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xchian (m)
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i gave up a girl i love so much because of her friends,she goes to tell them what goes on between us and they end up advising her.still cnt beliv a girl i called my baby, thats because she was a baby would be able to stand up,look me in the eyes and tell me am not her type.(oy)
God knows i loved u wit all my heart,meant to make u happy,made up my mind i was going to be there for you come rain and sun, still can't believe I gave up everything about you just like that. My greatest fear is that by the time you realise what you are doing, i sure would have been long gone. Wherever you see her, just tell her christian really loved her.
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ldollier (f)
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very sorry to hear that xchain
anywho the same crap happen to me, and it ended my last relationship. i was listening to some vultures that posed as my friend and they adviced me on the wrong thing to do. part of the reason why they gave me such an awful advice is because i was always telling them my business(me and my BF buisness) i guess they were jealous. but everyone learns from a mistake, what did i learn? i learned that one should never share their secret/buisness concerning their BF/GF with others, especially when its snakes that pretended to have your best interest at heart.
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cboykor
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I am in unique (?) situation, where evrerything lines up in my life and I still can't satisfy my cravings for more love and affection.
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daisyflex (f)
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hi christian.its only gna be a matter of time be4 she realises but i stil think because u called her a baby,if she comes bak giv her a chance.
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snazzydawn (f)
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poor boy,so sad
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hopy2005 (f)
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hhhhhhhhh, I want to comment that seeking advice from friends at times is not the best, no matter the disagreement between both of you should'nt jeopadise your love , don't even allow the next person to hear it, try as much as you can to settle your disput I can see that some of the people we called friends are not friends indeed, they are terriorist known as home destroyer.
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thupsie (m)
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I want to use this oppourtunity to tell all ladies that never you seek advise from your friend! because what they feel is good for your current is suituation is what will work for them and not you!! Please don't be fooled u can only seek advise from older ones, i.e those who have been there, and experienced...As a matter of fact pick your desicion your self without an iota doubt in your mind  |
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kflow (m)
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I think i agree with u, because with an advice of a friend to a girl, makes her not to be able to decide on her own
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snowsdream (f)
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i don't see wats there in takin advise from friends though some is not advisable. It all depends on the kind of friends u keep and also knowin the kind of friends you have. Your friend might just be your only help in times of need.
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Rhodalyn (f)
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u can take advice from friends but u don't have 2 act on all of them
if your in a relationship u musnt go aba telling your friends what u n your guy did n blah blah blah
guys really hate that
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kflow (m)
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but thats what girls do mostly  |
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Rhodalyn (f)
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yeh!!! most gals
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Viper (m)
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tellin-out the relationship 2 third parties is quite wrong.
risky also, when it falls onto the ears of a jealous one.
even quarrels are advised to be kept off third parties.
anyway, its one of those things.
as christian said, before she gets herself, it MIGHT be too late then.
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Rolly
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sorry to hear that xchain, but listening to friends sometimes doesnt really mean taking their advice but most times, it is always good to listen to your friend. it also depends on the kind of friend in the picture, a'ight? so take it easy man,
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techie (m)
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Hmm, I guess I now know where some of the crazy ideas my ex girlfriend had where coming from, more annoying she compained to everyone but me about something I did wrong. leading to embarrasing talks from friends and relatives
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lioness (f)
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i lost a r/ship once because i was listening to a friend. My BF kept complaining but i didnt see anything wrong until i lost him then my eyes cleared.  . I have learnt my lesson. Xchian, you really love this girl. Dont u think u should try talkin to her again??? |
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2cantango (f)
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This is so sad, I've watched many relationships around me end becoz of gossip and so called advice from wolves in sheeps clothing. I think that what happens within a relationship, should stay in the relationship, between the two people involved. My ex hubby thought there was nothing wrong with telling everyone at work what was happening in the bedroom each night  then the guys would all compare stories to find out who had the most sexually expressive wife It is capable to talk to your mates without telling them too much, then if they still want to feed you their 'advice', it's up to you whether you take it or leave it with them when you walk away. People can and will say whatever they like, but we are in control of how much of their talk we take on board. |
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kimba (m)
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sorry for your situation @christian,
take it like this: God knows the best for you.
On the ohter hand, guys should also listen to their friends, because the girls of nowadays(sorry ladies), but some, or even majority of the girls out there have been long gone, too many fakers
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tipsy289 (m)
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Typical behaviour, the advice just mislesd her.My guy, maybe u shld discuss wit your nxt girl that u want decisions btwn both of u & not some loggerheads interfering
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eveseh (f)
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i've never listend to friends yet,
but they try to one time to make me smoke weed in holland
but they know am wsier than that
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funkilicious (f)
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i will advise girls not to share their biz with their friend n if they do, they nid 2 b extra careful!
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georgies (m)
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Not the best.You must one day become the topic even if tries not to.The tell her anything.probably because they are even interested in u.
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dremoney (m)
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i've never listend to friends yet,
but they try to one time to make me smoke weed in holland
but they know am wsier than that
weed in holland ke, God save u. u 4 trek from there back to naija, hahahahahahahahahahahahaha KIP IT UP ANYWAY!!!!!! |
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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sorry ohh, but the part you said we should tell her, how would we do that. we don't even have an idea who she is  . |
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deb (m)
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Its not best for girls to always listen to their friends especially if those friends are single and unattached. They might just be eyeing your boyfriend or simply jealous. Therefore ladies be weary of the advises you accept. However, there is an exception to every rule. Just allow your heart to be opened in case somebody is giving you a good advice. Guys who have been victims, e pele |
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klassyguy (m)
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This same shit happened between me and my first babe. Guess we were both naive at the time. According to her brother (who happened to be my informant then), she always shared what we did and discussed with her friends in school, who "advised" her on hw to carry out the relationship. i guess things went bad when they ended up telling her some bad things, because she changed. i kept on asking her and myself what happened. she later came to me (after 2 years of being together) and told me she didn't want to carry on with the relationship. being tired of the whole thing myself, i let her go.
I later got to learn from her brother that she realised her mistake (i had gone to school all this while) and was begging him to beg me for her to come back. i no give am a single space because by then i had my eye on another girl and didn't want any ex-flame spoiling things for me. the last i heard of this girl, she was pregnant for someone and had to get married to the guy's chagrin.
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Seun (m)
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Girls that listen to their friends are ok, provided their friends are good friends.
Very soon someone will start a topic titled "friends that listen to boyfriends; bad!"
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Busta (f)
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its not always the best for girls to listen to their friends
some will give u good advises and most are jealous and will lead u astry.
Most of all, one don't have to go disclosing to their friends whatever happened between them and their bfs.
If one is mature, u don't need your friends to tell u what to do or how to go about with your boo.
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