 to be dating a 28 years old ???wao that's something else.. u aint in love girl.. i wish i could see the guy & give him a knock in d head for what he's going to do to your heart later on.. trust some of our judgement on this board.....many replies were sent to u by guys.... so wisen up girl |
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hot-angel (f)
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@ hot-angle trust me hon I can get smarter than that. That was just a warm up.... don't hate I ain't hating boo. I am appreciating. |
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sade (f)
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A 15-yr-old girl with 28-yr-old-boy? ? Hmm thats a serious issue.The percentage at which its wrong is higher than that of right.But all you need to do is to follow your heart.Once you follow your heart then no problem but if u were my sister I wont advice you to go out with a guy of 28 at 15. You are a teenager and sorry if I sound silly...a teenage girl hardly knos what is called a relationship and you can't handle a relationship.Teenagers always believe whatever they do is right both boys and girls because they don't know which class they belong..maybe its adult or child.So at times when you have a relationship in your teen age its always infactuation not love because you can't differentiate between the two at that age,and a guy of 28 maybe difficult to have as a boyfriend because you cnat really say what he has in stock for you and he knows you have little experince. But all you need to do is to be very careful because he might just use you and dump you.I'm not saying he will 100% use you because I don't know the guy in question and I can't just conclude but please be wise...guys can be dangerous at times and the way your first relationship is might affect your life either negatively or positively. |
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jogego (m)
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Two words: STATUTORY RAPE |
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mosiate (f)
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olufunmi,that thing is very,very wrong,if only he's going to be your aristole then it's still permitted but to have him as boyfriend he's going to ride and rule you.
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littlesaint (f)
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Kai, I am so heart broken.!!!  ... what's d difference b/w u and a 12 or 13 yr old? You are still a baby... for christ's sake, what do u know about handling relationship??? Let alone a heart break??? Lets not even talkabout unexpected pregnancy... Cos u can't tell me he "Will WAIT" till u are 21 or more.... most guys aren't that patient. Thank God for the friends (especially d guys)we have in the house.... they have advised u as they would their sisters. sooo shine your eyes. I wish i know d cradle snatcher. But if in doubt of all d advice or if u feel what u are doing is RIGHT..... Go ask your parents... No, no, no, Go ask your MOM!. Me |
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Z4M4eva (f)
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Uh oh, not very RIGHT
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raregroove (m)
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There is no crime to fall in love, however you can only fulfill your relationship within the constraints of the law.
You can fulfill your fantasy when you come of age (whatever that legal age is within Nigeria) & not anytime before. Hope this helps?
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