I Love My Husband Dearly, But I Am Attracted To My Work Colleague !

I am not a tart, and have never cheated on my husband, we got married about a year ago, presently I am in the US but he is in Nigeria, we are planning to settle in the US soon. I joined my company about six months ago, The very first day that I saw Nick ( let's call him that ) I felt this feeling that I can't explain, ever since then, each time he walks into my office, I just feel like hugging, cuddling up to him, initially I tried avoiding him by pretending to be busy each time he comes around but I now find myself dressing up to impress him, and always looking out for him, he says I am sexy, but I know I always switch on my sexy skills when he is around, not flirty though, I have tried to control my feelings but it keeps growing day by day please help ! I do not ever want to cheat on my husband ever, I love him and do not want him hurt ! My conscience will never be at rest, I also wonder could my husband be going through this at work too ? Yesterday , we were chatting and Nick's skin brushed through mine, and I just felt like submitting all to him ! please advice me before I fall flat !! 

        

I do not need this, this is the first time I've been bold enough to share this ! I do not think this is new or strange ! Women go through a lot of experiences which they don't ever share because of these responses of yours and end up following their heads,  I never knew it could happen to me, all I need is just advice on how to handle the situation not to be trampled upon  

Haba!  My dear you don go finish! POINT OF NO RETURN! It has already been ordained by Nick's "brushes"!   Go my child and fulfill the "prophesy"!  You are going to get "phocked"!  Just come back and give us feed back! Shay you asked for our opinion and you are sayin' you don't "need dat"!  Tell us what you want to hear then! Don't you trust us again?

Tola77,

This is realy sad, why must u do this, pls dont destroy your young family , run as fast as your legs canb carry u
there is nothing enjoyable about nick that your hubby will not give u if he is around, maybe u are missing so muc, pray and even fast about it, and talk to God ask Him for strenght to overcome this temptaion , u knw wat, i fu fall to him, u willl become a sorry tale in the office, u willl be tied to him and imprisoned,that even wen your hubby comes u wont get out of it, remember u will need a bigger lie to cover a previous one, so dont DONTT START It,

God will help u that is if u are serious sha, but pls dont do it, give marruage and family life decency, the scar will be there forever , unless u are suspecting your hubby

GOD LOVES U AND HATES ADULTERY, OK GIRLEEEEE

Adam ate the forbidden fruit abi?  It is now our earthly  Eve's turn to return the favour!  No amount of fastin' and prayin' will deliver this uno!  The child is lost and can never find her way home!

something tells me Nick is white. That may explain the sudden "attraction" especially since he is openly flirting with you in return.
Enjoy urself breaking your 1 yr old marriage, i'm sure Nick just wants to feel the experience of laying a black woman before he moves on to his white princesses.

divorce your husband then,ashewo!

@dd

I keep wondering. Has something happend to you. Back in the day I recall seeing laid back, moderate posts from you but these days it's just religious and racial hatred.

At first I thought you were just reacting emotionally on those Islam vs Christianity threads, but since then I've seen venom spout from you on practiaclly all issues. This isn't how you used to be.

Assuming the guy is white and then shooting barbs at the OP based on this assumption is uncalled for.

@tola77

Well, from these responses, you can see that you will not find help from anyone. This will be even worse if you asked anyone for help directly- even your friends will just go around carrying rumours behind your back. My advice to you is to change your nairaland account lest someone ties it to your real name in future, and do not breathe a word about 'nick' to anyone ever again in the future.

What you do with him is, of course, your call. I do not know you, neither do I know your husband and your history with him, and I don't know this mystery man. Just understand that Adultery is a serious crime punishable by death in many societies. When you agreed to marry your husband, you agreed to suffer the pain of sexual repression for the rest of your life with regards to all men besides him.

The solution to your problem is NOT one you will find on Nairaland, or with any friends. You are on your own. Do not dissapoint yourself.

First and for most, how did you get married, church , traditional or court.
I can understand you very well.
The mistake you made was to get married before you left.You are not the first woman i know that this is happening too.

What you have to think about is this.
If the worst comes to the worst. And then ask yourself if it was worth it.

guess you can do the same innit?

Its a free world not so.
Go and find out what an ashewo is

@dd



Yes, this is what I was talking about.

'stop jumping the gun to say what you know nothing about'

'of what purpose is this drivel'

You are more aggresive and abusive in your approach these days. Just an observation. And you may not have intended for your post to come across as racist but it did. That's what happens when you sound off with venom in your posts.

I'm curious, why the change? I know I am not a paragon of moderation and calmness myself, but this is a bit much.

@ darkmanzero, errr minding your business might be a good place to start. thanks for noting.

@dd

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instigator!!!!!!SHIO