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ubiaru (f)
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i would advise you froget about your family and think about yourself.i am not being selfish but let them know what is happening my dear.please pray seriously to God.
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Rubbermaid (f)
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Dear Dmolababe, I sent the below to your email address but it bounced back so here it goes: BTW, how old are you? You don't have to be specific - just wondering over or under 18?Dear Dmolababe,
I don't know you but you are a very brave girl for seeking help.
Please do not allow anyone make you feel that you are at fault for your dad's advances towards you. You are also not responsible for what may happen to him as a result of his behavior.
Please talk to someone - tell your Mom, an aunt, or another older female you can trust. Your dad needs help and if you don't report him, you will only be delaying a potentially bigger and unfortunate incident that may cause sexual harm to some other person too.
Alternatively, as a first step, and if you are bold enough, tell him that you have spoken privately with people, and that you are determined to report him if he ever even thinks about making advances towards you EVER again. You have to tell him boldly and sternly. This is America if he even thinks to take offense and tries to hit/harm you dial 911 immediately.
Also, please talk to your physician - physicians are trained to help you with situations like this one. Teachers are also trained to help.
Take care, and please seek some help!
Tayo |
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idiot.ogbdcm (m)
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@topic shoot the motherfucker you call you dad!!!  |
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mjay (m)
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Really?? well dr is nothing new under the sun, ds is a typical case os incest and ure a collaborator eeven by your own admission - the way you dress around d home. Its your father dt shld teach u to dress decently not try to take advantage of d situation. My suggestion goes thus 1. Dress mmore appropriately even at home whn ard the males. 2. Have a heart to heart talk with your dad, tell him u will tell your mum -and mean it- if he ever mks passe at u again. Take care
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debosky (m)
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He deserves it and more, he's one of those stupid men blaming women for their perverted sexual desires.  |
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idiot.ogbdcm (m)
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but some women ought to be blamed for their sexual problems, not certainly not in this case, his ment to be her dad |
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diamondd (f)
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Neways i no believe this one dey happen to you foreal because seriously a forum suggestion is not a solution what if you dunt have a pc i just think you just want to see how many will response but if it where true and you are expecting to read all the advice in here you papa go don nak you clean mouth ooooooooo
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Echidime (m)
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@Rubbermaid: I never expect anything good to come out from a PROSTITUTES MOUTH like you.
If my chidren expose themselve like prostitutes as you do, of course people will molest them,unfortunately for you,my children are all ANGELS, not deep holes like yourself and your daughters.
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dmolababe (f)
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4 those people that are curious to know my age am 16 and this has been happening to me since i was 9
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Echidime (m)
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@Rubbermaid:Just hear you name, rubbermaid, you have FUCKED to the extent that your PUSSY is now like Rubber,ashawoooooooooooooo even a horse can mess you and you won't feel anything.
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debosky (m)
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dmola you need to take action NOW, tell someone older about this now, this is pure sexual molestation. don't wait till he rapes you before you cry out
talk to a counsellor at school, or at church. Don't let this horrible thing that will scar you for the rest of your life take place!
I'll be praying for you.
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temmyabby (f)
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@Rubbermaid:Just hear you name, rubbermaid, you have FUCKED to the extent that your PUSSY is now like Rubber,ashawoooooooooooooo even a horse can mess you and you won't feel anything.
 , nah wah oh, we're supposed to be giving advice to a young girl |
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anabell (f)
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please my dear i will just advice u to report your dad not only to your mum infact to all your family members,call each one of them, down to the ones in nigeria, my dear expose your dad .when next u are alone with your dad make sure u record every damn nasty thing he tells u on tape or on your phone so u can have poof because he might denie it when u tell his brothers and sisters,so try and get proof.my dear act fast o because if your dad rapes u , u are finshed.Your dad is very disgustin and horrible
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Rubbermaid (f)
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@Echidime, I didn't expect anything better from you - I know spewing those words is the highlight of your miserable day. You have children and you are here telling a 16 yo that she deserves to be f**d by her dad. In fact give me your info let me report your stupid ass. Sexual predator like you!!! Shameful, dirty old papa in a forum talking mess where there are children. Dont worry - if you even fit leave that your village cameroon it won't take a minute before you expose yourself by molesting your own children and getting locked up to be butt-whipped by fellow child molestors like you.  Other people are going abroad is cameroon you see reach. Idiot buffoon. |
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Rubbermaid (f)
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@Dmolababe,
Girl, 16?! You are too young to be going through stuff like this. Please talk to your guidance counsellor at school - or your teacher. They'll know what to do.
