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mcube (f)
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[color=#000099]i caught my boyfriend with a lady he called his friend. he later confessed that the have been dating, so i asked him what his feelings for both i and the lady is. he said he loves us equally and that he cannot leave me for her. so i suggested to him that i should excuse him for now so that he can make his decision, but he said i shoul not that the lady is only a distraction in our relationship. he also said he knows he is not going to last wit her that i should be patience. but i don't think i cancope with that.
please i need advice in the house. please respond urgently
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luxoire (f)
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YOU DESERVE BETTER GIRLFRIENDkick his selfish silly arse to the curb. Look you actually CAUGHT him and HE CONFESSED. yet he is implying using you as a DOORMAT, telling u WAIT LET ME CATCH MY FUN, AND I KNOW IT'S NOT going to LAST, BUT I want to SATISFY THIS NEED I HAVE. IN THE MEANTIME U WAIT FOR ME, AND WHEN I COME BACK WE CAN PICK UP WHERE WE LEFT OFF, because I LOVE U AND ITS U I WANT  does that sound like the sort of person u want to give another chance to? he is probably just going to use, re-use and abuse u!!
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sillyboy (m)
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Haba! why are you been so hard on the poor lady?@ mcube. Well, guess i need to start by saying I can imagine your heartfelt pains. But to be candid, I guess the guy is very truthfull and honest. Had I been the one I wouldn't come out straight ooo! lailai. The fact that the guy came out straight means he respect you. He's just having fun  , I sure envy the guy. MY ADVISE!!!, Simply tell him you too want to have fun with someone else (prhaps my humbleself) pending the time he will sort himself out. Consider my offer of myself cancelled if you are not 8.5 on a scale of ten |
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sillyboy (m)
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Haba! luxoire why are you been so hard on the poor lady?@ mcube. Well, guess i need to start by saying I can imagine your heartfelt pains. But to be candid, I guess the guy is very truthfull and honest. Had I been the one I wouldn't come out straight ooo! lailai. The fact that the guy came out straight means he respect you. He's just having fun , I sure envy the guy. MY ADVISE!!!, Simply tell him you too want to have fun with someone else (prhaps my humbleself) pending the time he will sort himself out. Consider my offer of myself cancelled if you are not 8.5 on a scale of ten |
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RuuDie (m)
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DAMN --- I hate it when brovaz screw up like this, couldn't he be a whole lot more discreet !!? well girl, u got d ball, don't u let it fall! i'll just borrow some words from my sis. Luxoirekick his selfish silly arse to the curb.
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iice (f)
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Eyah, one thing i gotta say, he atleast told the truth. Personally i detest lies but this is about you so anyways. You have to give yourselves a little break, him to get over his ish, you not to fall to pieces watching him do his ish.
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RuuDie (m)
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@ Lice, you're giving someone credit 4 "telling the truth" after they've been caught in a "lie" --- strange  |
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luxoire (f)
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@RuuDie
hahaha that is funny, sha u can borrow my words any time ur short on urs, i mean i am all for giving people second chances especially when u can't prove that they've done something wrong
but when he is that blunt about it!, kind of makes me want to give him a good talking to myself
@iice
huney i also detest lies, but HE DIDN'T TELL THE TRUTH he was FORCED to because he got caught!!
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iice (f)
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@Ruudie
My nick happens to be iice oooo
He was caught yes, but he didnt go into some lyrical burst of fantastical crap!
Most people make things worst by trying to avoid the whole scene or by lying their way out of it.
@Luxoire, truly i understand ooo
Some women like to ignore the telltale signs 
Some women smell mischief from a mile away
The thing is, even by getting caught, he was forced to tell the truth, atleast he did tell the truth, instead of lying thereby adding insult to injury.
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luxoire (f)
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hahahahah @iice, sha i guess u have a point, some guys try it on!!! its like u go catch tif-man dey tiff, instead of confessing, him go dey tell u how, na hunger cause am!!! madness in the first degree |
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iice (f)
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LMAO!
