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I-man (m)
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I-man  , look, is it a cook you want to marry or a life partner? Like Seun said, if you need a cook, employ one! There are more important things in marriage besides food. Companionship and friendship are the most important factors in marriege. You want to marry someone you can grow old with and still be fond of. Someone you can share memories with in your old age on your rocking chairs. Typical african men, all you think of is food! Then after your wife has cooked the food to make you happy at home, you would still go outside to chase pretty girls to have fun with. Nonsense! Stop blithering  Its horrible to have a life partner who can't cook.Yes,food is very important.I want my kids to live a healthy life.Did you say cooks?In London?You are having a laugh |
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I-man (m)
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Companionship and friendship are the most important factors in marriege. Yeah right! Would you marry a truck pusher? I'm sure many truck pushers will provide you with companionship and friendship. |
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RichyBlacK (m)
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What Is The Value Of A Woman Who Can't Cook?
It depends on her other qualities and if she is willing to learn.
However, if all other factors are comparable, most men will prefer a second woman that can cook.
I think sometimes, some women under estimate the premium most men attach to good food.
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Razorr (f)
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Okay, when the not-too-common event of "honey wake up! did you hear that sound downstairs, it seems there's something moving in the basement", are you ready to take turns? How about opening doors for the lady? 50-50 implies opening doors for the man too! On the wedding day: the groom carries the bride for 2 minutes; the bride does exactly the same for the groom. Home improvement: I do the wirings in the basement; you do the wirings in the attic. Last name: they create a double-barreled last name. Or, use one name for x number of years then keep alternating. Or half the kids use one name and the other half use another name. Tufiakwa! I don't mind doing all that. Big deal! You should also be ready to carry half of the kids in your womb for nine months and give birth to them. Its horrible to have a life partner who can't cook.Yes,food is very important.I want my kids to live a healthy life. Good, then do the cooking!  Would you marry a truck pusher?
If we love each other, why not?  |
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I-man (m)
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However, if all other factors are comparable, most men will prefer a second woman that can cook.
Well put.All things being in equal,most men will choose a woman who can cook to one who can't. |
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Razorr (f)
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I think sometimes, some women under estimate the premium most men attach to good food.
That's all some men think about: - Food food food! Is that what you should be looking for in a woman? Later you would over eat and carry your big belle around looking like you're pregnant! |
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I-man (m)
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That's all some men think about: - Food food food! Women love food as much as us. You talk about food more than usyou even write cookery books. Later you would over eat and carry your big belle around looking like you're pregnant Na bad food dey cause am.After eating all the junk food because my wife can't cook,no surprise I develop a pot belly |
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cyl (f)
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it is pertinent to note that we are in africa where it is a norm for women to cook for their families, however we should bear in mind that the western culture is sinking deep too so i suggest we don't throw culture away and at the same time not be too rigid to change, i suggest the woman in question learns to cook, no knowledge is wasted anyway.the value of a woman is in making her house a home and if that entails cooking,why not?(she can buy african pot)
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Razorr (f)
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Na bad food dey cause am.After eating all the junk food because my wife can't cook,no surprise I develop a pot belly That's a big lie!  Most Nigerian men would insist that their wives cook amala or pounded yam for them and then they would eat it in very large quantities and get pregnant. When they get the large tummies, they would claim it's an 'evidence of good living'. I don't know why our men have not developed enough common sense to know that you should not eat heavy meals at night! If a man can't cook, he should not blame the woman for not being able to cook as well. If he knows how to cook, then he should teach his wife if she can't cook. Afterwards, they should share the cooking responsibilities. If your wife can't cook, then cook for her. That's true love!   |
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Ndipe (m)
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Yeah, a woman should know how to cook, at the same time, the man should be adept at cooking. What will he do, if the wife is at the hospital giving birth? Would she, scram from the hospital to her house, to cook for the husband? What happens if she travels? For feminists, which I don't agree with, women should possess the homely qualities of cooking and taking care of the house. Those duties should take precedence over your career but this is only attainable when you have a supporting spouse. I applaud African women's efforts after a hard day at work, to clean the house, gather firewood to cook for the family, while the husband is just lazing around in the house. No, it is not fair, the man has to chip in also. Women are humans, not machines.
If you feel cooking emasculates you, then let there be an equal division of labor. The woman should stay at home, while you bring home the bacon.
As for a woman who does not know how to cook, prior to getting married, that is a shame!
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blackbeaut (f)
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Dont mind all those men that want a woman to be their slaves! You both go to work to make ends meet and sometimes you even get home later than your husband and he sits around waiting for you to come and cook for him! If a woman can't cook, then so be it!! We are all not perfect, they are some women that can cook, but can't clean the house, so what do you do then? and who says the way to a man's heart is through his stomach? Then you never meet better man! |
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sweetchick (f)
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First of all, Seun is a guy after my heart.
I am a very good cook( if I may say so myself) but I definitely would want a guy to appreciate me for much more my cooking skills
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aisha2 (f)
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Woman's duty, Man's duty re social strero types, if u want a cook please hire one.