The only thing that should stop you from doing so is IF you have sternly warned your dad (ie you open your two eyes well well and warn him once and for all) - letting him know that you will SERIOUSLY REPORT his behavior if he doesnt stop. If that sobbers him up then all is well and I will advice your young soul to chuck it up to a bad lot in life.
IF NOT, then please talk to an adult that is trained to help in such situations (teacher, physician etc)
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tonyodeh (m)
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@ poster, i think its better you let your mother in on it, because i bet you he would not give up as long as you continue staying in the same house with him,
2, if paraventure he has his way with you he would always want it and you guys might be caught in d act and then it would mean u were an accomplice to it when you should have opened up.
this is incest you would never be able to let go of the memory and it might affect your sexual life in future, plssssssss u have got to stop it for your future. God bless u.
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naijaking1
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@Temmybaby
well said.
Everyone should listen to Temmybaby, it's not about us, it about a little 16 year old girl looking for help.
No confusion, please guys.
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kayno-Jah (m)
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I can bet that guy you refer as your dad is not your biological father and he will reveal this to you someday, in fact, very soon at the rate he's going. Because, his frustration as a result of not 'having you' will make him spill the beans, obviously, in violation of some understanding and agreement he probably had with your mum.
Sit your mum down, and have a heart-to-heart talk with her about your true biological parentage. You can even tell her someone made a passing comment somewhere that the man you call your father is not your true biological father and hear what she's going to say to that.
If she insists he's your biological father, then the guy is certainly sick in the head and needs that head properly examined! The only option left to you would be to 'sing' or let him destroy you forever.
As immediate mitigation against imminent molestation, avoid being home alone with him. Where you can't help it, be conscious of what you wear when only two of you are home alone.
Good luck my dear.
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T-babie (f)
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Babygirl,i think u should imform your mum and subling about what is happening b'because if u are not fast about what to do this man u call your father might have his way.you are not sure if your dad does the same thing to your sister,because she also may be scared of saying it out. i will also love to advice you to also stay away from your dad if there is no one at home or u dress decently.u have to be very careful b'because i think the man is conserving his energy for the day he thinks he will eat his cake to the fullest. ACT VERY FAST,DO SOMETHING QUICKLY.
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idiot.ogbdcm (m)
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@ t babie tell no get probs, ive told her to shoot his balls may be shes looking for a gun,  i've 1 for hire  |
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talk.talk (m)
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wow what a shame! you both, father and daughter obviously need help. it's a very sad situation. you call him 'daddy', but he doesn't see you as the daughter. i will suggest you try any of these numbers as a matter of urgency, they are some of the many numbers children in need can ring for help or advice or protection againt child abuse.
1-800-222-2000
1-800-333-SAFE (1-800-333-7233)
1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
don't expect that your ''father'' will change. prevention is better than cure. act fast!
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mr me too (m)
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I hate hate hate hate insulting people on all this forums but some men are a bunch of assholes and are a disgrace to real men everywhere. How disgusting are some men? How can anyone say its the way she dresses that sparked his interest in molesting his own child. Even more disturbing is the man that claims he has children, unless your daughters are butt ugly there'll always be men that would want to perform ungodly acts with them by hook or by crook. So what are you going to say then? That their beauty put them in trouble? Weak, sick men or stupid boys should not blame a girl for their sick perverted minds no matter how she dresses, walks, talks, eats. Please to the women here do not lose hope in all men yet, there are just many animals that deserve to be led to slaughter houses.
@Poster
No one can understand the way you feel except you and don't let anyone think any of this is your fault. My advice is try as much as possible not to be alone with him and when you're alone try to cover up more, not that u shouldn't be free to wear whatever you want in your house but unfortunately you're living with a disturbed person. Better yet, as people have suggested before, you have to tell an adult, any close relatives, school teachers/counselors, cops, your mom. We'll all be praying for you.
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funshiba (m)
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hey sweet girl, im really sort of words but i know things like this happen, it happened to a friend ( brother in-law's case) and we were able to successfully get the guy off her 1 1stly seriously threaten will report to your mum,if he doesnt back off, DO IT!!!!!TELL HER EVERYTHING WITHOUT HOLDING ANY BACK. 2 how old are u? 3 if u can after step one, move out of the house to somewhere safe,maybe that will make your mum and him taske u seriuos. above all,pray bout it, really tof to be a girl,  |
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dmolababe (f)
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I thank u guys soooooo much. I will try to do what you guys have said and i hope it would work. Right now am trying to tell my sis about it but about tellin my mom, i feel like i have to see her face to face to tell her. Even if i wright her letters it wouldn't be so good as for me to see her and tell her. I no that what am facing right now is not a regular thing some girls faces but i guess it's just my fate. Thank u guys soooooo much once again. I would have never thot that u guys would have replied to my post as u did. I love y'all
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dmolababe (f)
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@funshiba
I would have loved to move out of the house but i can't am too young am 16, am still in high school and there is no way i can move out. This situation am facing is sooo bad that's it's affecting me educationally. But i understand your view.
