Your First Sexual Experience

I was traumatised! 

made to insert my tongue into an older girls mouth, those my neighbours were freakymy first contact with porn was also at her behest. 

I need a loving woman to help erase these painful memories, any takers? 

not trying to make her guilty.
Just to be careful when he's around her future kids with his sweetness. Just so they don't have to recount this kind of tale to her and tell her its not rape too.   over here he would have been on the national registered sex offenders list one time!  

i believe she said she was 11. are you kidding me mister!   
until you turn 18 you are off limits to pervs. You wait till some horny toad has sex with your ten or eleven year old and she squeaks and insists that it was consensual . Till then, just spare me!

Oprah will proper say it's because he's a scammer 

well It was in the boys quarters behind the houseI can't remember what happened after (at 8/9 I probably didn't know what an erection was sef)

oh woe is me 

and do you not know that it is possible for a 15 year old boy to rape a girl? Juvenile halls are full of them so its not like he walks away scott free. so what if he's 15? 
A lot of underaged girls insist they were willing participants. A child knows no better. A girl that young should not be messed with. End of discussion!!!

In the first place,the facts don't support rape.I raised her partner's age to put things into perspective.

How do the facts support rape?That is the simple question.You have gone from,"she was only 11" to "many 15 year old have been charged for rape"(actually,few kids,compared to the proportion who are sexually active,are hurled in for rape)

Once again,you have gone down the route of addressing the lady as an "underaged girl".Unless you are referring to her mental capacity,she is actually 21 now and is speaking from her present perspective.You seem to think that her opinion of her actions are irrelevant compared to yours.

that's the point lots of guys cannot understand. They equate consent to mean its ok.
so if a 3 year old asks you for sex and participates willingly then its fine? 

a number of under age girls participate in sexual activity.afterall they are just discovering sex and what it is about. add to that hormones.  often times they are willing to start and go so far. They never really expect to get penetrative sex. They don't know the mechanics of sex .it suprises them. this "willing participant" didnt even understand why he rolled on a rubber.  . Thats the height of ignorance.

This whole incident is past we know but i was just curious as to the stand she took about the whole thing. the guy still hovers about her. she will have kids some day. If he or anyone else for that matter does the exact same thing to her kid will she report to the authorities because she thinks its wrong? Probably not!  . she will probably say  MY KID WAS A WILLING PARTICIPANT.

From the lady's story, she didn't sound like she was raped.  I understand the viewpoint of you two ladies, but I feel she didn't describe the situation there aptly enough.  She said she tried to beak off, he pulled her back, then what?  Did she really try to break off?  As in, force herself out?  Did she scream out to the others for help?  Afterall, there were other people in the house too.  I think her "breaking off" there was as a result of the pain she felt after the guy inserted his__ (read that line again), and not because it was against her will.  From what she described there, she herself was already in the mood, as she was willingly playing along until the painful cherry-popping moment came, which made her want to "break off".  Now if you base your arguments on the age of the girl, then that is another case entirely.  But the whole act narrated by the lady definitely isn't rape, as far as the dictionary and I are concerned.

Oh,please,shut up.Her story won't pass the reasonable doubt test in any country,never mind Nigeria where I presume the incident happened . Stop being hysterical.


Her lack of consent had to be in continuum.First,she consented to sexual contact,then she dissented,after which she consented,albeit after the fact.Her brief dissent is sandwiched in between her continued acquiescence.

To establish rape,you can't have the "victim" saying yes and no and yes.To hold otherwise will be utterly ridiculous,many people change their mind during sex and then change  it again.

 

All that is besides the point.Rape is a legal concept.The argument started because of Spoilt's fatuous assertion that the 15 year old will end up on the sex offender's register if in America-utter nonsense.A majority of under aged  kids are sexually active and how many of them end up on the sex offender's list?

Its important that the 15 year old was  also aware that the 11 year old didn't want to have sex in order to establish rape.Otherwise there wouldn't be any mental element(mens rea) to his act. Quite frankly,this case won't make it pass any jury with half-a-brain.

Your own worse pass  If a 3 year old and a 6 or 7 year old had sexual contact(which actually does happen),what happens? Apart from Planet Spoilt,where else do you know where 2 underaged kids are hurled before the law for sexual contact which other.

If one of the partners was above age,we had this discussion before in regard to Akon,like I noted then,it will obviously be totally irrelevant if the underaged kid consented. Except of course,the 2 partners here are underaged
Quick Googling of Gabrielle Union's rape revealed the Mother of all irrelevance.


How relevant is the above to the story in this thread?

Your "reasoned" opinion does not constitute the legal definition of rape.Age doesn't matter in rape?  A bit like saying numbers don't matter in Mathematics.

Rape is not what you think it is,rape is what the statutes book define as rape(in the present case,Nigeria's criminal code)

There are a lot of things I or you might like to criminalise,but wanting a certain behavior to be criminal doesn't make it criminal.That will be veering from hysteria to delusion.     

Hi Guys, my was OK. but my last was the best.
i cried after he stoped i did not want to let go.

Wouldn't that technically be sexual assault?    If he stopped and you tried to keep him in there,you will be acting against his will.Flip the gender and it sounds worse.

You are effectively advocating sexual assault.Sounds ridiculous? Not as much as  the shouts of rape only a while ago 

It's amazing how far people would go for my attention. It's only flattering 40% of the time. This isnt one of those times.

is your argument that because they are both underaged he didnt rape her?   
then you must not have heard of the teenage boys a while back who raped a young girl in a school bathroom. they were underaged too but they got dealt with. there are laws even for underaged 'criminals'. they might not go to prison but there's always juvenile hall.

And yeah keep going on and on about all the underaged kids having sex, and nothing being done about it. They apparently  have parents like you who hinge on the daft 'consent theory' and do nothing! add to that that their parents never even know they are having sex!    .

i'm sure the original poster did not go and chirp to her mum that she had sex with a fifteen year old and she asked  for it. Heaven for fall for that compound. I don't know which mother or father (except you of course!) that would not do something.

The law makes having sex with an underaged girl a crime not because underaged girls don't have sexual feelings (we all know they feel the stirrings) but because the pregnancies, stds and trauma that MAY come with it is beyond what they can deal with at such a tender age.