I guess in the end most of us react differently. Some are willing to forgive and work past it. Some cannot because they cannot understand how someone can mess up like that. Some are just trying to blind themselves and ignore whats going on. Some like to delude themselves 
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RuuDie (m)
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@ Lice,
i'm feelin u, i'm feelin u --- personally, i've got no qualms 'bout givin' or acceptin' 2nd --- but from a guys point-of-view, if d reverse were d case, i sori sori o, my guy go don scatter ground !!
wether u tell truth or not I'm no go wan hear that wan !
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oatgold20 (m)
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As a guy,it's clearly evident that the so called hearthrob of yours never plans anything for you at all.The earlier you leave him the beta for you to prevent total heartbreak.He's nothing but fed up of you,just the sight of that would make any guy who trully loves you to shiver and do everything to beg you and immediately leave the other girl to go hell and do whateva she pleases because she becomes a bitch to him at that moment.But from your story a word is enough for the wise!!
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RuuDie (m)
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LMAO!
I guess in the end most of us react differently. Some are willing to forgive and work past it. Some cannot because they cannot understand how someone can mess up like that. Some are just trying to blind themselves and ignore whats going on. Some like to delude themselves yes, true --- in actual fact, women have a more 4givin' nature & sometimes that's why they get played. so in situations like these i'd rather prefer that u take the most drastic of options available 2 u. |
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anon101 (f)
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Ok been a relationship guru there are things to be addressed here
1. I will not advise u to kick his arse - REASON - except if you have made up your mind to , no matter what anyone says , u will still stay while he cheats on you --i have been there before so i know whats happening
2. If you love him and you think you can't find anyone else to love you , u will still end up staying anyway
The only thing to look at is your inner self , if you are convinced this is not what you want , then move on but if not trust me no matter how many men u try to have fun with , you will still come back to the same guy , yu will only be alot harder.
So your choice
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marlet01 (m)
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@mcube I must confess that the guy is a f***l, he is just trying to maybe have fun with her and later return back to you. Just leave him for good and move on with someone else. Cheers.  |
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iice (f)
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@ Lice,
i'm feelin u, i'm feelin u --- personally, i've got no qualms 'bout givin' or acceptin' 2nd --- but from a guys point-of-view, if d reverse were d case, i sori sori o, my guy go don scatter ground !!
wether u tell truth or not I'm no go wan hear that wan !
yes, true --- in actual fact, women have a more 4givin' nature & sometimes that's why they get played. so in situations like these i'd rather prefer that u take the most drastic of options available 2 u.
Again my good man, its IICE
True, but i have known men to stick around even if they know their babes are cheating on them. But i get your point. |
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angelchi (f)
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hes not worth d trouble.
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mcube (f)
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Thank you all for your lovely advice. i am so happy because i felt releived inside. i talked wit him and i think truely he is taking me for a fool.he doesnt deserve me. i deserve a better man. thank you all
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angelchi (f)
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that is d spirit girl. |
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anon101 (f)
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i have siad this before and i still went back to the same guy , in the long run we broke up because i couldnt take it anymore
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gbeborun (m)
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@poster,
nice one, u deserve someone better. But me think it's in men's nature to cheat. Last week my best mate was bursted, apparently he had another girl at home for several days when his main girlfriend got wind of it and bursted him at home. Funny thing is, they are still together! So who we be to advice. Abeg just follow your heart and do whatever pleases you. Best wishes
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RuuDie (m)
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Again my good man, its IICE maybe u shoulda stuck to the simple spellin' wid' 1 "I" --- short-sighted folks like we tend 2 "mis-see" stuff like "ii"True, but i have known men to stick around even if they know their babes are cheating on them. But i get your point.[/color]
Those kind of men are either soooo love-struck or straight-cut dumb; either ways, they're are rarity & this here don't seem like it ! |
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iice (f)
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LMAO @RuuDie,
Simple things are good, but am not such a simple girl 
Yes it is a rarity but i have seen it happen.
@Poster, glad your problems have been resolved. Goodluck
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OgaMadam (f)
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he loves you too much to let you go.
he doesnt love you enough to let her go.
you choose.
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