Heartbroken: Jilted By My Girlfriend For An 'Ex-Boyfriend'

Guy try to move on and stop feeling so dejected.Shit happens.

I took my time to read Shangy's heart outpour!

Ol boy, I know how it feels but it is really a good experience that shappens one, if you are lucky to go through it!!!

Please go face whatever is your souce of livelihood and become an expert in it. When you get tot he top of your chosen profession, you will be an attraction to many, both male and female. Check out for my posts. It has happened to me before.

Initially, i withdrew to my shell, later i moved on. The shock really propelled me to move on in life, after an elder told me if a wife (or girlfriend deserts you, do not commit suicide. A woman that deserts you today will still come back to you tomorrow, if you are hard working!

Years back, I started having the last laugh! As I write, God has been so merciful, I'm in a position to attract any woman without making much effort. Frankly speaking, women cannot resist successful men. Be a success in your field. She, or a better woman/better women would come into your life. As I write, I know a lot of those I dreamt of wooing but could not due to my level then, who make all efforts to get my attention today. Such is life. You will get over it, the pian only lasts fr a while.

If you are still alive some five year's time and you take my advise, look back, you will discover that it is not worth dying for. You would have been strong enough to be able to attract and retain any woman you desire. The key is hard work.

You may keep in touch via my email, if you will, I will share some life experience with you.

E pele o. Ndo o.

shangy! shangy! shangy! how many times did i call u? leave this girl she is not matured enough , i think she change her mind because she feels she has d opportunity 2 travel out if  gives in to d guy in abroad , d truth is dt d girl does not love u because if she does she would think twice .just go on with ur life , at times love can be very sweet and be very bitter, u will get someone good for you ,just take ur time .

The thread might be old but other people needs such experience to learn from in relationships.

@topic
Well shangy, perhaps the guy has promised taking her to yankee and she's living up to that.
and using u to furnish her emotions while she is waiting.

ur post too long so i no fit read am finish bt, wht i will tell u is that u shld move on with ur life.

where is d shangy u people r advising?

Shangy dear, 1st i must say that was a really long story, read it  but next time try to summarize especially as from the 1st paragraph i could see that she never really was into u, u wer just available. som girls n guys could be mean u knw, just take heart n move on. ur angel is on d way

Could always be worse, yaknahmsayin?No matter what though, gotta keep your head up to the sky
It's all wrong but it's all right
It's a small world; matter fact it's a small life
We all trip but the way to survive
is hold your head and make sure you fall right
And it's a quite fact, that whatever goes around comes right back
It's just like that
And you can breathe long as you keep your head in the sky

-Jadakiss

I'm so sure she'll be back someday and U musta move on then.
Take a little more time,love will found U

@poster
been der before. i tried enlisting the services of cultist so dey can inflict some things on her beautiful face. mine was worse. she told me because I'm yoruba,shes hausa,I'm Christian,shes muslim. these stuffs she never raised when we started. I later found out,the Ahmed guy she told me shes done with came back with a check of N3million after selling a land in Abuja.

Ask me in private what you can do to her. shes a fool. That guy will leave her soon.

you were jilted by your girlfriend?what were you doing that made you blind as to the 'writings on the wall'?
  I'D say if she really loved you as you thought she did,she shouldn't have left you but there's no use crying over spilt milk, get out there and party,you'D definitely meet someone with more qualities than her, i can guarantee you this because i've been there, but be Good

guy ,sorry ennn

story story, storrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry! the only reason i never yab u na because i no dey sure if this na true story or u just dey make am up. if na true story, pele. now to the facts, na u create your own wahala. from wetin u write, the girl had given u early signs, why didnt u slow down and handle her as just friends pending when things are cleared. girls can hurt u badly but Nigeria girls will kukuma kill u pata pata. i will tell u from this experience of mine that alot of times, when we slow down and do more observations, we save our hearts lots of pains. for nigerian singles in the states, na common thing when a guy meets a fellow Nigeria girl that is also single, he will begin to mentally evaluate the girl if she bi marriageable material or someone he will just have a thing or two with. na so i met this girl, we became very good friends and me sef don dey think say she probably will be the one oooo, i dey do my observation quietly. i even invited her to come to my place for vacation since she just don graduate. na me dey pay the air tickets ooooo; this girl go my hi5 page see one small pikin wey bi my niece, the girl blew up saying she dey disappointed in me, say why i dey hide say i get pikin. na hin i begin dey probe the girl, i con ask am if i get pikin wetin happen, long story short, she begin dey miss yan, i con knw say, that relationship no go ever happen. even now she still think say na my pikin. so bros, slow down and u will see better, love is not as blind as u think ooooo.

FYI: use the mirror of life simulated problems well in your relationship, it always reflect the true image of people.

@ Shangy,
Thumbs up for you Buddy! I'm glad you woke up and went on with life. I'm so proud of you. Shit happens and we all fall now and again, but the most important thing is that when we fall, we must get up, pick something up from the fall and move on with life.

That's what makes life worth living, that's what makes life beautiful. Keep keeping on. I'm glad you're not bitter, glad you learnt to love again. Life is good, life is sweet, life is beautiful and life is too short to be spent hating anyone.

Love you Buddy!!

hello friend,
i really do not when this post was made but about this boy /girlfriend thing, guys wake up to this reality: you are the man in the relationship, you are the BOSS, but not domineering, you dictate at what pace things should go, why allow a woman play you 'BOJUBOJU", .
Take note of these points house, if your guy/girl feels uncomfortable to answer calls when you around or she goes to a far distance or runs to the toilet to receive calls please don't hesitate to end the relationship because there OBVIOUSLY is something fishing, such people shouldn't be in our lives. i didn't bother to read all your complaints because i know where it will end.
secondly guys, don't EVER allow your girls to dictate for you in any relationship,but listen to them when they speak, the truth is girls hate or are not attracted to guys they can control ,it simply means to them you are not man enough, and real women love real men,men that know why they are doing a particular thing even if that thing will kill them, sometimes a woman cannot explain why she is attracted to a guy its simply because of his personality not necessarily because you are nice or try very hard to kiss up her ass and hand over the power in the relationship to her, if you do not like what she is doing tell her and that if she continues the relationship is over after all there are a million men and women on the outside whose sexual talents have not been discovered or underutilised.

in my opinion you were trying overly hard to please her, you really didn't need all that, learn to do things the way it pleases you and be yourself if she loves  and is attracted to you she will ditch Sean combs( p. diddy) to be with you without knowing why.

Let the babe go you are hurting someone somehere who dearly cares about you by still morning over a girl that jilted you open up your heart for someone new