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babyosisi (f)
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dmola you need to take action NOW, tell someone older about this now, this is pure sexual molestation. don't wait till he rapes you before you cry out
talk to a counsellor at school, or at church. Don't let this horrible thing that will scar you for the rest of your life take place!
I'll be praying for you.
debo,I smell a rat with this whole tale,I have a strong feeling this poster is the same that started the "pastor holy embrace thread",the style of writing is just too identical. This is a hoax! |
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babyosisi (f)
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Thanks alot for replying my post. He is my biological father and am certain about this because before i was given the US visa i had to take some tests just to make the embassy people certain that i was his child and the result came out positive. My mom is not in the US with us and am kind of finding it difficult to tell her in details what has been happening to me without seeing her face to face. She wouldn't know how am feeling if am just talking to her on the phone. She wouldn't know the pain i feel everyday to know that my biological father want to disvirgin me. It's really hard for me to explain to people and that's why i always try all my possible best to express myself in my writing. Like i said, i have threatened him that i was going to tell my mom but he keeps begging me. About how i dress, like i said am not exposing my nakedness , i just wear shorts and short skirts. My dad is a real Nigerian for those people who wanted to know. The phrase above is not one that girls commonly use in discussions and it was used profusely on a thread about she and her pastor. |
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debosky (m)
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hmm, osisi you might just be right, but for the sake of any young abused girls out there, we had to respond. such behavior is simply unacceptable
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simstar (f)
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this is horrendous!
whether he is your step- father or father!
this is someone who is supposed to look out for u, be there for u, protect u from savages out there!
and instead he is the savage!
this is really sad!
i really feel for u!
may God keep you!
but u know God won't come down and strike him down, u've got to take actions or steps
first, tell your mother, everything ; how and when it started. she might not believe you, because it just might be difficult to take the fact that the man who fathered you is sexually assaulting his own child,but you should try, don't hide your feelings let her know how serious it is , and how scared u are for your safety and maybe even that of your sister. because i'm sure he won't stop at u.
this is really horrible i don't even know how to advise you!
please don't keep this to yourself let someone know, they could help u!
help stop him, help put him away!
i know he is your father but he should be stopped so he can't hurt you or your sister or anybody else for that matter!
God be with you!
don't worry u'll be fine!
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simstar (f)
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"@the poster: So are you still dressing half naked at home to expose part of your body? Your father just want to show you what White men do to their daughters who dress half naked,since you africans want to do anything white men do, you should also be ready to, receive dady's DICK right inside your pussy Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin because that is part of modernization,or isn't it?Huh?" echidime, u should be ashamed of yourself, this is a serious dicussion and this is what u av to say! hw wd u like it u were at home just wearing a pair of shorts and then next thing your mother wants to mess you! well this is the same case her? , to hush up and that she deserved daddy's privates in her because she wanted to dress freely in her home! really think about things before u start pressing at u keypads! all that trash u posted wasn't needed esp in this forum! |
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dakmanzero (m)
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Yes, that is 100% true To all the idiots on this forum claiming she shouldnt dress with shorts in her OWN HOME, what would you say if your OWN BIOLOGICAL MAMA tried to get your D1CK out of your pants just because you were walking about shirtless in your own house, EEEEEEENH? ?? Or if she started begging u to let her 'breastfeed' you because she 'misses' the way you were when u were a baby, clinging on and suckling for dear life, hen? enh? eeeeeenh??? Hissss! Shio! Nonsense to you. Nonsense people. By the way, has anyone investigated babyosisi's claim that this may be a fake post by someone whose job it is to 'seed' nairaland with discussions? I should sell that idea to seun, I will sign up with names like 'luvbiola' or 'happychichi' or 'prettytosin' and start posting threads like 'help! I have a crush on the houseboy!' or 'I'm a female lecturer and I have a crush on a hot Igbo student' or 'Please help my pastor always touches my boobs during prayer meetings' just to keep Nairaland page views high! lololol! |
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