Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)

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ovince (m)
Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« on: June 15, 2007, 12:25 PM »

Hi evryone,

This is a common question, but I believe it needs to be addressed because i had a personal experience. Here's my story.

I met this girl in camp, far north, we talked and i felt we had a lot in common.We became close and were most times in the company of one another. On the last day of the orientation,I told her how i felt about her. She actually said she felt the same way too. After the posting, we lost contact for a little while. We finally got talking again when she came home for the 2wks break. She gave me directions to visit her in her place of pry assignment ,of which i did. She was glad 2 see me and really hosted me well. All this while she didnt know my age, but i knew she was 2yrs older than I was. But that did not deter me. I called her every single day during the christmas break, sent her txt messages, telling her how much she meant to me. Finally on the 31st of December,2006, I wanted to know my stand, so I asked her out. She was hessitant at first, asked me my age, I told her, Asked me if I was aware she was older than I was, I said yes and i dont think it means a thing as long as u love the person, of which she agreed, then she asked me "if I had plans for her", I told her I did but the reality of those plans depended on the both of us though she expressed fears that her mother would object her dating or marrying a younger guy.
After the holidays we lost touch because there was no service at her place. A month later, I rmb we were having our clearance and i was seriously ill, she sent me a txt reading: "Sorry, I think it we should just be friends, I'm really sorry".
 Cry
The reason I got to know later was because I was younger than her and her mother would totally object. Since then I still de search.

Please I need your responses
angel101 (f)
Re: Would You Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #1 on: June 15, 2007, 12:29 PM »

well, i dont think its about age. it should be about maturity. believe me i have met really old guys who are just so unbelievably immature. i used to have the same views as your girl until i actually dated a younger guy (2uears younger) and i never fro a minute felt older than him cos he was so mature in his ways even sometimes annoyingly so. on the other hand though, i guess it depends on how many years and how both parties look physically. i dont want to end up with a guy who looks like my son!  Grin
ovince (m)
Re: Would You Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #2 on: June 15, 2007, 01:56 PM »

Thanks angel101, not bragging, I know I'm mature and many girls have said that, But whats d big FUSS about this age thing. I just dont understand.  Huh
beauti (f)
Re: Would You Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #3 on: June 15, 2007, 08:12 PM »

Hmm, it's a bit tricky, I'm older than my partner. I'm living in fear he will leave me for a younger woman. He reassures me he loves me. He treats me so well,but, will he still love me tomorrow when the wrinkles starts to show? I'm ten years older than him. We love each other so much, my family love him.
iice (f)
Re: Would You Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Respons
« #4 on: June 16, 2007, 04:40 PM »

Hmmm, maturity is what is important to me not really the age.  Some people can be immature at an older age, others can be mature at a young age.  So long as the gap is not too much i could date one.  If na like 8 years gap, chaiiii that one go hard oo!
bubblegum (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #5 on: November 04, 2009, 07:17 PM »

hell no!!!
Spyker
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #6 on: November 04, 2009, 07:49 PM »

You met a good and sincere girl, i have also had this experience. I met a girl, she was my course met then in the Uni and we became friends and started dating in 300 level.
well, after two years of relationship, i realized she was older than me but one and half years. Though i thought i was older than her by six months, she hid her true age until i came across her birth certificate in her house. I was furious, she was my first date and i have indirectly presented her to my family.
To cut the long story shut, we broke up and she is married now and has a son for a guy that is older than her with five years. She still calls me and has apologized for hiding her age since i was actually all that she wants.
Moyola (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #7 on: November 04, 2009, 08:04 PM »

@ topic: Naa!

Quote from: bubblegum on November 04, 2009, 07:17 PM
hell no!!!

Heaven no nko?! Tongue
bubblegum (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #8 on: November 05, 2009, 08:25 AM »

Quote from: Moyola on November 04, 2009, 08:04 PM
@ topic: Naa!

Heaven no nko?! Tongue
hell no plus heaven no
lol
Gabry (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #9 on: November 05, 2009, 08:27 AM »

My aunt is 5 years older than her husband so I guess for me its ok.
OYINBOGOJU
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #10 on: November 05, 2009, 10:48 AM »

gabry which part of asia are you?
adefash (m)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #11 on: November 05, 2009, 11:14 AM »

I can date and marry a lady older than i am provided it doesnt tell on our physical appearance.the age difference should not be much.
The guy who want to kill himself because of older lady becarefull.you may not no how much you love a gal untill you start sleeping together i tell you.most of us guys mistake sexual urge for love.the two are different.ladies will want to play safe.
first study her character before you can assure her of love.it will be heart breaking if after you have had a round of sex or two with her and wasted her time you now say you no longer have interest.this goes a long way to affect their emotion and indirectly affects the nation.so lets treat ladies well because they are mothers of the nation.GBAM!
kemisuga (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #12 on: November 05, 2009, 11:19 AM »

 no
debest1 (m)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #13 on: November 05, 2009, 11:21 AM »

Quote from: kemisuga on November 05, 2009, 11:19 AM
no
aha u cant just say no, what r the mitigating factors  Grin
coolier (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #14 on: November 05, 2009, 11:28 AM »

YES.

