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dmolababe (f)
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I don't really know where to post this topic but i guess this is the right spot.
Dear Nairalanders,
I am kind of confused about this and i want u guys to help me. I am a kind of girl that like to expose myself in my house. Not like exposing my nakedness but like wearing shorts, short skirts and dresses that are really tight and expose my tighs and i never knew that it was a problem until when my dad started changing on me. i noticed that my dad looks at me somehow and whenever i do something wrong normally he just give me a little smack on my arm but now he give me a little smack on my booty and tries to grab me and have *** with me but he has never suceeded. whenever he does that my siblings are not home and when i shout he will be like shout up and that i shouldn't shout and then when he realized that i shout a little bit too much, he lives me alone. There was this particular day that i was doing something in the kitchen and he came from no where and grab my booty and started holding me close to him. I told my mom but i didn't explain to her in details because i was scared of what she might do cause my mom gets angry easily and she was like " u know your dad loves u and that there was nothing there". Also i noticed that my dad was getting a little bit skinner and i asked him why and also i suggested that maybe he shouldn't work as he used to anymore. When i suggested that, he was like it's not work that is making him get skinner and that it was me. I was like how? and he was like cause he has been asking me to kiss him mouth to mouth but i hesisted. This has been happening to me since i was a little girl in Nigeria. My dad comes home like once a year and everytime he comes home from the US, when everybody is not home, he tries to touch me. Now that am in the US with my siblings he is still doing the same thing. I try to tell my sis but i don't know how to tell her because my sis and i don't talk like that. There was this day i threatened to tell my mom everything and he was begging me and i know that if i tell my mom everything, they are going to split apart and i don't want to ruin my family.
N.b My dad always does this whenever am home with him only. I tried my possibly best not to be home with him but he doesn't allow me to go out cause am underage.
My questions are, What should i do to this situation and to prevent my family from spliting apart? How do i tell my sis and my mom?and plzzz any other suggestion would be helpful to me
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bamidele (m)
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please report your dad to the police am sorry he is your dad he will rot in hell
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bamidele (m)
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i wont be surprised if he has not molessted your sister too disgusting man am so upset its unbelievable
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mukina2 (f)
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 disgusting  some dads sef so because you gave birth to a fine girl you must be the one to do everything to her
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doncartel
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a most shocking story
i think you should call your mum aside when youre alone and tell her everything from beginning to end.secondly never allow your dad to do that again even if it means taking it to the police or anywhere else[thats if your mothers action fails to stop it] or even moving out or staying permanently attached to your mum.to put it simply,it must end
you may wish to give your dad a last warning and inform him of this next couse of action[though not my advise].good luck
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mayonikks (m)
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really sad, pity u o!! ma candid advice: first pray because this is beyond the eye, then avoid your dad as much as possible and wear covered up clothes as much as possible, this will keep the house cool, i guess!! hope u pull through,
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idiot.ogbdcm (m)
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you would be so shocked to find out his not your biological dad.  if he is too sad  you should not only tell your mum. but your entire family all your relatives and if possible the police because i strongly doubt if his your dad, d ealier you find out the better 4 both of u |
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osereka (m)
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I have no couse to doubt this story because everyday we hear something similar. my candid advice to other babes at home please girls should learn how to dress decently at all times, and parent should learn how to love their siblins because if a dad loves his child, am sure he will protect the child from all harm home and outside. for a dad to want to make love to his child is absurb. like the other guy said THAT MAN IS NOT UR FATHER. so babygirl ask your mum who is really your father.
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iice (f)
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Incest! Tufiakwa!
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MP007 (m)
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as a student of pysco-therapy i think your father stil as the memory of seeing girls he liked as a teenager but couldnt have sex with, happens with a lot of adults that never got their groove on when they were teenagers, but is your dad on crack , ?
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titilayomi (f)
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this is scary! You have to tell your mom and siblings, tell thm evrythg, i know its hard, cause i'm trying to put myself in your shoes. But u can't handle it ursef, u've got to speak up to your mom.
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yse (m)
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Mehn,This is serious sh*t.Talk to your mama.I mean TALK to your mama and only your mother.Tell her everything and beg her nt 2 mak it public that she should jus talk to your father to STOP
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ryu11 (m)
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All these small minded nairaland members. when you hear a story please ask questions before you jump into conclusion.
1. Are you sure he is really your dad? I'll grab my mum and ask her for concrete evidence of that first, if i was in your shoes. it aint natural, even if you are the splitting image of the woman he married.
2. Is he Nigerian? As in born bread n buttered in Naija, these are critical factors that if one is missing (except the born one sha) alot can go amiss.