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blackbeaut (f)
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has it ever occured to you men that the woman might JUST not like cooking? Chew on that!! Are there not things that you are supposed to do, that you don't just like doing and try avoiding it by all means?
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blackbeaut (f)
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Woman's duty, Man's duty re social strero types, if u want a cook please hire one.
Abi? |
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JennyMan (m)
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Her value (price) is far below rubies,
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efuah (f)
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love reigns Her value (price) is far below rubies,
yes oh |
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Razorr (f)
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Her value (price) is far below rubies,
yes oh
Efuah, that was an insult to women o!  I don't know why you said 'yes o'! |
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Dynast (m)
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Good for raising your kids
companionship
satisfying your eros if libido is far fetched
Assist in family upkeep
QED
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blackbeaut (f)
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Her value (price) is far below rubies,
I feel sorry for your wife! love reigns
yes oh
I guess you are just a bit retarded or should i say your views are myopic? Whatever! |
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I-man (m)
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Dont mind all those men that want a woman to be their slaves! You both go to work to make ends meet and sometimes you even get home later than your husband and he sits around waiting for you to come and cook for him! If a woman can't cook, then so be it!! We are all not perfect, they are some women that can cook, but can't clean the house, so what do you do then? and who says the way to a man's heart is through his stomach? Then you never meet better man! What a contradiction.Firstly,she says this: You both go to work to make ends meet and sometimes you even get home later than your husband and he sits around waiting for you to come and cook for him! Then this: If a woman can't cook, then so be it!! Hang on,if they both go to work and should alternate the cooking as a result,how come you excuse women who can't cook.In that circumstance,only the man who can cook will be doing the cooking despite the fact that both are tired from work . You can hyperventillate all you want,the fact is men will be disappointed if their wife can't cook.Not their girlfriend but their wife |
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mukina2 (f)
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I-man why you so crazy its not by force to learn how to cook if a woman can cook fine, if she can't fine, if you love her cook for her, afterall marriage is for better and for worst |
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I-man (m)
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I-man why you so crazy its not by force to learn how to cook if a woman can cook fine, if she can't fine, if you love her cook for her, afterall marriage is for better and for worst Keep quiet! |
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blackbeaut (f)
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I-man, if you read my views very well, you would notice that they are both in different paragraphs. First one talks about a woman that can cook but might not be able to do this based on situations and the second talks about a woman that can't cook at all. GET IT? HOPE YOU DO, COS I CAN START EXPLAINING/TRANSLATING PEOPLE'S REPLIES TO YOU! |
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mukina2 (f)
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Keep quiet! you will marry a farmer , whose entire life will be on the garden and in the kitchen |
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WesleyanA (f)
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i don't think any woman (who feels that she has a self worth) should marry a man who likes her just for food. He loves the food not you. why bother? if a woman who can't cook has no value to you, go get a chef/cook and marry her? how difficult is that? or better still, go get married to food. yeah some men marry goats and cows in some countries. lol cooking isn't even all that difficult to begin with but level of interest matters. why can't these men learn to cook if they love food and are interested in it so much? |
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Razorr (f)
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WesleyanA, thanks for that observation. Unfortunately, some men wouldn't listen to you. Mukina, the funny thing about men who run their mouth about wanting to marry women who can cook is that they end up not marrying their soul mates. If a man takes too much interest in food and makes cooking a criteria for finding a wife then its more likely that he'll marry the wrong person and end up unhappy.  I noticed that most men who claim to have perfect wives (i.e. wives that can cook, keep the house tidy and are good in bed), usually cheat on their wives! Can any man please explain why this is so? |
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blackbeaut (f)
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WesleyanA, thanks for that observation. Unfortunately, some men wouldn't listen to you. Mukina, the funny thing about men who run their mouth about wanting to marry women who can cook is that they end up not marrying their soul mates. If a man takes too much interest in food and makes cooking a criteria for finding a wife then its more likely that he'll marry the wrong person and end up unhappy. I noticed that most men who claim to have perfect wives (i.e. wives that can cook, keep the house tidy and are good in bed), usually cheat on their wives! Can any man please explain why this is so? Razorr, u've just hit the nail on the head! Go on girl!  |
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RichyBlacK (m)
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WesleyanA, thanks for that observation. Unfortunately, some men wouldn't listen to you. Mukina, the funny thing about men who run their mouth about wanting to marry women who can cook is that they end up not marrying their soul mates. If a man takes too much interest in food and makes cooking a criteria for finding a wife then its more likely that he'll marry the wrong person and end up unhappy. I noticed that most men who claim to have perfect wives (i.e. wives that can cook, keep the house tidy and are good in bed), usually cheat on their wives! Can any man please explain why this is so? Are you saying that the cheating rate among men with wives that can't cook is lower? Abeg give me a break! I'm yet to see any evidence that correlates infidelity with cooking skills. If you have such evidence, please post immediately. Arbitrary claims like these need to be backed up.  |
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JJay1 (m)
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Quote from: I-man on Today at 09:32:14 AM
Na bad food dey cause am.After eating all the junk food because my wife can't cook,no surprise I develop a pot belly
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If you don't want to develop pot belly, hit the bloody gym and stop whining!!
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