Do You Know Your Neighbours?

In the days when i was growing up, everybody knew their closest neighbours' names. There was interaction and visits between them. But i it seems that has changed these days or it my imagination?

yeah i find it really weird that neighbours abroad don't really care for one another. you can be living next to someone for 10 years and not even give a damn what they do for a living, their kids names, what they like etc. i hate it. living abroad can suck sometimes because westerners are so concerned about their individuality as opposed to collectivity (is that the right word?). everybody just minds their own business. even on the street, when people are passing by each, everybody is just lost in thought and even if someone is attacking u on the road, everybody just looks the other way. what kind of life is that? no wonder there's so much depression and social issues in that country! we're all human and we should learn to mix with each other. not to be in people's business all the time, but a little smile or hello to a stranger goes a long way. we're all we've got on this earth. eachother. see why some peeps have pets and interact with them as if they're talking to humans. because it is getting hard to socialize with normal human beings! good lawd!

in naija, even though neighbours are nosy and all up in your bidness  , at least its fun to be able to socialize with the people in your community. in case you weren't home and your house wasn't being burglarized or on fire, at least you know your neighbours got your back and they will do everything withing their power to help. na lie, oyinbo man go just manage to call 911 for you sha

Not Really.

I like the concept of balance so while sometimes i may like my own space, it is also "ok" to have neighbors that at least show some concern and care about my welfare and vice versa.

The trouble is with Nigerians. Most of us are a bunch of noisy people, especially the older generation. It is no different whether it is Nigerians in Nigeria, or those in diaspora. Sometimes, people need to be sensitive and just observe rather than be involved in other people's matters.

My neighbours? I won't recognise them.Don't know what they look like

i feel guilty on this one-No i don't.I try as much as possible to mind my biz.

ha ! ha na today? 




1st  start by identifying them, and making nice with them 

baking rum cake errweekend for them till you travel should do the trick 

@ soul

yeah its kind of sad but that is how it is. i took it on me one day to just intro myself. I saw this lady moving into our community (she is opposite where i'm staying). on a very good and bright afternoon, i saw her as i went to pick up mails. I stopped by and intro myself. ''hello, my name is Omoge am your neighbor, welcome here. stop by if you need any help or tools to work with. here is my number. she told me her name and where she works. then i left.

that was donkey months ago lol so far she never said hello to me nor anything. we both looked like strangers. we jam anytime we putting the trash out and no greetings or anything. i tried greeting her but the look on her face just made me to stay jeje o lol

they just don't care. and really nobody want to know your business just hello how are yous.

well, am still going to know my neighbors with or w/o their action dramas  

my current neighbours are a handful, girls who can't keep their clothes on and guys whose only pre-ccupation is drinking.
Dont you guys envy me?

Hehehehe. . . . .

Lady Ika, which wan be chinco? Nigerians and name calling!! Hope you know there are a few of them on this forum?!

Anyway, your story is one i can relate to. You say hello to some people and it is like you are talking to wood. Some peoples face can be so hard, that sometimes, it is better to just let them be.

No wonder, people miss Nigeria a lot!! Nobody to impress or oppress.

What is it with you and dogs?! Maybe you should get one yourself, at least, that way, you and your neighbours can have some kind of mutual rapport.

@ Imani, me sef i wonder. I think those dogs are racist!  As soon as they see me they start barking like crazy and trying to jump the wire fence. You should see the owners running down to say sorry as if the dog actually bit me in the leg.
Anyway thanks to them i actually got to know the fellas living next door.

@ Omoge, no wonder 50% of the American population has problems with obesity. what a lifestyle! In naija u just could not be fat lai lai! What with all the soccer games and running around the neighborhoood with fellows u barely even knew.

LMAO! yes na "  " _{nahhhhhhhhhh! in the BK} 



you may be right you know  prolly the china-man  just had a good brain wave when i was passing by.when i was growing up in Nigeria you dare not pass by your neighbor outside his house without saying hello to him or her

try that here, and see the rxns you are going to get


@imani no mind me jare, am sure they've got colorful names for 9jan peeps too 
you are right about missing Nigeria oh! Nobody to impress and oppress you about Greetings 

@david you need to change oh!

get Un-americanized fast!    "    "

I think a lot of people moving to the UK live in large towns and cities and yes, they can be very unfriendly places.

If you lived in a village or a small town then you'd find it much friendlier and with much more of a community feeling. I don't know all my neighbours but I know some of them. We do help each other out. The lock on my front door broke recently and I couldn't get back into my house and I ended up with 4 of my neighbours all trying to help me.

On the other hand, my Nigerian boyfriend says it's nice to live somewhere where people don't feel they can interfere in your life all the time! 

kai, what kind of environment is that o, eyin people? its indeed hard for nigerians who are generally easy going and sociable. when i came to yankee, i came with the attitude to make as many friends as possible, starting with the people around me i.e. neighbours. right? but na lie, everybody go just tight face just do their own bidness. it has even made me keep to myself o, see me see trouble. i don't want to end up with one kind psychological/neurotic problem like most of the people here. wetin i for do? hmmm
when you say ordinary hello, its as if you're asking them for their bank account number. them no fit open mouth say hi back. rubbish. western peeps need to losen up, abeg. naija has more problems than then, and we should be the one with social issues, not the other way round.