3. Why do you parade your nakedness in the house? apparently you are oblivious to the power of female flesh, get your act together babe.
You better take some positive actions before something drastic happens. have you heard of the word rape before, it happens, and it aint always violent, all he has to do is induce u with alchohol or some substance and you'll be willing.
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Sweet T (m)
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@Dmolababe
What?? An african father doing that ? Look this is your life and you better tell him to stop and act like a father b/4 he goes too far and have something to regret for the rest of your life ! Talk to him one on one ! Bt the way is he your real father or a step dad ??
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titilayomi (f)
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Wot father ''needs talking to'' or begging to stop sexually harrassing her underage daughter. The man needs serious help far away from the poor girl! Fathers are to stand up for their kids esp their underage daughters, not to harrass thm n expect people to cover their a$$es.
WTF r people saying, even if he isnt the biological father, he's a father figure to her. @oboatioko, he needs more than nailing, he needs crucifying. Think of the poor girl as your child or sister.
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blackbeaut (f)
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I would like to state that the way a child dresses is no excuse whatsoever for a father, be it biological or otherwise to try having sexual relationship with her!
That aside, i want to believe that there are bodies in the US that can handle such issues in a responsible manner, i know we have such in Ireland. You should speak to your mum first and hear what she has to say, you said you had tried telling her and she says it's nothing, please tell her that you would like to have a various serious discussion with her and spill the beans, if you mum's response is not positive, then try contacting reputable organisations in the US that deal with such issues (am very sure you can google it).
Am really sorry, but you have to act now, otherwise your dad might one day over-power you and have his way with you (don't for once believe that he is just going to stop) and imagine if you get pregnant through the process?
Goodluck and God bless.
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Islander (f)
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Men like these disgusts me.
sweetie you need to keep a sharp object on you, and the next time the whimp comes, slice his ass on his privates, Then find yourself at the nearest precint.
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diamondd (f)
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your papa na real psyco oooooooo, chey he wan nak pikin nak wife na wa abeg dey sleep with cutlass or bottle by your side or better yet call the police if one day he over power you with his strength and rape you and you got pregnant due to dumbness that family you are protecting will eventually split so why keep wots not there to keep. my dear abeg safe yourself and life while you can.
you father is an animal and should be locked up for molestation, if you dunt do it someone else will and you'll loose your family anyways or better yet buy him some Fleshlight for xmas Hehehehehehe Type" Fleshlight on google if you dunt know what it is it's "SEX IN A CAN"
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lawyerchap (m)
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First of all, you need to establish your parentage. Either you're not your father's biological child or your mum married a sick twist. I would advocate violence in your case. If your father attempts to touch you again, attack him with everything you have at hand; pots, pans, books (no knives please. you don't want to kill the bastard and mess up your own life as well) whatever you can lay your hands on. But be sure to leave marks on him. The outrage this attack will spark will be nothing compared to when people hear what caused the attack. There's nothing like public censure to get a lascivious relative off your case. I cannot presume to know how you feel going through this, but I wish you the best.
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la! (m)
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look tell your mother,if she is nt goin to do anything go to the police forget breakin up the family this thing will ruin your life if u remain silent
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dakmanzero (m)
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All you people saying report to the police don't know what ure talking about. This is frickin NAIJA. You can't report your FATHER to the police. The girl said she;s underaged for Gods sake.
Tell her mother? She said it plainly: It will SPLIT the family. And though all you loud mouths can yarnyarnyarn about how he is not her father blablabla, I wonder ehat you would do if someone advised YOU to split YOUR family. The girl knows exactly what will happen and has said she does NOT want to split her family.
That means she still has a reason to want this man to be her father. So that advice isn't helping.
Also those claiming she shouldnt expose herself around daddy, for Gord's sake, its her house! Not outside! And all men know that if u want to broke a girl, all the nun habots and Hijabs in this world are but flimsy cloth.
@dmolababe
This is a serious issue. Don't for a second believe the man will not stoop so low as to rape you if he gets the chance, he is already claiming to want to have sex with his own daughter. Nothing is impossible. My advice is to confide in your sister. It is simple. If reporting to your mother will break apart the family, the TWO of you must make the decision to report, not just you. You may have to start communicating with your sister for this reason alone. If you fear she will not believe you, it shouldnt be too hard to arrange for proof to be available. But you had better act fast.
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ozoneflake (m)
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As a man and a father am rather ashamed of this attitude. I realy want to appologise on behalf of your father and the entire men race. Please girl try not to ba at home alone and alwas dress properly. Sum up courage and call his attention and be serious about it. Tell him it is a sin to do that which he wanted to do. Let him know that if he goes on , you may have no option than to let not only your sibblings and family,but the whole world know his evil intentions.
