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zina_1 (f)
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Hello house.i need your help on this matter.i met this guy some weeks back and we started talking and eventually became friends.somewhere along the line he wanted to go into a relationship,that he wants me by him and all that but there's a catch.Firstly,he says he wants a relationship without sex at least for the first 3 months.2ndly,that he wants to be very open and free with me,he wants to be able to tell me anything n not keep things with me.i was like beautiful and then he told me all about his ex-girlfriends n all that.Not until on Saturday i went 2 see him and we got talking then he tells me that he had sex with the his very last girlfriend on tiesday last week.i was like i thought u said u had broken-up with her,then he goes 'we are off and on'.i tried to talk about it and understand why and he was like this is the 1 thing he doesn't want,me complaining about his ex,to make matters worse,the ex called him then n lo and behold,they were supposed to go out that same evening. He says that he's scared of women and all that.i felt bad and he noticed it and since then he's like been avoiding me not until i told him I'll play by his rules that he said OK.
House please advice me,What do you make of this because? What do u advice?
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Sweet T (m)
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@Zina
I'll honestly tell you that you are waisting your time with this loser if you continue to see him ! You nee to leave him alone while you still can, it's only weeks old relationship and get out b/4 you develop feelings for him. HE'S A LOSER !!!!
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jhibola
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[b][/b][i][/i] O GA OOOOO, I SERIOUSLY AGREE WITH SWEET.T, You ARE WASTING YOUR TIME WITH A GUY WHOSE BODY IS WITH YOU BUT IS SOUL IS SOME WHERE ELSE, AND 2RU LOVE IS ALL ABOUT SOUL NOT BODY, WHAT GAVE You THE ASSURANCE THAT HE WAS NOT LIEING IN THE FIRST PLACE?
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DewDrop (f)
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Play by his rules?!
Look- If he wanted to be with you AND ONLY you, he wouldn't be having sex with his ex-girlfriend.
Why would you want to stick around with someone who treats you like 2nd option?
He will continue seeing her and you will spend your relationship wondering
"Does he kiss her like this?, does he touch her like this?, Do they do this? that?"
TORMENT!
Why would you want to torment yourself that way?
Since you just got to know him- I personally don't think he's that much into you that he can't decide to focus solely on you!
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anon101 (f)
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The girl a guy tells things like that is more like a friend to the guy….let me tell you something, this guy needs someone by his side while he gets himself perfectly back with his girl. He is still in love with his “ex” he is so faithful to her that he can't cheat on her with you ( thats y he will not sleep with you). you are only there as a shoulder to cry on .if you want that stay . but my advise is for you to move on , you are only hurting yourself more. So before u get burnt, ……
please i want to know what sort of guy this is
is he living in nigeria,uk us, where
thanks
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anon101 (f)
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@dewdrop, some girls don’t mind been second option even 10th option I don’t know what is wrong with this world we are,
, and I am sure if we were to see your pic zina, u are a beautiful innocent princess and u deserve your ONLY Prince NOT someone elses
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sillyboy (m)
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My candid advise is to stick with the guy because it seems you are quite dumb, and the guy seems quite smart. Let the guy start to "fire" the two of you now! You could even learn some "firing" styles from your "iyale"(so called ex) by peeping through the key hole while she's "firing" the guy.  |
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halleberry (f)
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@sillyboy --lol I CANT HELP BUT REALLY LAUGH
THAYS SO FUNNY ,,,You ARE DEFINITELY A SILLY BOY
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enitan2002 (m)
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this lady is simply a dope-head.
I'm damn sure, she's still in secondary/high school.
Go and read and pass yur exams with flying colors
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Tarami (f)
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That you can even ask for advice on this kind of issue is mind boggling.Take what is left of your pride and run out of this useless situation.Dont you ever give anyone the permission to downgrade and walk all over you . Enough said.  |
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enitan2002 (m)
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@ tarami,
you said it all
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dominobaby (f)
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I absolutely see no reason why you should stick with him, unless you're okay with being a second choice. Why be that when you can have a sane guy for yourself!
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dominobaby (f)
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I absolutely see no reason why you should stick with him, unless you're okay with being a second choice. Why be that when you can have a sane guy for yourself!
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enitan2002 (m)
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@ TARAMI
don't thank me, but thank the bobo that will playing with the opeke's heart
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mcube (f)
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if u want to be a second hand i mean TOKUNBOH u can go ahead. let him off the hook girl.
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luxoire (f)
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@POSTER YOU ARE NOT SERIOUSLY ASKING THAT QUESTION ARE You??   look hun, kick his badlY brought up DISHONEST derriere to the pavement, and whilst your at it, spit on his sorry little face, he wants u to be a booty call, or an emotional sack, where he can go have sex his ex, and when he has emotional issues, come and dump on u. girl this relationhsip is going to be an emotional hassle for u, one which u don't need, because i bet u, when he's 'fine' he going to be looking for his ex to share his 'happy moments' with (however few these are)TWISTED PSYCHO TELL HIM, ITS ALL OR NOTHING, your not an emotional bin, if the chick only wants sex, then its his wahala not urs if he can't co-ordinate his d*ck and his mouth to speak the same language, if she enjoys his sex and his company.then they had better make it work, and spare u wahala, MEANTIME, You MAKE UR DECISION AND UR POSITION CLAER AND STICK BY IT!! |
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michelin89 (f)
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This is the truth.