Quote from: ovince on June 15, 2007, 12:25 PM
All this while she didnt know my age, but i knew she was 2yrs older than I was.

Only 2years!? You're still in the same age bracket.
nethacker (m)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #15 on: November 05, 2009, 11:51 AM »

i hate it wen ladies use dat age of a thing as a yardstick to choosing a guy.  Angry Angry Angry
Godmother (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #16 on: November 05, 2009, 12:14 PM »

For me it a no. I would never be able ro trully respect a guy Im older than
beingme (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #17 on: November 05, 2009, 12:34 PM »

age is no excuse as long as there's maturity and good sense in what u are doing - younger or older
Gabry (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #18 on: November 05, 2009, 02:24 PM »

Quote from: OYINBOGOJU on November 05, 2009, 10:48 AM
gabry which part of asia are you?


Malaysia
Dr. Lorenz (m)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #19 on: November 06, 2009, 06:32 PM »

@OP

It depends on the girl as you've seen from the posts. A couple of years back, i met a girl who became my friend later on. On a certain day, i asked her if she could go out with a guy or even get married to a guy she's older than. She said she could only if he can act like he was older. The answer really surprised me, and i respected her for it.

Quote from: debest1 on November 05, 2009, 11:21 AM
aha u cant just say no, what r the mitigating factors  Grin

Typical debest1  Grin. What's goan? I thought you were supposed to send me your email addy.  Angry

Quote from: iice on June 16, 2007, 04:40 PM
Hmmm, maturity is what is important to me not really the age.  Some people can be immature at an older age, others can be mature at a young age.  So long as the gap is not too much i could date one.  If na like 8 years gap, chaiiii that one go hard oo!

Twice you've surprised me today. Are you sure this is not a cloned iice?  Grin Grin

iice (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #20 on: November 06, 2009, 06:34 PM »

Surprised you how? Tongue

So you know me enough for me to surprise you then Grin
Dr. Lorenz (m)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #21 on: November 06, 2009, 07:09 PM »

Surprised me by your comments. When am expecting a normal hard response from you, you go ahead and give a very mild one  Grin. Like in this case, i never thought that'd be your feelings  Cheesy

I don't know you enough. . .am still learning  Wink
iice (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #22 on: November 06, 2009, 07:11 PM »

Hahaha, i can be occasionally mellow Wink
Yeah well, like you mentioned, i do see things from different perspectives.
Dr. Lorenz (m)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #23 on: November 06, 2009, 07:31 PM »

Really? Well that;s nice to hear cus u can be real sweet when you're mellow, ya know that?  Grin

So u remembered that one? Wow! I'm speechless  Wink
iice (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #24 on: November 07, 2009, 02:23 PM »

Ughhh i don't do sweet Tongue
Dr. Lorenz (m)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #25 on: November 07, 2009, 02:39 PM »

Yes yes i know. What i was tryna say is, u could be, but you'd rather not, cus why? U're afraid to be for reasons known to you so u prefer to be a real hard a** b*ch!  Huh
iice (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #26 on: November 07, 2009, 02:41 PM »

Rofl. . .oh well can't say i didn't expect that Cheesy

Nothing more to add then. . .people will always draw their own conclusions, so i don't even bother Cheesy
Dr. Lorenz (m)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #27 on: November 07, 2009, 02:55 PM »

Na everything you dey expect?  Grin

Don't you think people draw their own conclusions from the impressions you give them.

I'm sure you get some sort of satisfaction when they've shown their innermost suspicions  Grin Grin
sweetliet
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #28 on: November 07, 2009, 03:00 PM »

@post

i date someone im older dan or younger dan depends on d persons maturity.
iice (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #29 on: November 07, 2009, 03:48 PM »

Quote from: Dr. Lorenz on November 07, 2009, 02:55 PM
Na everything you dey expect?  Grin

Don't you think people draw their own conclusions from the impressions you give them.

I'm sure you get some sort of satisfaction when they've shown their innermost suspicions  Grin Grin

Yes ooo. . people are predictable, some more so than others Wink

Hehehehe the conclusions is what i'm after in a way. . .it reveals how narrow-minded or conventional people are. . .not to mention humdrum cognitive skills Cheesy Cool
wildrose
Contd
« #30 on: November 07, 2009, 04:02 PM »

Am lyk 2months older than my bf n i tease him about it all the time but i still give him d respect he deserves, its no big deal
whitesturd (f)
Re: Would U Date Or Marry A Guy Younger Than You ? (ladies I Need your Response)
« #31 on: November 07, 2009, 04:23 PM »

NEI NEI NEI (no in HINDU LANGUAGE)  REASON-I am quite young mysef,cant imagine dating sum1 younger cos i kud be naughty and stubborn atimes,need sum1 to put me in order.wdnt want sum1 younger to do that.i ve always dated guys 3-5 yrs older than i am.
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