If I Deflower My Girlfriend Will She Start Sleeping Around?

see, i no even fit talk again.

@ Skima..... My honest advice??? don't deflower her.... wait! Wait! Wait and wait... You will be glad you did.

Deji, you come across as a deflowerer!!!

Many apologies Mr Olowe - No offence meant.

I DON'T KNOW WHY GIRLS HERE ALWAYS AVOID TELLING THE TRUTH WHEN IT MATTERS
simple  when you were deflowerd did you have the urge to sleep around yes or no
if yes = did you actually sleep around? yes or no
if yes= his girl will sleep around
if no= his girl will not sleep around

and if you did and stop
how did you managed to stop

and if you wont stop, i say only this:

YOU DAMN WHORE

 

Typewriter
I think this issue goes way beyond the IF...THEN....ELSE procedure. Human nature is far more complicated than that. What makes people promiscuous defends on many variables;

poverty
environment
friends
parents
youth
old age
sickness
and the list goes on...

It will be very difficult to categorize people on this matter based on true or false especially women.

WORD!!!

While i agree with you, whole heartedly i think there was way too much agression in this post. no offence ".l.o.l.". You must understand that the best of men are still men at their very best.



truthfully, i think he was only looking for a little help thats why he sought our advice, personally i think its a good idea. its not true that exerience is the best teacher. if he can learn from the experience of others wont it be saving him and the chic a whole lot of trouble

Hmmm...that's a really tough choice there.
Well...it depends...what are your values? Are you Christian? Muslim?
Does SHE want to have sex? You know...she's HALF of the entire relationship...

I wasn't aggressive, I was blunt, and I find no reason to act hesitant towards people who are blatantly generalizing against women so negatively.  It's not ok to accept ignorance like that just because they're men.  Men are not stupid or uncivilized, and it's not too much to expect them to show some respect towards women.  Now, this is aggressive:
"hey men,  if u really want to disvirgin this bitch, i think u should go ahead and do it, she's probably going to leave u anyways, or cheat en u know that too, i really don't know what you're afraid of"
And the fact that NO ONE responded to something so disrespectful, esp the girl's boyfriend who started this forum, is surprising.  Instead, you have more men saying that's how women are.  I'm not saying he doesn't love her, but I am saying that she must trust him if she gives him her virginity and he is not reciprocating that trust by discussing her and something so personal as sex with all these people while they pass judgment on her for something she hasn't done. 
Besides, other people's experiences are not going to tell him what his girl will do.  He says he loves her and they've been together for a couple of years, so how are people who don't know her really going to be able to tell him what she'll do?  One of the worst things that you can do in your relationship is let other people get involved and meddle, especially if there's no problem to begin with, and his fear that she will become promiscuous does not count as a problem seeing as how she hasn't done anything.  That's like not dating someone that you're interested in simply because you think he'll cheat, and you have no valid reason to think so except for the fact that you've known of other men who cheated.

What are your experiences going to tell him about what his girlfriend of a couple of years will do?  None of the responses have been like "Yeah, I was in a serious relationship and after I took my girl's virginity, she started sleeping around."  No, they've been like "Of course she'll do it, she's a woman" or "She's going to be curious after you deflower her so of course she'll go find out" and other nonsenical statements made with nothing to back them up.  Some don't even respond to the question, they just tell him to take her virginity.
And yeah, every girl is eventually going to lose her virginity, and I'm not speaking for every girl, but I know PLENTY of girls who would not want their boyfriends talking about something so intimate, especially without just cause, and from what he's said, his fears are not based on her actions so it's not just cause.

I deliberately avoided saying what he should or shouldn't do because like I said, one of the worst things you can do is let people meddle in your relationship.  But if you want to know what I think, yeah I do think he should zip up.  Does she even want to have sex because only thing I've read from him is that he wants to have sex and earlier, someone else said something well she should want to make him happy as if her feelings and values don't count.  If she's going to have sex with him to please him and not because she truly wants it for herself, he shouldn't take her virginity because that's just taking advantage of her. 

Good talk from everyone !!!

As i know that reasoning varies so am not saying what this said is good or that said is bad.

@abim.... 3+

@dejiolowe@: why should he do something outside? why should guys do something outside, when the girl is saving herself for marriage to the guy who has done something outside .. its such an unfair world to women.. if  she no wan dux, then manage till shes ready, or GET MARRIED.. 3 YEARS IS A LONG TIME WITHOUT SEX JARE... 

bros, the chances are 80 out of 100. she will try and learn the difference between your taste and others out there.