His ex girlfriend is actually his girlfriend.
You, the supposed new girlfriend, are a spare tyre.
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salsera (f)
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chic u haven't had a boyfriend in ages right and you thot , wow i can't let this get away the guy sniffed you out from afar he just sensed you were in the right place emotionally to buy this whole lie its manipulation at its best you will soon become a statistic and a guest on Oprah  |
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cute-ass (f)
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@ twin (luxoire)please ask her for me
@ zinaWhat in the whole wide world did you say you were still doing with him?? He doesnt want to have sex with you, but he wouldnt mind having sex with his "ex" He's scared of women, but he's not scared of laying his "ex"?? They're going on and off?? this nonsense of his is just too incredible for my comprehension Who the hell is he to tell you what he wants from you or not, when he can't be straight forward and sincere, you shouldn't complain about his "ex", but he'll have all the "right" to cheat on you when his manipulative soul well pleases?? And he's the one that is mad at you?? when he was the architect of the problems you're having?? Darling, do you really see this "cheat" as the love of your life?? Don't you honestly believe you deserve 1001 times better?? Please hun read the hand-writing on the wall, its too clear for you to miss it . . when they're "off", he's totally yours, but when they're "on", what happens to you?? And come to think of it, what if they eventually go "on", and the "off" never comes?? You just can't accept it, and i don't think there's any point in asking him to choose, he already made his choice, and from all indications and actions you arent the chosen one  If you on the other hand make him choose you, then you'll forever live in uncertainties, Cos hismind obviously is with her. Dearie it isnt too late yet, make hay while the sun shines, you can do better, comm'on you're worth gold, don't settle for bronze . . you'll only end up miserable. And i sincerely don't want that for you. Its time to get going girl!!
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kitty kat
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@ cute-ass
You've said it all.
@ poster run and get some sense into your life.
[/b][b]A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE.
BE WISE!!!![b][/b]
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Oh Jayzy
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@ zina What in the whole wide world did you say you were still doing with him?? He doesnt want to have sex with you, but he wouldnt mind having sex with his "ex" He's scared of women, but he's not scared of laying his "ex"?? They're going on and off?? this nonsense of his is just too incredible for my comprehension Who the hell is he to tell you what he wants from you or not, when he can't be straight forward and sincere, you shouldn't complain about his "ex", but he'll have all the "right" to cheat on you when his manipulative soul well pleases??I no know say you sef see am! I didn't want to say anything before. . . . . . but it is so obvious that this chic needs to wake up and smell da coffee! And he's the one that is mad at you?? when he was the architect of the problems you're having??Darling, do you really see this "cheat" as the love of your life?? Don't you honestly believe you deserve 1001 times better?? Please hun read the hand-writing on the wall, its too clear for you to miss it . . when they're "off", he's totally yours, but when they're "on", what happens to you?? And come to think of it, what if they eventually go "on", and the "off" never comes?? You just can't accept it, and i don't think there's any point in asking him to choose, he already made his choice, and from all indications and actions you arent the chosen one If you on the other hand make him choose you, then you'll forever live in uncertainties, Cos hismind obviously is with her. WORD!! Those ladies who have ears to hear. . . .let them hear! Most guys use this tactic of getting mad at the girl, as a defence mechanism when they want to wriggle out of a sticky situation. The guy' is just using you. . . . .for laughs!  |
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simoen (f)
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i think this chick is BLINDLY INLOVE, please dear open yr eyes,use yr head not yr heart, this dude is juz trying to play u,he is waiting 4 d right time 2 sort tins out and go back 2 his ex, beside its juz weeks old u met,so let him go back 2 his EX, plzzzzzz i]]*** shakes head**zoom off  [/i][/ |
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laudate
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The girl is not blindly in love. . . .she is just BLIND. Period. May she receive her sight! |
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ibkaye (f)
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The Cheek of it all, abeg dump his ass |
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Eclairs
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This post is absolutely disgraceful.
You didnt't hv to bring this to nairaland to take a decision. If you don't know wht to do on the basics of what you'v seen then, I think you need deliverance. I mean deliverance.
Absolute gibberish. Sorry!
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Eclairs
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infact, do something new with your life. You can see everyone finks you'r blind.
I beg, talk beta fin
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spoilt (f)
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do you need SPOILT to tell you to run for your life? |
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Cadet (f)
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Make yourself his ex too.
the new title "Me, My Ex and His Ex"
I can't go through all that. Once she's his ex, she's his ex. there's no on and off when you have another girlfriend. mAN, THAT'S WHY AM TIRED OF ALL THIS b/girlfriend THING
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spoilt (f)
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Make yourself his ex too.
the new title "Me, My Ex and His Ex"
I can't go through all that. Once she's his ex, she's his ex. there's no on and off when you have another girlfriend. mAN, THAT'S WHY AM TIRED OF ALL THIS b/girlfriend THING
funny as heck but true talk my sister |
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laudate
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funny as heck but true talk my sister
Abi, o! I beg, talk am louder make them hear! |
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Blossom-ng
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please take o your heels, he don't love you, he just wants to use as a substitue peraventure any heartbreak.
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