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blackbeaut (f)
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All you people saying report to the police don't know what ure talking about. This is frickin NAIJA. You can't report your FATHER to the police. The girl said she;s underaged for Gods sake.
Tell her mother? She said it plainly: It will SPLIT the family. And though all you loud mouths can yarnyarnyarn about how he is not her father blablabla, I wonder ehat you would do if someone advised YOU to split YOUR family. The girl knows exactly what will happen and has said she does NOT want to split her family.
That means she still has a reason to want this man to be her father. So that advice isn't helping.
Also those claiming she shouldnt expose herself around daddy, for Gord's sake, its her house! Not outside! And all men know that if u want to broke a girl, all the nun habots and Hijabs in this world are but flimsy cloth.
I don't think you really believe what you are saying! Until he rapes her and she gets pregnant thats when you would be happy, right? You are weird! what is a family, if it can't protect it children? Remember she is in the US and not Naija. |
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Obelomo
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I don't care what u wear in the house, he has no right t o make advances at u. He is your father for crying out loud. My advice to u girl is to pray about this, tell your mom everything and report him to the damn police. Also if your mom wont do anything about this, if u have a aunt go live with her.
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Imani (f)
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All you people saying report to the police don't know what ure talking about. This is frickin NAIJA. You can't report your FATHER to the police. The girl said she;s underaged for Gods sake.
Tell her mother? She said it plainly: It will SPLIT the family. And though all you loud mouths can yarnyarnyarn about how he is not her father blablabla, I wonder ehat you would do if someone advised YOU to split YOUR family. The girl knows exactly what will happen and has said she does NOT want to split her family.
That means she still has a reason to want this man to be her father. So that advice isn't helping.
Also those claiming she shouldnt expose herself around daddy, for Gord's sake, its her house! Not outside! And all men know that if u want to broke a girl, all the nun habots and Hijabs in this world are but flimsy cloth.
Seriously, are you saying that it is better to have a molester around than to report to the police? Are you also saying it is acceptable for the lady in question to have to endure this type of torment because "it is not right to split the family"? It doesn't matter if the man is or isn't her father. The point is, as a minor he has no right to behave in such an inappropriate manner towards a child under his care. While some people believe he can't be her dad, there are lots of cases of incest in families around the world. Some men are just sexual predators. I don't know how provocatively the poster dresses at home, but that doesnt in any way justify the way her "dad" behaves towards her. I really don't know what we as the African community gain by trying to uphold family values by all means even if it means covering up on such sensitive issues like child molestation, rape, assult, domestic violence etc. It is time we learn to speak out on these issues. A dad that wants to sleep with his underage daughter either needs medical help, or is just a bad father and therefore needs some time in jail. If you can't do the time, don't do the time, and the law is not a respecter of persons especially outside Nigeria. Simple. |
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Everbright (f)
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@ topic, let get something straight here!
Is this man your biological daddy or step daddy?
I'm going to reserve my comments untill I'm cleared
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Obelomo
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My bad I forgot that u live in naija when I advice u to report to the police. Anyways tell your mom and siblings everthing, don't worry about this spilting your family apart. If your parents together he may eventually suceed in his plans.
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Imani (f)
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Seriously, are you saying that it is better to have a molester around than to report to the police? Are you also saying it is acceptable for the lady in question to have to endure this type of torment because "it is not right to split the family"?
It doesn't matter if the man is or isn't her father. The point is, as a minor he has no right to behave in such an inappropriate manner towards a child under his care. While some people believe he can't be her dad, there are lots of cases of incest in families around the world. Some men are just sexual predators.
I don't know how provocatively the poster dresses at home, but that doesnt in any way justify the way her "dad" behaves towards her.
I really don't know what we as the African community gain by trying to uphold family values by all means even if it means covering up on such sensitive issues like child molestation, rape, assult, domestic violence etc. It is time we learn to speak out on these issues. A dad that wants to sleep with his underage daughter either needs medical help, or is just a bad father and therefore needs some time in jail. If you can't do the time, don't do the crime, and the law is not a respecter of persons especially outside Nigeria. Simple.
@ topic, let get something straight here!
Is this man your biological daddy or step daddy?
I'm going to reserve my comments untill I'm cleared
Is his behaviour more acceptable if the man was her biological dad? |
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Imani (f)
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My bad I forgot that u live in naija when I advice u to report to the police. Anyways tell your mom and siblings everthing, don't worry about this spilting your family apart. If your parents together he may eventually suceed in his plans.
Actually, according to her post, she now lives in the US with her dad and siblings. I don't know about the mum. He also started this repulsive behaviour towards her right in Nigeria before she moved to the US. |
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