African Ladies And Affairs Within The West

I have become increasingly aware of the fact that a lot of african men in the west are having affairs. Despite the fact that they work same hours as their wife. But, the wife is doing all the household chores whn she gets home from work and dedicatin hersel ft the marrige 100% but why is it not being met both ways. Women, we are people with moral and ethical values,  why are we settling with forgiving our men for having affairs just because we don't want the social stigma of being divorced!