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Love J (f)
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I want to broke up with my guy because he is at another state why me am in any one and i don't know if he is cheating on me or no there because is been long I saw him though we talk over the phone lots of time,I know he will feel bad but am also confused if I should broke up with him or not because I still LOVE HIM
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amasha (f)
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If u r 'still in love' with him dnt break up wit him.u guys should find a way 2 work tins out, talk 2 him about how u guys can c urselves if nt al d time, when u r far away from someone u truly love it doesnt really help esp when u guys are jst building ur relationship.
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Love J (f)
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we are not just building because is one(1) full year now that we have been dating
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amasha (f)
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Oh! I'm nt an expert on this kind of stuv tho bt i sincerely think u shudnt break up wit him since u stil love him okay!
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iice (f)
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Gawd, i actually made it through that one almost in one piece 
I don't get it  You think he is cheating but you are not absolutely sure. What is stopping you from finding out?
You want to break up with him because (a)he might be cheating on you, (b) you havent seen each other in a long time.
In the past one year, what efforts have you guys made to see each other physically? Since am sure you obviously know distance relationships take a little extra work than same vicinity relationships. And since you are still in love with him, what is stopping you from going on with the relationship. More importantly, you said you guys talk alot but do you guys communicate well with each other. Does he even have a clue about these questions troubling you? Like i said i don't get it
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Love J (f)
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thanks guys, i appreciate it.
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solodox (m)
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 yes you freaking should!
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Love J (f)
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what do u mean but that yes u freaking should, when others are saying something nice the why say that, or is it what u will do solodox
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Love J (f)
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And please I want to ask if a guy can be faithful if he is in another State schooling there and his girlfriend is at another place also and they hardly see each other.
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Soundmind (m)
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Faithfulness in relationship is not determined by distance. Even your date near you can cheat on you. Your guy might not be cheating on you as you discuss with him always on phone especially if he is the one that calls you. Show him love and care so that he will see you special and God gifted to him. Try and fashion out how you will be meeting him at least once in 2 months or less than that. Whenever you stay with him, try and satisfy him sexually and with different styles so that he will come after you. It will make him stick to you. I asure you, he is still there for you. But sorry, you did not tell us if u have a guy holding brief for the guy  |
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holyeye (m)
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no worry make u break up.
You hear me so. u never catch am u don dey think of breaking up, na wah ooooooo.
So if u marry person and u nab am wit woman u go divorce abi?
Abeg if u love am well well, dey pray 4 am, nothin wey God no fit do. look 4ward 4 beta days as long as d guy is lovin, carin, and ur specs.
I feel say na u no fit hold bodi.
think well well.
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Love J (f)
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Thanks holyeye but the truth is that u guys can not be trusted sometimes and u no it
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MILITIA (f)
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You are looking for trust?  My dear then do not get in a relationship at all. HABA! Do U trust yourself? Others are looking for love, security, companionship, bedmate, babymama, babydaddy, humour, partnership and so on. You are looking for trust Darling that is the last thing you achieve in a relationship before you quench! That takes a long time and with the "Grace of the Merciful One" Upstairs! So please do not start your relationship with paranoia! |
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holyeye (m)
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Militia tell am tru.
Me no say me no dey trust worthy, even when she dey under my roof, bt d truth b say i love am well well.
I no fit joke wit make she catch me.
I respect am well well.
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MILITIA (f)
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@holyeye
Thank you mai brother! In fact the babe dey read too many novels and watch too many soap operas them! Please wake up and smell the dust!
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anabell (f)
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@topic, if u no u cannot trust ur man i think the best thing for you to do is to break up with him, and date someone u can trust
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anabell (f)
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trust should be the basic thing in a relationship without that i feel the whole relationship is a complete wast of time.Anyway i cannot date someone i cannot trust
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MILITIA (f)
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Trust? with what? Fidelity, murder, lying or what? What do you need trust in? You know we have broken most of the rules if not all. So do you say you will not date anyone because you fear you will be dissappointed for one reason or the other? What exactly are you guys saying? I need specifics! All you women are saying one thing, the guys are saying another. It is a compromise my dears! |
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anabell (f)
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TRUST --KNOWING WHAT UR MAN IS CAPABLE OF DOING AND BEEN ABLE TO VOW 4 HIM . THIS CAN ONLY WORK IF BOTH PARTIES ARE COMPLETELY HONEST WITH EACHOTHER.LITTLE THINGS CAN BRING IN TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP,AN EXAMPLE IS WHEN UR MAN ALLOWS U GO TRU HIS PHONE WHENEVER U WANT TO AND EVEN WANTS U TO ANSWER HIS CALLS
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MILITIA (f)
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@Anabell Which planet you dey live? So I can come and join U Oh girl do not sweat the small stuff as the Americans will say! |
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anabell (f)
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well thats how i think a healthy relationship should be , i no its hard but we will get there some day |
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MILITIA (f)
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@anabell You sure say You dey for America here? Trust is the least of our problems here oh!  Most of us are stilll trying to catch the man first not to talk of to trust am! |
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anabell (f)
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well i don't stay in the you s,i just come to visit, i live in the uk, and my dear i no alot of decent guys, that can be trusted
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MILITIA (f)
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@anabell UK. That is the head quarters of emotional 419 ke with all those international "Odu" bobos we see on T.V. over here. You know a lot of decent guys I hope you have nabbed one of them before they all escape!  |
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anabell (f)
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my sister in the you s, answers her man phone, there is no big deal and she knows were he is at every point in time,there are alot of guys out there that can be trusted, that i no and have seen
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anabell (f)
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no i don't need them, i have my eyes on someone already 
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MILITIA (f)
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@anabell
Only insecure people with no full time jobs will behave like that. I do not know where my husband's phone is most of the time. I couldn't care a rat's arse where mine is. Dog when wan lost no go hear I'm master whistle!
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anabell (f)
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well i can't agree with u on that, whats wrong with me lookin through my man phone or him saying honey can u answer ma phone, thats were the closeness comes in
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anabell (f)
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people in a relationship should be very close not distant, anyway that my own opinion
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MILITIA (f)
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I am confident in myself not to go looking. The most important info you need about your man or woman usually comes to you when you are not looking. Who said we are not close? Well go searching oh! Hope you find what you are looking for then. I sleep well at night without any worries. People like you will have hypertension for nothing! Anyway you are still young so you have time. After 3 or 4 children show you pepper, you will have other concerns besides men!
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anabell (f)
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hypertension thats gross! anyway i no i will get my kind of guy when am ready |
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